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Ex-Gay Controversy: You Don't Need Permission to Change

By Thom Hunter, published on Jul 24, 2012

...here is "change." Obviously, some changes are inevitable despite us and some changes are achievable because of us. Some are desirable and some are not. Some we run screaming from in darkest dread and others we dash into with our arms open wide, laughing joyfully.The "controversy" surrounding ex-gay ministries in recent months distresses me because it calls into question the definition of "change" as it relates to a person -- man or woman -- who desires, based on Christian faith, to leave homosexuality behind; to change. Yes, there are other major arguments being played out upon the... (more)

Tags: religion, christianity, gay, parenting, love, relationships, culture, homosexuality, lust, lgbt, ex-gay, pornography addiction, exodus international

The Line Between Almost and Always

By Thom Hunter, published on Apr 7, 2012

Then Jesus came to them and said, “All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.” – Matthew 28:18-21

While I don’t comprehend fully why some things happen, and some don’t, I do believe God is always with me, even in those moments when the grey claims the day, and the bleak overwhelms the week, just as much as on the days where... (more)

Tags: gay, love, relationships, god, homosexuality, Forgiveness, faith, salvation, christian, grace, lgbt, ex-gay, jesus christ, resurrection, easter, scripture

Dear Christian: You're Scaring Them To Death

By Thom Hunter, published on Mar 23, 2012

Sometimes the distances between what people know of you . . . and what they think of you . . . and what you know of yourself . . . and what you think of yourself . . . and what is true of all of this knowledge and all of these thoughts when sifted out seems as vast as the entire universe. I wonder if God didn't just create all the stars and solar systems for a practice run, knowing that the humans-to-come would be much more difficult to put into motion and save from colliding.

We don't orbit well.

We want to be the center of our own universe; we choose carefully who gets into... (more)

Tags: religion, gay, lesbian, sex, marriage, love, relationships, pornography, abuse, faith, christian, addiction, lgbt, ex-gay, church discipline

What Do the Gay People in Your Church Look Like?

By Thom Hunter, published on Mar 17, 2012

What do the gay people in your church look like? Do you spot them by their flamboyant clothing . . . their mannerisms . . . their declarations?

When a brother or sister in your church came to you to ask you for your help and support in their personal struggle against homosexuality . . . what did you do to walk with them? How did you respond the last time this happened to you?

“Oh . . . we don’t have that problem in our church,” you say?

If you are a typical church, you do.

Statistics show that one out of every five church members has a family member or close friend... (more)

Tags: religion, gay, lesbian, parenting, marriage, love, relationships, homosexuality, abuse, faith, grace, addiction, lgbt, ex-gay, bisexual, church discipline, exodus international

Remember Who You Are

By Thom Hunter, published on Feb 22, 2012

God is not human, that he should lie,

not a human being, that he should change his mind.

Does he speak and then not act?

Does he promise and not fulfill?

-- Numbers 23:19

Flee.

Run.

Hide.

Seek.

Turn.

Emerge.

Rinse and repeat?

For too many people, life has become an extended game of playground freeze tag. There they stand, scattered around like trees in winter, fixed and flash-frozen either as they have been proclaimed to be by someone more righteous, or as they in their brokenness project themselves to be,... (more)

Tags: christianity, gay, relationships, homosexuality, faith, self-improvement, sexuality, ex-gay

Spiritual Abuse: Darkness You Can Feel

By Thom Hunter, published on Feb 3, 2012

"Some think to call a terrorist a terrorist is too harsh; Jack the Ripper a criminal worthy of death too un-redemptive, and this letter to you lacking love. For the naive, when you have crossed their path they will be wiser, and I pray for their protection."

-- Ronnie W. Rogers,

Pastor of Trinity Baptist Church, Norman, Oklahoma,

December 9, 2009

When I was a little boy in the days after my father left us, I did my best to follow my older brother wherever he went, at least in his pre-motorcycle days when all it took was tennis shoes and determined stalking. We lived... (more)

Tags: religion, gay, parenting, relationships, women, homosexuality, inspiration, abuse, men, faith, church, spirituality, sexuality, ex-gay, pornography addiction, spiritual abuse

And Still We Try to Reason Why

By Thom Hunter, published on Jan 29, 2012

It’s okay to question why.

It’s okay to even cry.

Don’t ever hesitate to try.

God will answer; He won’t lie.

There’s no answer He won’t know.

There’s no place He will not go.

There’s no path He will not show.

God will answer; He loves you so.

No question lies within your mind.

That God cannot in love unwind.

That’s how we’ve all been so designed.

To seek from Him what we can’t find.

In His answers lies our peace.

In His words, we find release.

Our search can end, our troubles cease.

It all... (more)

Tags: gay, parenting, love, relationships, growth, homosexuality, pornography, faith, sin, sexuality, ex-gay, christian discipline, grace. marriage

What Should We Do About Doubt?

By Thom Hunter, published on Jan 11, 2012

Lord, I crawled across the barrenness to you with my empty cup uncertain in asking for any small drop of refreshment. If only I had known you better, I'd have come running with a bucket. -- Nancy Spielberg

I doubt if there is anyone who does not on occasion doubt. At least himself. I know the illustration: we don’t think about whether a chair is going to hold us up; we just sit. But I also know that sometimes we just miss the chair altogether and we’re on the floor in pain and it is just there: a chair. A mocking chair.

Rather than admit to doubt, some of us parade in false... (more)

Tags: religion, gay, marriage, family, health, relationships, pornography, faith, christian, sexuality, ex-gay, glbt

Why We Shouldn't Argue About Sex

By Thom Hunter, published on Jan 5, 2012

“Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?” Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.” -- Matthew 22:36-40

Christians do few things worse than share the love of Christ and the reality of healing and forgiveness with the sexually-disses among us. That would be the disoriented, the disappointed, the disturbed and the roundly discussed and often... (more)

Tags: religion, christianity, jesus, gay, sex, marriage, love, relationships, god, homosexuality, addiction, ex-gay, pornography addiction, glbt

The Endless Odyssey of Grace

By Thom Hunter, published on Dec 29, 2011

I will always be one who looks back. Out of my past, with all its levels of conjured contentedness concealed between cushions of deceit, I draw my emotion. In the losses, I find my determination. In the pain, I uncover energy to search for the truth of healing. In the regret, I discover grace. Out of the stupidity of ill-conceived actions and words, I hunger for wisdom. In the layers of the past, I see the unfolding of the future.

On some days, it is as if I am still stuck back there; on others it is as if I never was. Such is an Odyssey of Grace, a clumsy reconciling of sin and shame... (more)

Tags: religion, jesus, gay, parenting, marriage, relationships, divorce, homosexuality, abuse, Forgiveness, faith, christian, addiction, ex-gay

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