Finding the one is difficult. Ok impossible. But I always operated on the following commonly held assumption: that if you found Mr or Mrs right-enough, it was only a matter of time. Happiness and rainbows for all. But lately, this assumption is taking fire from an unexpected source. My trusty focus group of single female friends is indicating that a surprisingly large number of them are earnestly looking, but too stuck on an ex (often an ancient one) to be truly single. Their bodies and minds may be single, but their heart is still taken.
Making matters worse, the ex gets idealized over time. Eventually nobody, not even the ex, can possibly measure up. It makes me wonder. Is this why "primitive" cultures put so much emphasis on virginity? Is there something about being first, if not in sex then in love, that trumps all else?