I live a simple, meaningful, yet busy life. The way I conduct myself toward others, is something that I do my best to stay aware and on top of. I have been a participator in and a witness to the results of cause and effect. While I do remember (mostly), the instances when I acted impulsively or unwittingly, in a negative way toward someone or some thing, I have repented inwardly, with the hopes I will not lash out or say something unkind again. For the most part, I conduct myself with honor, gentleness, civilly and compassion. This is what I want to touch upon. Civility and compassion, or kindness.
Many people today confuse kindness with weakness. In today's world it is considered "the norm" or "hip", to say the ugliest, most cynical or vulgar things possible. This is in keeping with the objective to draw attention, earn imaginary insult miles, make the biggest impression, have the hugest impact in public, and to prove (although I don't see the point), that someone personifies the "I'm bad" or "don't mess with me attitude". However I feel it goes deeper. Could it be that these mannerisms some adopt are the gear a lot of individuals or groups wear as a protective garment? Could it be they seem mean or intolerant so they themselves will be perceived as being strong? What is it? Are they really so insecure? Did someone do the same thing to them?
"You need to realize that you do hold the power to affect someone's day ... be it positively or adversely."
Go ahead and try it out on someone. Be ugly, rude, harsh, impolite or disrespect them. Watch their face and body language. You'll elicit one of five responses:
** I really don't want you to do this! **
Now try smiling and greeting someone with light in your eyes, a grin on your face, a spring in your step and joy in your heart. You'll elicit one of five responses:
** I really do want you to do this! **
People have learned through the first example, to react in a manner that belies how they really want to act. By us using the second example, we can help heal these individuals, so maybe the next time they will return the smile and say hello. What an easy way to touch another without physical contact. That's powerful.
We can do something to improve someone's day. Just think, yours might be the friendliest voice or smile they hear or see all day long. We as a society have removed ourselves from the congenial role of love, and replaced it with bored cynicism, hate and intolerance. The way we treat others reflects how we feel about ourselves. It is something we can change right now. Decide to find the same joy as the woman in the photograph. See how much of your power you can share with the world and choose to make it a better place.