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What Are Friends For?

by 'Mean' Mike Duffau (writer), I'm the boss!, February 10, 2011

Credit: Anonymous
A kid and his best friend.

Eh, no need to explain... I'm sure you'll figure it out.

This is a brief conversation I had with a friend via text message. It wasn't much of a conversation like I expected. The worse mistake a woman does is resort to having a chat on a silly text-message as oppose to the good o' fashion telephone call. I guess to win a gals heart nowadays is subscribe her to a text-message plan on her cell-phone rather than giving her a diamond. Hell, it's cheaper but it'll be the end of a potential verbal conversation.

The conversation is as follows:

Me: R u alive? 1:53p

Dunce: No 4:08p

Me: Why? 4:09p

Dunce: Exhausted 4:11p

Me: Of? 4:12p

Dunce: Work 4:16p

Me: Can I swing by? 4:17p

Dunce: Not tonight 4:20p

Me: Y? 4:20p

Dunce: I won't be home 4:20p

Me: Where ya gonna be? 4:21p

Dunce: Nosey! Max's class & shopping 4:22p

Me: You've been awful distant lately, but ok... I get it 4:24p

Dunce: I've been very busy. Why are you taking it personal? I have been very honest about how hectic my life is 4:25p

Me: I understand... 4:27p


Maybe I have more time to do things compared to other people. It's known to happen and I'm not knocking it. If one is in dire-straits then yes... Their life is hectic. But the average Joe/Jane who has a job or two and supporting a couple of kids, living paycheck to paycheck then no... I'm not buying the hectic excuse.

I'm not bad-off in contrast with the next person, and believe me I have my share of worries. At the same token I can make myself available to meet a friend and have a couple of beers and inform them that I just booked a role in an up-coming short film that will be pitched to major networks on television. The shoot date begins on February 20, 2011.

So with no one to celebrate with, I drove to the causeway which overlooks the bay and watched the sunset.

Jim Morrison said in one of his poems that he prefers 'A feast of friends to the giant family'. What he means by that is simple: He's tired of industry people and wants a solid group of friends where there is no judgement or excuses... No exceptions. I guess I'm tired of the average civilian excuse(s) and must now choose the higher force.

I'm practically friendless as I'm writing this and by no means am I searching for pity. It is what it is... If I can't have a good friend to hang out with every once in a while, then what do I have?

I have gone for days and more of solitude. I know him well. I have gone through lengths of time without saying a paragraph to another soul. In a moment of triumph such as what I shared earlier... Who would I go to for a congratulation?

But through her hectic life-style she finds the opportunity to post on her Facebook: "I need to be wooed. Did you hear me? Wooed".


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By 'Mean' Mike Duffau on February 10, 2011 at 07:20 pm

thanks cher...i really appreciate that...she apparently got that 'wooed' quote from the show, glee.

what my friend pointed out is that life is hectic, but then again they have the time to watch a t.v. and post quots on facebook and etc...thats why i dont buy the hectic life stuff. if i lose a friend because of it? oh well...

i will email you about the film....thanks for your support!

dear cher column? that could lead to something...

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By -YumnaU. on February 11, 2011 at 12:45 am

Surely contradicting. I feel the same way too about the part,

"At the same token I can make myself available to meet a friend"

Sadly, it happens to me too sometimes. And when you tend to be busy and not reply or reply abruptly, the so-called friend never tries to understand but expects you to cope up with everything.

Though, now I am. Or rather say am in the stage of not taking everyone\everything to heart. People who deserve your friendshid WILL take out time for you, no matter how busy they are.

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By 'Mean' Mike Duffau on February 11, 2011 at 11:56 am

yumnaU: thanks for swingin' by. i couldnt agree more...there is always time for a friend, regardless.

Garry: yea, champ...i get that people have lives and all...but when i find out they lie about having a 'hectic' life-style...that bothers me! friends are temporary. its the reality. thanks for the compliment.

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By 'Mean' Mike Duffau on February 11, 2011 at 04:37 pm

ed: you nailed it right on the chin! ive gotten tons of the hollywood brush-offs when i was in cali...and now that im back in florida it mustve carried over. cause its happening all over again with the non-sense.


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