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Guys With No Game, Please Revise Your Strategy

by Ms. Jenny Lee (writer), San Francisco, March 07, 2007

So I've received a few messages from this guy via myspace:
----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: James
Date: Nov 29, 2006 8:49 AM

When someone asks you, A penny for your thoughts, and you put your two cents in, what happens to the other penny? How are you today? James

----NO RESPONSE FROM MS. JENNY LEE----

----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: James
Date: Dec 4, 2006 3:28 PM

Why is the alphabet in that order? Is it because of that song? The guy who wrote that song wrote everything. How are you doing? James

------NO RESPONSE FROM MS. JENNY LEE------

----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: James
Date: Jan 18, 2007 9:32 PM

I have two very rare photographs.
One is a picture of Houdini locking his keys in his car.
The other is a photograph of Norman Rockwell beating up a child.
I thought it'll make you smile. How are you doing? James

FINALLY I SAY SOMETHING...

----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: Ms. Jenny Lee
Date: Jan 19, 2007 7:44 AM


james.... i don't know if you just copy and paste random things to say but you've already sent me messages twice and i don't find them funny nor intellectually stimulating. please take me off of your email list. thanks

----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: James
Date: Jan 19, 2007 8:02 AM

cool...just delete me, block me and move on. it that simple.

----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: Ms. Jenny Lee
Date: Jan 19, 2007 8:52 AM


i don't want to have to keep doing that. it wastes my time and annoys me...it's like receiving spam mail. get it. thanks.

----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: James
Date: Jan 19, 2007 12:31 PM


well sweety. im not going to promise you anything other then you will never get an email from me if you block me.

----------------------------------End of Correspondence-----

STOP BEING AN ANNOYING ASS MORON AND DON'T CALL ME SWEETY!! YOU'RE PATRONIZING ME AND IN NO POSITION TO DICTATE WHAT I SHOULD DO. WHY SHOULD I CATER TO AN EGOCENTRIC PRICK WHO THINKS HE HAS SOME RIGHT TO DEMAND I TAKE MY TIME TO FIGURE OUT HOW TO BLOCK PEOPLE AND THEN PROCEED TO DO SO?!? Of course I can do that. It'd only take a few seconds...but that's not the point! Why do I have to be the one wasting my time putting a myspace restraining order on your ass when all you have to do is leave me the hell alone?

Stop trying to sell me a product I neither want nor need!!! My lack of a response should speak volumes of my disinterest.

Here's what I mean when I say I don't want nor need his product:

Consider how it would feel if someone approached you and kept trying to sell you a diet book or a magic potion to make your face look better. Wouldn't you initially be offended because this would imply that he thought you needed it? And then would it further irritate you if he insisted you listen to what he had to say when you already KNOW you aren't interested? It's not like I have anything at all against his product. I just know what I want and that isn't it. There is a difference between a salesman who knows what he is doing and one who doesn't.

Successful smart salesman will select a product he believes in. Because you can't keep selling a product that doesn't work or isn't as great as what was promised. People will eventually find out its true value.

He will think about his product and develop a target--a specific population he thinks could use or easily be persuaded to want his product.

After setting some limits for himself, he starts to study the product and target. He has to know exactly why his product is good for the target and he has to be effective and concise at presenting those benefits to the target. You only get one chance at a first impression and he knows it. That's not to say he won't try again if he fails the first time. He knows timing is also key and if one day the timing isn't going his way, he doesn't let himself be discouraged or offended.

The metaphor, guys, is this. When you're dating and want a girl to invest her time in you, you've got to know how to sell. When you try to sell yourself you should know yourself and be truthful. That way, you know what you can do and you won't disappoint the girl who chooses you because she knows exactly what she is getting.

Understand that you, as a product, will only be of interest to the girls who want or need what you have to offer. When girls say they are out of your league....it's just an ignorant and bitchy way of saying "you're not what I want or need." Knowing this, if you want a high quality girl to take interest in you.... you have to be a high quality guy. You should assess yourself. Know your strengths and build on them. Know your weaknesses and fix them. As you improve yourself [the product], so will you improve the kind of girl you can get

Once you know what kind of girl you are capable of getting for that moment in time (there is no limit so long as you continue to improve yourself), you can set about getting to know who she is and revealing to her that you are just what she wants or needs. Be honest and unique to attract her attention. But ultimately, she will decide whether she is interested or not. At least with a game plan, you increase your chances. That is the secret to getting what you want.


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22 comments on Guys With No Game, Please Revise Your Strategy

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By Annonymous on April 14, 2007 at 11:30 am
I dunno. I thought that guy was kind of funny in that pathetic, younger sibling sort of way. Jenny strikes me as the sort of girl that's been told a little too often by her parents that she's pretty. Maybe drives a cabriolet? Maybe doesn't "get" Wes Anderson movies? Maybe a mortgage broker? hmmmm
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By FeloniousMonkey on April 14, 2007 at 11:48 am
Whoa! Totally called it! HAHAHHAAHHAH http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendID=48271938 Okay, maybe not a mortgage broker, but pretty damned close. I want to hook her up with my friend Phil Istine.
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By ferris on April 14, 2007 at 12:08 pm
you're gross and give bold girls with personalities and a discerning nature a bad name. your use of expletives on your myspace page is excessive and unladylike. revise YOUR strategy. by the way, fairly certain that none of the men you've addressed this to necessarily need your advice - your exactly the girl they target and most likey score with. slut.
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By Annonymous on June 07, 2007 at 01:53 am
I'm a bit shocked. James offered a quick and easy way out of your dialog and you reacted with a psychotic rant. How can you possibly think he was anything but a slight annoyance (and hardly anything but average as a guy). You went on and on about him as crazy. You are the one who is crazy. See a good therapist.
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By Annonymous on June 07, 2007 at 01:57 am
Just a complete idiot. Calm down and spend a couple minutes examining what you have said. Nobody wants men to be sexist or mean You have been both here.
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By Defenestrator on June 07, 2007 at 02:14 am
it's amazing how you indict yourself. Do you have no self-respect? The dialog you have published makes it clear that James is just a normal guy who didn't do anything wrong, and that somehow you like to see young men with interest in young women as evil where does that come from? he is just a normal guy with a reasonable sense of humor and a normal curiousity about the opposite sex. you have a list of the guilty without a list of what constitutes crime. Sounds like a lot of other dictators I have heard of. Good for you. We are all so impressed with you, Ms. Jenny Lee, of San Francisco. We are looking for your diligently, and wondering what new nuggets of wisdom you will drop in our paths.
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By Ms. Jenny Lee on June 26, 2007 at 09:44 pm
Are all you nay-sayers generation Baby Boomers and Xers? In other words, are you a bunch of old guys? I'm just wondering, since a lot of my peers seem to find this article FUNNY. Maybe dry humor isn't cutting it with you folks...so I'll rant elsewhere. And James does not have a reasonable sense of humor. True, I picked on him for being just a little dimwitted... but please don't make him out to be NORMAL. LATER HATERS!!!!!! Kiss my bootilicious ASS!!!
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By Ms. Jenny Lee on June 26, 2007 at 10:04 pm
A Little Bit About James (Just so we're clear he's not normal): 37 year old from Carmel, CA who has 43 myspace friends, all (but 6) who are 20 year old or younger females. James as he describes himself: "I am truly the down to earth kind of guy. What you see is what you get. I'm financially secure, confident, professional and physically fit. I have many friends and would like to meet a female that can enjoy the same time as I. I work at an Engineering firm which allows me a good deal of free time. I love to travel and even road trips. I enjoy spending my time laughing and being happy. Well, I believe in the soul, one man with one women, the small of a woman's back, the hanging curve ball, high fiber, good scotch, that the novels of Susan Sontag are self-indulgent, overrated crap. I believe Lee Harvey Oswald acted alone. I believe there ought to be a constitutional amendment outlawing Astroturf and the designated hitter. I believe in the sweet spot, opening your presents Christmas morning rather than Christmas Eve and I believe in long, slow, deep, soft, wet kisses that last three days." Long, slow, deep, soft, wet kisses that last three days? Gag me with a fucken spoon. I'd rather make out with a 37 year old plunger than a 37 year old weirdo.
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By Cindy on July 06, 2007 at 12:42 pm
I agree with Jenny. What does being a mortgage broker have to do with it?
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By Charles, Jr on July 07, 2007 at 05:39 pm
what''s a mortgage broker?
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By Bill on July 10, 2007 at 02:23 pm
you go Jenny
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By D'Ann Redondo on July 23, 2007 at 08:27 pm
Note to Ms. Jenny, The 37 year old you quoted is quoting from the movie "Bull Durham", starring Kevin Costner. In the movie, "Crash" Davis (Costner) uses that speech on a female character played by Susan Sarandon. In the movie, it works. In real life it doesn't. And in your life, it proves how self-absorbed you are to not understand that nobody writes anything original, ever! Not even Ms. Jenny Lee, future petrie dish, lab experiment, disease carrier. You're not helping anybody's cause, not even your own.
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By Cindy on August 21, 2007 at 12:58 pm
Right On Jenny!!
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By Jaime on August 24, 2007 at 03:48 pm
Jenny's normal. James and a few of the readers aren't.
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By KYLE on October 05, 2007 at 07:07 pm
I agree with Jaime: Jenny's normal. James and a few of the readers aren't.
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By Cindy on October 06, 2007 at 04:05 pm
I also can't say it any better than Jaime: Jenny's normal. James and a few of the readers aren't.
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By Annonymous on October 16, 2007 at 11:12 pm
My husband loved this article! I loved it because Jenny has a mind and uses it.
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By Kent J. on October 30, 2007 at 03:38 pm
Hey Jenny, it's not generational. I liked your article. I caught the humor. Sassy is right on, it's dim-witted readers along the same dim-wit (room temp IQ) as James who totally missed your funniness. Keep writing!
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By Larry-Lauren on October 30, 2007 at 06:50 pm
Jenny, yes, please do keep writing. Especially for those of us with a dry sense of humor who can appreciate it. Ignore those morons who missed your point.
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By Bill on October 30, 2007 at 10:28 pm
Jenny please continue writing. More humor!!
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By Parker on November 02, 2007 at 05:50 pm
Jenny you're way cool.
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By Mark J on November 06, 2007 at 07:26 pm
Very funny article. I'm looking forward to another article from Ms. Jenny Lee.
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