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Why your childless girl friends are worth their weight in gold.

By Annabelle Charbit, published on Dec 4, 2012

That's right, most of us new moms ditch those single gals, whose priorities are now so different from ours. But in spite of the radical lifestyle differences, accompanied by the misconception that we must run headlong into the nearest circle of new moms, it won't be long before we learn that our childless friends still have so much to offer...After two years as a mom, it has finally dawned on me that my interactions with mom friends is at best frustrating (at worst hurtful), whilst interactions with childless friends continues to be satisfying. With childless friends we can finish... (more)

Tags: friendship, society, friends, people, new mom, best friend, bff, toddler, over parenting, overparenting, neurotic mom

Is this really the new definition of friendship?

By Annabelle Charbit, published on Oct 7, 2012

I grew up in a world where you supported your friends no matter what, and the only grounds for dumping a friend was if they were unpleasant directly to YOU.

Nowadays, it seems the rules of friendship have changed. You can be friends with someone for years, yet God help you if you make a bad personal decision that has absolutely no impact on them at all. Because you are liable to be judged and then dumped! I have been dumped by a friend who disapproved of my high chocolate diet, deemed too selfish by another who disagreed with my point of view in an argument with my husband. Yet another... (more)

Tags: judgment, friendship, society, culture, friends, people, best friend, bff

Bad mother, useless human being

By Annabelle Charbit, published on Aug 25, 2012

They take their babies to swimming classes - I would rather torch myself alive than bring one live skin cell into contact with a public pool changing room. They do baby yoga - I never even mastered adult yoga, what on God's good earth would make baby yoga seem anything less than torture?

When I see parents in parks, I wonder whether I take mine out enough. When my friend's one year old knows sign language, I ask myself whether I should sit on the floor for hours teaching my baby tricks like a circus animal. When the pediatrician presents a list of milestones that my daughter should... (more)

Tags: parenting, bad mother, bad parent

Five quick tips to tell if you are suffering from OCD

By Annabelle Charbit, published on Aug 25, 2012

Persons then engage in repetitive behaviors (compulsions) in an attempt to rid themselves of the obsessive thoughts and calm the anxiety. If you suffer from obsessive compulsive disorder, then the chances are you will relate to most of the following points:

1) Are your thoughts persistent and repetitive, going round and round in your head like a song? My hands are dirty, my hands are dirty, are my hands dirty, maybe they aren't, maybe a little, ok I'll wash them again just to be sure. 2) Do you feel you have to repetitively perform behaviors in order to quiet your thoughts? Count... (more)

Tags: psychology, mental health, anxiety, ocd, anxiety disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder

10 Things not to say to a new mom

By Annabelle Charbit, published on May 18, 2012

Everyone is smiling and celebrating this new life. Well, everyone that is except certain individuals, who for reasons known only to themselves, are incapable of being supportive and can’t resist saying the most insensitive things. Why these people feel compelled to steer away from the customary, “what a cutie,” “well done new mum,” and “is there anything you need?” remains a mystery. But they do. And more often than not, we’ve all had to endure at least one such person. So here are ten asinine comments that no new mom wants to hear: 1) "You look so well and relaxed." Actually I've lost... (more)

Tags: new mom, new mum, tired mom, things not to say to new mom

What not to say to someone with OCD

By Annabelle Charbit, published on May 11, 2012

People say the darnedest things. And sometimes they say the most insensitive things. Whilst it’s great that obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) has received enough media attention that it’s no longer a dirty secret, it is obvious that many people still fail to understand the true severity of this anxiety disorder. When people say things like “I’m so OCD about that,” what they don’t get is that were they really suffering from OCD they would be trapped in an endless cycle of intrusive thoughts and anxiety, held hostage by their own minds, and often barely able to function in their lives. So... (more)

Tags: anxiety, ocd, anxiety disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder, dating and ocd, dating tips. dating with obsessive compulsive disorder

Dangers of Getting Set Up on a Blind Date

By Annabelle Charbit, published on Apr 20, 2012

Even the most well intentioned friend or family member may accidentally introduce you to someone dangerous. After all how well do our friends and family know the object of the set up? If they knew them oh so well, then chances are we’d probably know them too. This is why it is advisable to treat every date with caution, whether it is someone you picked up in a bar or someone introduced to you by your mum.

The novel, A Life Lived Ridiculously, is a prime example of how a setup from a trusted source can go horribly wrong, after Maxine’s parents inadvertently set her up with a... (more)

Tags: dating, sociopath, dating a sociopath, blind date, blind date dangers, con artist, dating a con artist

How to date someone who has obsessive compulsive disorder

By Annabelle Charbit, published on Mar 10, 2012

If that special someone in your life happens to have OCD, take heart. Many OCD sufferers manage to lead normal (or crazy and normal) lives, which includes marriage, children and career. Just because a person has OCD, does not mean that they cannot be a huge asset to your life and make an excellent partner and parent. So here are some tips on how to treat your special someone and have a wonderful life regardless of their OCD:1) Never say, “why can’t you just snap out of it?!” The answer is no they can’t snap out of it, any more than a diabetic can snap out of being unable to produce insulin.... (more)

Tags: anxiety, ocd, anxiety disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder, dating and ocd, dating tips. dating with obsessive compulsive disorder

How to admit you have OCD, without embarrassing yourself

By Annabelle Charbit, published on Mar 10, 2012

Fortunately today, OCD is well recognized, so most people have heard of it. However, without personally experiencing the horror of OCD symptoms, it’s unlikely that others will understand the serious grip that OCD has on a person. This is only made worse if your particular set of symptoms falls in the embarrassing end of the spectrum, like the woman who avoided seeking help for twenty-four years because she was too embarrassed to reveal she thought she had semen on her hands. To add insult to embarrassment, gathering the courage to describe your OCD symptoms out loud can be a huge anti-climax.... (more)

Tags: anxiety, ocd, anxiety disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder, dating and ocd, dating tips. dating with obsessive compulsive disorder

Ten ways to spot a sociopath (aka con-artist) on your first

By Annabelle Charbit, published on Jan 14, 2012

There are people in the world who don't care about love, and who feel no remorse, empathy or emotional attachment to others. They don't even know what these feeling are. These people are called sociopaths. Most people think of a sociopath as a deranged serial killer, but, with 4% of the population having the character traits of a sociopath, most sociopaths never physically harm anyone. Sociopaths do however ruin lives, empty bank accounts, and cause untold emotional trauma, using simply the fact that they don't care.

WHAT MAKES A SOCIOPATH?

The Absence of Feelings: Sociopaths... (more)

Tags: dating, valentines day, sociopath, psychopath, bad date

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