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Buddha Is My Friend

by Barkha Dhar (writer), , August 08, 2010

Credit: Photo by Barkha Dhar
A piece from my collection

Never did I imagine that the beauty of a dusk face with dainty eyes could ever drive someone away from its ambience and aura.But such was the case with my son who faltered and shuddered.

Having a fascination for aesthetics, I have always adorned the idea of collecting Asian art especially masks and idols of Gautama Buddha. When I bought these I didn’t realize that these rare art pieces could ever scare someone. Never did I imagine that the beauty of a dusk face with dainty eyes and a serene look could ever drive someone away from its ambience and aura. But such was the case with my son who faltered and shuddered each time he was near one.

His aversion was possibly the fear of the unknown and my alarm certainly seemed the concern for the known. In my boy’s candid apprehensions, I realized that he was growing older and more mature than before and hence wanted to stay away from anything that intimidated him. That feeling of my little man being angst of my home décor became more than just a pinch.

Initially I thought of rearranging the accessories to make him comfortable of what he thought was draconian. Later however I felt that refurbishing the room was not the answer. Had I simply left the problem at re-accessorizing, my boy may have lived fearful of something that is one’s sacred strength. It was this feeling that changed into a thought and became the spur for a little mommy and son talk.

To spring a chat with my son has never been a problem. But this one was different. How would a mother share with a tot that Buddha is like the Micky Mouse of enlightenment that cheers us through his benevolent teachings and great wisdom? With titanic strength and taking a long breath in, I said to my son, "how would you feel if you just met a new friend?" For a moment there was complete silence. Perhaps the little guy didn’t know if he actually wanted a friend. But within seconds his sweet little voice said, ‘nice’. So I continued and said "do you know what friends are for?" The little voice said, "to share, to play" and there it was!

The feeling of fear seemed to have gone for a ride. We both went near an idol and started to feel its beauty by just being by its side for few moments. Surprisingly, I saw my son touching the idol. He seemed to feel that neither did the idol have sharp teeth that could bite nor did it have any claws that could clasp. His fear seemed to be changing colors like the hues of rainbow. This sight of composure was a relief. It made us all happy including Buddha to be understood and acquainted with as we should be.

Today when I sometimes catch my son trying to have a kung fu with the idol, it makes me more than happy to see my Lilliput turn into a little Gulliver. I fondly ask him, "son what are you doing"? He says "playing, Buddha is my friend". With those words I just pray, "may Buddha always be his friend."



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By TonyBerkman on August 08, 2010 at 02:42 pm

The wisdom of a mother and the innocence of a child. It's great that you want the Gulliver to come out in him. Many mom's fail to see the importance of developing the masculine in their little ones.

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By Barkha Dhar on August 09, 2010 at 10:26 pm

Thanks Tony for sharing an important feature of parenthood. I feel breaking into a child's fear is the first step to encouraging him or her to be independent.

Barkha Dhar

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By Barkha Dhar on August 09, 2010 at 10:28 pm

Yes Melody so true the world is a scary place for our young ones. But as you rightly said encouragement of a parent is like an inspiration for a child to learn and take a plunge. And yes babies certainly should come with instructions!!(hahaha!!....cool melody)

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By Barkha Dhar on August 09, 2010 at 10:33 pm

Thanks Cher. You are right fear is like the weed that could injure the crop. With children one has to be more cautious so that it does not disturb the fertility of the soil.

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By MUGISHO N.THEOPHILE on August 11, 2010 at 09:43 am

Bharka, this is an enjoyable article. Children are great teacher though some people never care about everything they do as they believe they are children. We learn a lot from them, they are angels. Parents are real inspiration for their offspring. I love this, Barha.

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By MUGISHO N.THEOPHILE on August 11, 2010 at 09:45 am

Cher, nice insight; fear is a great killer, destructor.

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By Barkha Dhar on August 17, 2010 at 02:08 pm

Well said Mugisho most parents today are so involved in other stuff that children and their innocence may sometimes go unnoticed. As parents we have a duty towards our children and their well being.

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