A lot of times those who are looking for a relationship want one so badly they forgo all the necessary steps in trying to find one that will actually last and are just willing to settle for a warm body. Just so long as there is someone there, a lot of singles seem okay with the fact that it's most likely the wrong someone. With a few baby steps though, it can be an even greater success that ends in finding at the very least someone you can be good friends with and have a lasting relationship and quite possibly someone to be in love with.
Step 1 - Look for someone who can fulfill your needs and not your wants. Yes, you might want a successful, athletic, hottie but what you need is something else entirely. What is that you need your partner to fulfill in you and in your life? Is your ultimate goal marriage? Is your ultimate goal children? Is you ultimate goal a life partner? Sort out your needs versus your wants and look for fulfillment of needs.
Step 2 - Make sure you keep in mind how you want the relationship to unfold. Making sure you don't give up your own beliefs and values. Your own goals and needs. Always keep focused on where you want this relationship to go. If you start dating someone and you find that they are not in tune with what you are truly looking for - make the decision early to move on. Don't hold on to something that is not what you want just to have something to hold on to.
Step 3 - Get a close friend involved to help keep you motivated, keep you focused. Share with them exactly what your relationship needs are and what you are looking for in the long term. Let them help keep you on the right track. Motivate you when you must move on. Cheer you when you find the going tough. Everyone needs a little cheerleading from time to time.
Step 4 - Keep yourself open to every possible opportunity to make a new friend. A friend can many times be the pathway to the perfect relationship. Many a successful long term relationship starts from people who are first friends. If you find someone you can share things with. Someone who enjoys a lot of the same things you do. Never pass up an opportunity to make new friends and meet potential life partners. Keep it simple in the beginning. Don't pressure things. Just make friends.
Step 5 - Don't be a control freak. Let things develop along the natural course. Don't force things. Just take each person as they come along, enjoy the first meetings, sort out the want from the need, and always enjoy yourself. Make it fun and keep it light. Just let it flow.
Take the baby steps that can lead you into the lasting relationship you've always needed. For more dating and relationship advice read "Design Your Own Relationship."