If I'm unhappy in my relationship, why do I feel more miserable over the prospect of ending it?
Dear Unhappily Committed,
The same reason most people stay in relationships longer than they should. They are afraid to be alone. It's very likely that you feel that you might not find another relationship or honestly, even that you're worthy of having a good one. If perhaps you felt more self-worth, you would not only know that you are deserving of being happy, but you'd also realize that being alone doesn't have to mean being lonely. That's a huge thing for a lot of people to truly understand.
You survived before this relationship and you will afterwards as well. My advice to you is to let it go. Once you release what it is that is holding you back, all areas of your life will suddenly improve! Think about if you had a child. What sort of advice would you give to them? I'm pretty sure you would tell them to get out of the relationship and do what makes them happy. Why wouldn't you nurture yourself the same way?
If nothing above I said helps you, just think about this. You're miserable now, so what's the worst that happens if you end it? You're still miserable! At least by doing it you have the chance to make your life better! Go for it! You deserve the very best in life and this is not doing it for you.
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