Father and Son

Dear Shari...

My main desire was to re-connect with my dad after almost 3 decades of very limited contact. Our relationship was pretty much dead and this letter was an attempt to work back into a hopefully good relationship.

This letter backfired and now we don’t speak at all. When he got it, he didn’t respond for six weeks, which stressed me out in a big way. Then, I sent him an e-mail that said “Your silence is deafening.”He called back immediately and over the next 90 minutes, he ripped me a whole new orifice. Since then, we’ve been sending cards to each other during... (more)

Tags: baseball, fathers, relationships, dodgers, padres, shari alyse, sharing with shari, dashboard confessions

Walking in Memphis

Whenever something tragic or devastating happens in the world, it's such a beautiful sight to watch human beings come together to help one another from the pure place of our hearts. No expectations or anything. With the recent Hurricane along the east coast and with the 9/11 anniversary approaching around the corner, it got me thinking about how connected we are and how, if we just allowed our humanity side to show up a bit more often, we probably would be living in a much gentler and kinder world. This has also been a tough week on me, both physically and emotionally. My grandmother... (more)

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Buried Alive

Dear Shari...

I often see you speak about believing that things are going to work out for the best and we need to change our thoughts in order to change our lives but my question is: How can I get there? I'm shut up in my room at night very depressed. I feel all I get are scrapes and nothing really good ever happens?

--Trapped in my Mind

Dear Trapped in my Mind,

Well first let me give you a hug. A virtual one of course. Listen, I know life isn't easy sometimes and we all have things that seem like they are being thrown at us that are unfair. If I could rewind time... (more)

Tags: advice, shari alyse, sharing with shari, depressed, dashboard confessions, self-love, trapped, helpless

Go Ahead...I Dare You!

When was the last time you looked at yourself in the mirror? I’m not speaking about as you’re brushing your teeth, or putting on make-up ladies or even brushing your chest hair (obviously Borat is reading this). I mean really looked at yourself. Sat down in front of a mirror and really looked into your eyes. Looked at the reflection staring back at yourself while no television, radio, computer or anything else is distracting you. That’s what I thought.

So many of us are living unconsciously. We are going through life doing what we “have” to do and just getting by. Then we wonder why... (more)

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Dear Shari...

Dear Shari...

I love your Facebook group http://www.facebook.com/groups/sharingwithshari/ and youtube videos http://www.youtube.com/sharig74 and in a few you said that the "old Shari would have done this.." What made you change perspective? Did this positive change changed everything in your life?

--Looking for Guidance

Dear Looking for Guidance,

The truth of the matter is, I got tired of being tired. I got tired of finding myself in the same circumstances all the time. I got tired of repeating the same patterns and then blaming everyone and everything else. All... (more)

Tags: love, oprah, Positivity, advice, shari alyse, sharing with shari, dashboard confessions

I’m Doing Me!

I was taking a walk to Starbucks yesterday to get my “minky winky” (That’s what my boyfriend has nicknamed my green - tea -soy -latte -no - sweetner –extra- matcha drink. Yes, I’m aware that I’m “that girl”, however, I try to be really silly about it with the barista knowing that I’m being really annoying. They laugh. At me probably, but whatever.) when I walked by this guy wearing a t-shirt that said “I’m doing me!”. I chuckled inside (after I rolled my eyes) because when people usually say that phrase, it’s more than likely a rebellious statement because they have gotten hurt by someone... (more)

Tags: starbucks, oprah winfrey, advice, shari alyse, sharing with shari, self-esteem, dashboard confessions, self-love, bitterness, healthy relationships

Negative Nancy Won't Stop!

Dear Shari...

I find myself a pretty patient person and even one that genuinely likes to help people, but this co-worker of mine is testing my patience and sanity. Every single day, and it never fails, he is complaining about something at work. Even when things seem to be going fine, he will find something to whine about. At first, I was really patient and even tried helping he and giving he advice but it seems no matter what, he will always have something negative to say. I've even pointed that out to he as well and he will be fine for a bit and then it starts all over again. I like... (more)

Tags: advice, shari alyse, sharing with shari, workplace, negativity, dashboard confessions, complaining

Falling in Love in Only 5,475 Days

It was my junior year of college right before Thanksgiving and all I could think about was how many days were left before Christmas vacation when I’d be back home to see my new fiancé. Well, all up until 5am one morning when I awoke from an awful dream. I sat up in my bed, called my mother and told my mom, “I think (insert name) is cheating on me.” Now, if you knew (insert name) and I, you would know that he would’ve never been the one cheating. Everyone, including me, thought that this man would’ve done anything for me and straying would be the last thing I or anyone else would’ve ever considered.... (more)

Tags: relationships, dating, oprah, cheating, shari alyse, sharing with shari, self love, courting

I Think I Can!

Dear Shari...

I recently saw you post on Facebook a status in regards to being "open to the blessings in your life" so that you will be able to receive them and my question is, HOW!? Also, once you achieve getting to that place, how do you stop yourself from slipping back into that place of negativity?

--Desperate for More

Dear Desperate for More,

It starts simply with changing your thoughts. That's really the key to any sort of happiness in your life. If you are always filled with dread and waiting for the other shoe to drop, you're always going to encounter... (more)

Tags: oprah, Positivity, advice, shari alyse, sharing with shari, blessings, abundance

Taking Back Our Rightful Roles!

When we were kids, our parents used to entrust us with our friends parents at sleepovers, with the neighbors when they needed to run some errands, and with our teachers, coaches and religious leaders when they would send us off to school or other activities. This has all since changed. We no longer deem adult/child relationships/friendships as appropriate. We somehow perceive them as unhealthy and morally wrong. When did developing and forming these relationships with children become an unacceptable thing? I personally think when we realized that there are people out there who do not... (more)

Tags: oprah, children, shari alyse, sharing with shari, discipline, role models, mentors