Looking around us, we wonder the reasons why there are two kinds of families: strongly united families and conflicting ones. Cohesive families are often those which are built on the right priorities. Each member in such families puts more interests on the other member’s requests ahead of self. These members spend lots of time with each other and with their children of course. This succeeds since there is willingness to sacrifice for the welfare of the family. When for instance, the spouses or the children need to talk, they are sure they will be given ample room and attention to express themselves. Commitment is one of the realities that connect family members. In cases of contention say, everyone strives to solve it rather than using it as an excuse to abandon the household. When all the members are committed to the coming together of the family, they feel a bit secure and so they become ready to trust the others by honouring the union their family.
Joint work leads all the members of a family to be devoted to consider the family as theirs by avoiding selfish words like ‘this is yours, this is mine’; but rather they use ‘this is ours’. Team work brings hearts together and closer in breaking up self-centredness among the family members. The latter become like driver and conductor on the same bus agenda. Their collaboration is of paramount importance so to coordinate the activities on the bus. This leads to respecting one another in the family because although difference of opinions is unavoidable, discussion in common help avoid household sarcasm.
Reasonabless is another great pillar to solidify family union. This means that allowances should be made to understand each other’s errors. In a well structured family, there should not be unduly rigid or overly permissive behaviors with the members. There must be some regulations guiding them and in case there is need of correction, they apply proper degree for that. Finally, forgiveness must not be neglected in the family since people who live together often offend one another. This should not be a way to keep grudge but rather see jointly how to reunite. In forgiving we do not forget the hurt we got, but we pass it on as to recover unity in the future.