I have tried very hard to avoid this topic. But today I'm quite heated and therefore cannot control my urge to vent. First and foremost, I am NOT a religious person. I believe in a higher power, most of you have a name for this higher power. For simplicity's sake, lets call this higher power God. I have tried over the years to find decent people who are involved with some religion and have failed....MISERABLY. Therefore, I have nothing positive to say about the topic. Except it means well, but fails miserable at its intentions. Hence the statement, "Religion is flawed because man is flawed."
Take this case: My ex-husband, whom for the most part I think is a wonderful person. A good person, with a good heart. Responsible, etc, etc, etc. (yes, I'm suppopsed to hate my ex, but I don't) Well, he decides to tell my little 6 year old that God flooded the earth because people had gone bad. They were doing bad things. Of course my little girl wants to know what kind of bad things were they doing. Of all the things he could have said, he chooses to take this opportunity and use something he disagrees with in my life and use it as an example. So he tells her...you're not supposed to have someone sleep in your bed until your married. (Remember now everyone, this is the man who had an affair with my brother's wife when we were married.) So this morning, my little 6 year old comes to me concerned about her mothers soul, worried I'm going to be in trouble with God, because my boyfriend and I are not married and yet sleep in the same bed.
In my opinion, he USED religion to try and make me look bad in her eyes.
How about this statement he made to her. Divorce is frowned upon in God's eyes. When you marry, your'e supposed to marry for the rest of your life. Daddy didn't want a divorce, your Mom did. Again, reminder.....he had an affair with my brothers wife..and well a few others as well...but I'm pretty sure being faithful wasn't discussed, as it shouldn't have been.
Again, USING religion to try and make me the bad guy.
Now, lets discuss this one shall we. Religion teaches us not to pass judgement. To open our hearts and be accepting of one another. To influence in a positive way. Yet, I have found that they force their views on you, craming them down your throat and if you don't buy into it or agree, well then, you're a "bad" person. The most cold hearted people I know are also the most religious people I know....my ex in-laws. How do you refuse to allow a child to be considered a part of your family because she wasn't your son's biological child...and then let her know this? And then exclude her from anything considered "family" only?
For many, they choose what they will follow and what they won't. Hhhmm, I know many religious people who cheat on their taxes, on their spouse, gamble, drink, pass judgement on others, lie, are selfish, and greedy. Display behaviors like jealousy and envy. But guess what? They go to church and confess their sins so its okay. Right...sure. Oh and if it's too sinful...they hide it! Or say I've changed. I made a mistake, I'm not that person anymore. WHATEVER! What a scape goat you have made religion.
Don't get me wrong, please. I believe religion means well.....but considering man is the one who has to promote it....thats when all hell breaks loose....literally. Religion would be fine if people just stayed out of it and stopped contradicting their own teachings.