"They are tossed to drunken heights, only to be brought down into a sludge of headachy despair; their arrogance gives way to humiliation at the next curve of the switchback." —Patrick White
It is easy to lose sight of oneself as the most powerful person in one's life. Reinforced by the masses and the media, we forget our power to create our lives and control our emotions.
After years of thinking and living this way, one becomes a feather in the wind.
When things are good they feel exuberant, invincible and can even become self-aggrandizing or haughty. On the ego's winds of superiority they soar.
When life turns or appears to go badly, they feel vulnerable, victimized, terrified or angry. They blame others or situations for their state.
Stability comes from knowing your power to control your mind and choosing the emotional middle path.
Instead of becoming overexcited and ecstatic when something wonderful happens, accept it as a part of life and look for ways to turn your fortune into another person's good. Resist thoughts of superiority and separation. Remain human, connected, and One with all that is. Stay steady, pleased, but steady.
When something upsetting occurs remind yourself that you control your mind. It is almost impossible to recognize or conceive of good solutions when you are emotionally distraught. Choose not to give over to emotional turmoil. The vast majority of troubles are not as bad as you think. Even the worst appearances bear gifts you cannot immediately recognize. At times like these, you must build and reinforce your mental constitution. You are enough to handle whatever you face. Practice equanimity.
Strength is the child of emotional stability.
When one stops allowing the external to dictate one's inner state, budding strength is born. The experience of remaining still through ups and downs and never being shaken from one's direction and sense of self, nurtures strength.
In time, one discovers oneself as strong, timeless, content and undisturbed regardless of conditions.
Stay on the middle path.