RER....classic.

Some people are simply addicted to one another. I have read about this, and even experienced it once before in a previous relationship. Old habits die hard, and there is no bigger habit than love. I've quit smoking, I've quit binge-drinking, I've quit drugs. Breaking up with my toxic relationship was harder than all three of those combined.

On a somewhat related note, I love The Seven Deadly Sins series by Donizetti.

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"Don't drink, don't smoke... what do you do?"

Never mind.  We all know the answer to that.  It's the same as the rest of us.  Hey Groovy Berkeley, how exactly did I inspire you on this one?

I may be dying to know.

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Jen and Tonic, I was thinking of doing one ah ahem on Pride, but after the threats -

Bill, your catchy channelling Inn-RER.

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I wish I had a wimpy streak because then I'd have a lawyer handy.

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JT, yep, definately a RER classic.  Hey, I thought someone from Marin County, California liberal bastion, would be into the self-vaunted "Always act with complete integrity in everything he does" - 2006 Head Butler of The Year saying.  From what I've read here, the spoofs about Marin County like The Serial, and my trips to there, without hesitation I say the most rude, ignorant, selfish, self-centered people and law-breaking are those in Marin County, California.  Long Island had me wondRERing there for awhile but I decided it was an anamoly of one.

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“Mentre che la speranza ha fior del verde” – La Divina Commedia, Purgartio III

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"By their curse none is so lost

that the eternal love cannot return

while hope is yet green."

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Relationship Lessons

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Lili Von Shtupp from Blazing Saddles, I'm tired of men always coming and going, going and coming - and always too soon.”

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This Eagle Electric here is not the brightest bulb in the pack.  I raised holy hell with them when they parked their truck in our driveway (just don’t like those oil leaks on my drive and we can’t get in or out of the garage).  My wife then added to it when they didn’t lay down a tarp, wanted to use our vacuum cleaner (sheetrock and insulation are real bad on residential vacuums, that’s why there are Shop-Vacs, duh), to banging our front door with their ladder.  Their union tech had a big attitude to match his tattoos.

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A little late in reading, but fantastic use of image with this piece.  Love the flip-flop format the most! Nice work.

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Thanks Miss Nelson.  Jesus, Sermon on the Mount, “Give not that which is holy unto the dogs, neither cast ye your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn again and rend you.” 

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My wife had taken to gently chastising me that although I have written quite a bit about this couple, I hadn’t written much about their foibles.  Now wait a minute here.  I have even made fun of them (A List Of Questions I Promise Not To Pose) and definitely exposed his double life (Bigamists Among Us, OlsonL.  Molly replied “yes, and did a good job of it, but what about their imperfections?  Isn’t that another reason you’ve taken such an interest?  Doesn’t it have echoes and shadows of us long ago (I Miss Groovy Berkeley and The Poet Robert Frost??  We made our marriage work.  Don’t you empathize with them?  Don’t you think she still hurts from his abandonment of her (Now you call it madness (but I call it love))?  Especially when he deserted her at a time when she needed him most and was desperately calling out for his help?  Did you know what the biggest childhood contributors to an adult growing up to be an abuser are?  Number One is feeling rejection by one’s father.  Number Two is feeling a lack of warmth from one’s father.  One’s father physically abusing his son is Number Three.  One’s father verbally abusing his son is Number Four.  Number Five is feeling rejected by ones mother.  These boys abused by their fathers grow into men with damaged emotional radar.  I bet this guy’s father abused him.  For her, the rules changed when she found he that he had consistently kept his cross-dressing secret from her because that betrayed the trust in their relationship.”

The most potent force in my adult life is the look of love from my wife.  Psychologist Carl Jung said, “One is always in the dark about one’s own personality.  One needs others to get to know oneself.”

My wife said to me, “Tamara’s hypothesis of cross-dresser’s being dangerous, and why, I found frightening.  It harkens back to the false facade of a “real boy” or “real man.”  For Jim Olson, his secret, that he is a cross-dresser, must be a frightening threat to his false sense of bravado, his mask of masculinity, as any moment his mask could be revealed, exposing his secret and leaving him his shame.  He sought emotional attachment with, and achieved a connection with, his Nevada wife.  Yet, his secret left him feeling threatened, stressed by the gap between his outward persona and his inner feelings, powerless, and finally exposed.  Reads to me like a guy that did not have much experience with the demands of an emotional relationship before his Nevada wife, and took it all out on her.”

Molly then asked me, “what happened to the part of masculinity about taking personal responsibility?  That also defines a good man.  This man is completely responsible for his behavior, regardless of what triggered it.  Obviously, his Nevada wife thought that a better guy lay within him.  She always gave him the benefit of the doubt even when his behavior was hurtful, controlling, manipulative, threatening or abusive.  Instead of being that good man she saw and kept believing in, he kept reducing himself to a stereotype of what a man is.  Plain and simple his feelings were hurt.  Probably by his father.  He’s just a boy that refused to grow up.  So now he has a Hypervigilant Brain.”

That struck a chord with me.  I remembered how my feelings were hurt after the twins were born, and I realized that I wasn’t their father.  Molly was struggling also.  I felt shame, as a man that Molly wasn’t happy without taking into account that Molly hadn’t lied to me about who was the father.  What I saw reflected back to me was Molly’s distress and I felt her distress was an unbearable reminder of my failure as a husband. That triggered my shame as a man.  Molly wasn’t causing my pain.  My unfulfilled expectations were causing my pain.  So what did I do?  I turned on Molly.  I treated her like the messenger of bad news when I saw a me I could not bear reflected back in her eyes.  I became sarcastic.  I did not take responsibility for my moods.

Molly repeatedly tried to relieve my worst unspoken fear, that she no longer loved me.  However, it was not enough.  I refused to look into Molly’s eyes that reflected back to me “You are wonderful,” or see her smile that said “You make me happy” nor let her touch me denying that feeling of absolute delight and profound respect I felt from her.   Now, I only believed, wrongly, that the Molly that once I knew, to the core of my being, deeply validated me, that made me feel alive and worthy, no longer loved me.  I was denying the special power of my wife to validate my self-worth.  I was a male with gaps in my sense of self-worth.  I mistrusted and disrespected my own internal signals and states.  I hated how easily my wife expressed her emotions.  I accused my wife of using my needs against me.  I denied my love for my wife.  I became increasingly sensitized to signals only I perceived that suggested I was unappreciated, unneeded or a failure as a husband in the eyes of my wife.

I saw our marriage unraveling before my eyes. Because I had a low tolerance for difficult and aversive feelings, I did hardly unique human things. I acted stupid, immature and very unmanly.  I withdrew.  I became stoic.  I was cold.  I pouted.  I engaged in passive-aggressive behavior.  I was selfish.  I was a snob.  I was immature.  I was neurotic.  I punished her when she did not follow the script in my head.  I spent more time at work.  I over-interpreted.  I projected blame.  I took everything she did and said personally.  I perceived only the worst in my wife.  I became critical.  I failed to see that my wife was always on my side.  I became abusive.  I was quick to make judgements clouded by my own insecurity.  I over-personalized.  I was hypersensitive.  I over-reacted.  I blamed her.  I stopped giving my wife the benefit of the doubt.  I stopped believing and trusting that she does indeed love me.  I failed to see that my wife has reasons independent of me for a lot of what she does.  That her decisions that affect me are always not intended to affect me.  I choose to believe that I am the victim of her decisions as I complained so anyone and everyone.  I resented the power and control I thought my wife had over me.  I took every look, every comment my wife made, as oppressing me.  I made my wife the enemy.  I believed my wife was no longer my companion on the road of life.  I failed to see that my wife is inevitably flawed, but no more fundamentally flawed than me.  I refused to see that my wife has her own traumatic memories and terrors.

No behaviors fit my image of me as a loving husband but my shame at failure drove me into even worse behavior.  Seeking validation of what I had once envisioned as perfect was no longer so, I bad-mouthed Molly to my parents, co-workers and friends, driving a devastating wedge between them and Molly.  My wife was stunned and hurt when what I was saying got back to her.  My sense of loss grew as I drove Molly further away.  My perception of the smallest sign of withdrawal of affection from my wife tore open old wounds and I lashed out at my wife.  I was in a downward spiral.  I became depressed.  I thought my pain was unbearable. I could not cope with the gnawing emptiness.  I felt driven to do something to escape emotionally, discharge the tension or regain a sense of control and importance.  I was hearing and seeing only my failure with my wife.  Because my emotional disarray left me feeling a sense of incompetence as a man, I sought the wrong way to escape the pain my own reaction was causing me. I triggered a desperate, destructive and dishonorable act.  I turned my negativity on my perceived source of my pain, my wife. I filed for a divorce.

Wrong.  I had not learned to take charge and take responsibility.  Not over others, but over myself.  I failed to turn to my wife and failed to remember why I had fallen in love with my wife and why I had married her.  The result was I had lost my emotional state of well being.  I was diminished by my own human shortcomings.  In the process, I diminished my marriage and my wife.  I had made, and left, my wife feeling hurt, vulnerable, helpless and outraged that she was no longer my equal partner.

There is an immense power in misperceptions.  It happens to the best of us.  I’ve since learned to view those same or similar situations in a different, more benign way.  In becoming less defensive, I got back, and have retained the only woman I have loved, my wife.  Our Special Connection is still there.  I’m now a horse of a different color.  I now choose to respond to the same situations in a far different manner than I use to.  Once I realized the core problem was my interpretation of events, I choose a different interpretation that always starts with giving my wife the benefit of the doubt.  I have learned tolerance and to express my needs in more reasonable, acceptable and effective ways.

“Ok,” Molly said after reading this.  “You developed an emerging set of values that told you the demand for power and revenge for your hurt feelings is a doomed and destructive course.  Previously you perceived a threat and your responsive was instant and explosive.”

I grunted, “Huh?”

She, in that cool direct manner she is so good at, she could have been an Admiral, and said, “It was your hormones honey.”

I stared blankly back.

“You have a security alarm in your brain.  The amygdala.  It’s part of the primitive limbic system.  It depends on your childhood as to how quick to mistrust and how quick to experience alarm one is.  When the amygdala interprets an event violating known rules of safe behavior to you, it goes off putting you into an instant reaction.  Once you decide that I don’t love you, signals travel the expressway to the amygdala, which declares a state of national emergency, martial law and all.  Civil rights and liberties are suspended.  The Usual Suspects are rounded up.  Catecholamines are released giving you a rush of energy.  In other words, the amygdala lights up your whole brain before your neocortex knows what has happened as it was by-passed.   Your brain was emotionally hijacked by your limbic system.  Later you wonder what the hell came over you.  What happened is that you felt threatened either by an immediate perceived threat, or more likely, your brain failed to distinguish between a current event and a past event and saw even the memory of a past event as threatening.  The surge of catecholamines is volatile.  The tension must be discharged or you must cognitively reappraise the situation for the perceived threat.  Or, there is a meltdown.  At that level of aggressive arousal, you become totally unforgiving.  All that matters is revenge and retaliation for the injustice.  It even creates a mania-like sense of grandiosity, power and invulnerability and spirals further into more aggressive behavior.”

“Wow,” I said, “where did you learn all that?”

She very slightly shrugged and a ghost of a smile came to her lips, “I read about it.”

 “And?” I prompted.

“When I knew I was going to Reno to you and the kids, I first read some books on men’s brains.”

My eyes opened wide and I raised my hands for “is there more?”

Molly continued, “a child learns from the interaction with its parents about what crisis is and how it is handled.  That interaction integrates cognitive and emotional through synapses in the orbitofrontal cortex.  That develops the skill of how to get past crummy feelings.  Like abandonment.  It developed emotional resilience for managing disturbing moments and confidence that ruptures in relationships will always lead back to reconnection.  Those that don’t have confidence that ruptures in relationships will always lead back to reconnection have actual discernable deficits of synapses in the orbitofrontal cortex.  These synapses deficits are much more common in men than women.”

I though about that, did some thinking, some digging and focused on Drama Queens.  When provoked, our brains produce norepinephrine.  That produces an analgesic effect.  It kills pain.  For the ultimate cocktail, add the amphetamine-like hormone known as epinephrine.  That’s the surge of energy when provoked.  We get off on the drama.  It lifts us up out of pain, self-doubt and depression.  It’s also addicting.  If you think the worst of your wife, you are more likely to provoke yourself and the norepinephrine/epinephrine cocktail kicks in.  You cross the threshold of neocortical monitoring to limbic rule.  You go on a chemical binge.  Your meaningful thoughts are abandoned for a narrow focus on sensations.  You are not at your best.  More likely, you are at your very worst.

However, it turns out that distraction is the most powerful mood-altering device.  It changes the chemical balance in your brain. Moreover, one of the best distractions is to talk to yourself about the reality of your perceptions.  When you no longer feel threatened/feel the worst about your wife, your amygdala shuts off its internal alarm system.  This is good as threat-based responses sabotage intimacy/marriage.

My wife came over to read this.  She paused, glanced at me, and I saw tears glistening in her eyes, then she walked away.  A little while later she was back.  She sat down and said, “It takes a real hero to behave in a relationship that is profoundly counter-intuitive.  That is a tremendous act of will.”

I grinned and told her, “I had all the motivation in the world.  I loved you, and wanted you to love me.  Recovery from my self-induced chemical binge from thinking the worst of you turned out to be in thousands of everyday small victories that I won then and still strive to win today and will strive to win in all our tomorrows.  The first was that I saw and accepted you as you really are instead of how I wanted you to be.”

My wife kissed me and the rest is none of your business.

Man, I sure like being a gentled man.  No Flip-Flopping here, no siree.

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Look what I just discovered.  The Reno Mrs. Olson is in bankruptcy, and this:

To Whomever It May Concern

I swear under penalty of perjury that the following I true.

I am writing this statement in response to Morgan’s request that I commit to writing the following that Morgan and I have agreed to.

1.                   Our goal is we will be together debt free in Marin for both our retirements.

2.                    For now, Morgan will continue living in Reno.

3.                   I will continue living in Marin, and continue to live with Morgan in Reno approximately every other weekend, summers and holidays until I retire from the school district in what I plan to be Summer 2002, at which point Morgan will move back to Marin in with me.

4.                   With the powers granted in our Nevada Living Trust, I will be responsible finding an appropriate home for us in Marin.

5.                   Morgan has given me money and will continue to give me money so that I can maximize my STRS.

6.                   With the powers granted in our Nevada Living Trust, Morgan will develop a real estate portfolio in Reno with the goal of Morgan buying and managing these properties then Morgan later selling them as Morgan’s further contribution to our retirement.

Signed

James K. Olson

12-7-00

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I had left them out so my wife was again reading the court papers of this Marin County, California James K. “Jim” Olson.  “Craig,” she called out, “did you read this about the steak knives?”  This Marin County, California teacher James K. “Jim” Olson had put a lot of craziness into his numerous court filings but steak knives did not immediately come to my mind.  I replied, “No, but there’s a lot of crazy stuff he’s put in a lot of paperwork.”  My wife continued “Steak knives.  A half dozen of them bought at the San Rafael Good Will thrift store for fifty cents a piece.”   Shaking her head, and saying, “that poor woman,” my wife handed me the paperwork.  I read them.

In the fourth divorce filing from the same wife, this James K. “Jim” Olson’s divorce court papers have that Olson had his happy to be a well-paid scum attorney write an extensive brief to the court for why he should get custody of the community’s steak knives.  This James K. “Jim” Olson’s incredible, lame, dumb, petty argument boiled down to that, his wife is a vegetarian so she doesn’t need steak knives.

I started laughing after reading that.  My wife was still shaking her head.  “This guy is petulant and mentally sick.  He has zero mercy and 100 percent cruelty.  He repeatedly paid a lawyer who was more than happy to take unethically the community's money to write and file this kind of petty garbage into the public records.  He was deliberately and cruelly using the courts to further emotionally abuse his wife.  He keeps recycling the same arguments for why he was divorcing her in all of his four divorce filings, while then turning around and reconciling four times with her.  Marriage to him is not about love, but about control and punishment.”

My wife’s of course right.  This divorce filing with its contemptible and hot-headed demand for custody of the community’s six steak knives worth a total of all of $3.00 was the fourth James K. “Jim” Olson had done from the same wife that he had now reconciled with three times before, and would again in this fourth divorce filing.  By this time, Mr. James K. “Jim” Olson had spent an astonishing more than a $100,000 in attorney fees in these four divorce filings from the same wife.  Cora Lancelle is still a lawyer in Marin County, and she was so correct about this James K. “Jim” Olson when she was poking fun at him in Judge Michael Dufficy’s court in 1995.  “Not surprising” I said.  “This is the guy that according to his own court papers, had deliberately seduced his wife to get her college class schedule and then had her served in her college class for his third divorce filing against her.”

Molly’s eyes teared over, “This Jim Olson has so much willful cruelty.”  My wife then said, “I don’t get why the Marin County School District kept covering up for this dangerous joker.  That would never have happened in my school district.   He would have been immediately and permanently bounced from ever being a teacher back with that 1991 scandal with Cindy, his Dominican College student-teacher.”

I agreed and wondered aloud why Judge Michael Dufficy had allowed the repeated blatant abuse in his court and had not sanctioned Mr. James K. “Jim” Olson and his lawyer.  My wife said, “First, women in Marin County were treated then, and still are, as second-class citizens.  Second, being dishonest and immoral is what Marin County is all about.  This horrible Jim Olson and his hideous lawyer then knew that and successfully exploited that.  Jim Olson has gotten away with debauchery for so long he believes his evil.  His lawyer today, this lying Steven Schoonover, also knows that dishonest and immoral is what Marin County is all about and successfully exploits that.  If you can’t beat them or join them, you get the hell away from them.  I think that’s what Jim Olson’s wife was doing when she left Marin County and moved to Reno.  Because she is honest and moral and above all has compassion for others, most especially for this Jim Olson, I suspect she just wanted the hell away from those that are otherwise.  Isn’t that why we left Marin for Santa Rosa, and then eventually moved to Reno?”

“Man, I Miss Groovy Berkeley,” I said.

“So do I Craig,” Molly wistfully smiled back at me.  “You were a good man then and you are a good man now.  Keep writing the exposes, justice will be served.”

“In my lifetime?” I joked back.

“With the Internet, very likely,” Molly replied as she went back to reading more of Mr. James K. “Jim” Olson and his attorney’s smears and lies of Mr. Olson’s wife.

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“The part about sleeping with her only to get her class schedule to have her served again with divorce papers also sounds sick,” Molly later said.  “What happened there?”

“Sick.  Yep.  After this lovely Marin County Mr. James K. “Jim” Olson had again reconciled, this time after his second divorce filing from her, the still Mrs. James K. “Jim” Olson is still naive and blindly in love, so she thinks everything’s okay.”

My wife interrupted, “No, as I said, it’s because she is honest and moral and above all has compassion for others, most especially for her husband Jim Olson.  Seeing my look, my wife said, “Craig, she always forgave Jim because she always gave him the benefit of the doubt.  That is her nature and Jim repeatedly and successfully used her compassion, her goodness she has, against her.”

“Okay,” I shrugged.  “Mrs. James K. “Jim” Olson was in college full-time at Sonoma State University.  She was commuting from their home in Sausalito to Rohnert Park.  Again, with no warning from this lovely Marin County, California Mr. James K. “Jim” Olson, Jim again hit his wife with a low blow.  She comes home from after a day of school to discover the locks had been changed of their Sausalito home and she was locked out.  Lovely Jim Olson of course was not then home or available.  Scumbag lovely Marin County, California Mr. James K. “Jim” Olson conveniently never was when he was doing his low blows.  Unknown to his loving wife, he had taken their RV, put all her stuff in it, driven it up to Rohnert Park where he rented a place in his name at a RV Park student housing there.  He then leveled the RV, put its utilities in his name, including the phone, and set up a propane and honey wagon service, also in his name.  She later discovers all this.  She’s trying to find out what the hell is going on but he’s not talking to her.”

“Wow, plain sick he is,” my wife said.  “Isn’t that psychopath behavior?”

“Yep.  So, he’s not talking to her.  This goes on for a couple weeks, when suddenly the lovely Marin County, California Mr. James K. “Jim” Olson just shows up at their RV.  He had brought her gifts, was warm, loving, romantic, and then enthusiastically, although insincerely, slept with her.  Afterwards, he asked her about her classes, which she, naively still not suspecting anything so wicked from her husband, eagerly told him everything about.  She then went on to her classes, where he had immediately, once he found out her class schedule while they were in bed, and therefore where she would be, had her served for the third divorce papers in class.  In addition, another restraining order.  The lovely Marin County, California Mr. James K. “Jim” Olson just recycled what he had falsely claimed in his first and second divorce filings from this same wife.”

“That’s cold,” my wife shuddered.

“Pretty mean-spirited, even hypocritical, no doubt about that,” I said.

“So he goes through all this drama again, puts more fantastic lies into the public court records, then reconciles for a third time?” my wife says.

“Yep.  But the lovely Marin County, California Mr. James K. “Jim” Olson doesn’t reconcile for this third time until after he files the false stolen car report with the Twin Cities Police, he gets caught that’s it a false police report he filed, gets told by the Twin Cities Police that it’s a crime to file a false police report, and his wife’s attorney catches him in bed with his wife.  The wife’s attorney dryly and sarcastically points out to Jim that he now has a void restraining order against his wife as he’s at her place again sleeping with her.”

“Craig,” my wife said, changing tact, “remember that Al Pacino film, The Devil’s Advocate?”

“Yeah, the one where the devil runs the most successful law firm in New York City.”

“Yes.  And the one where the Keanu Reeves character knew his client was guilty when the girl he had been accused of sexually abusing was testifying in court and the guy started fondling himself under the table which his lawyer saw and realized then his client was guilty.”

“Yeah?” I said.

Patiently my wife said, “The first time around, the lawyer Keanu Reeves played, in spite of the fact he now knew his client was guilt of sexually abusing a little girl, came back to fully discredit and destroy the little girl, getting his guilty client off scott-free.”

“Yeah,” I said, “ but then, at the end, that lawyer’s then guilty client went on to kill a little girl and stuffed her body in the trunk of his car.”

“Yes.  By then, that lawyer had lost his wife.  Then he has a chance to do it all over again, finding himself back at the original trial of that child predator.  This time, instead of lying and getting his client off, he excused himself as the lawyer, knowing he was going to be disbarred, isn’t that so immoral wrong?  He then never lost his wife.”

“What’s your point?” I asked, as sometimes my wife’s thinking is ahead of me.

“These lawyers Steven T. Schoonover and Michael B. Samuels and John P. Springgate are all Devil’s Advocates.”

“Ah,” I said wisely.  “So you’re saying these lawyers Steven T. Schoonover and Michael B. Samuels and John P. Springgate all essentially sold their souls, their morality, forsaking their ethics, with their lies.  For Steven T. Schoonover and John P. Springgate, it was to win no matter what it took.  Emotionally, mentally and financially destroying Jim Olson’s wife with lies, smears and fraudulent documents, they were willing to do that and anything more to win.  For Steven T. Schoonover and Michael B. Samuels and John P. Springgate, it was also for the money they screwed their clients out of.”

“Yes,” my wife simply replied.

“I totally agree with you.”

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This guy is an abuser.  Abusers abuse because they are insecure and have low self-esteem issues.  Insecure about their height, their penis size, their hair, the love of their wife, etc.  Abusers take their insecurity and low self-esteem issues out on their wife.  What abusers see in their wife is what’s inside THEMSELVES!  I’ve found that men get married the first time because she’s pregnant.  Men get married the second times because he’s in love.  Men get married the third time for security, either money or a Mommy type person.  The third marriage represents a deep desire to abandon the active pursuit of bravado and to become the passive recipient of care, because it goes to the essence of what men secretly harbor beneath their, what they think is a, rugged exterior.

Women need to feel secure and completely safe with their decision to be with the man they’ve chosen to marry. They want to know that their man is committed and not going to change his mind no matter what happens.  It is the man's job to show the woman that he is committed and that there is no reason for doubt in the relationship.  Divorce is not a quick-fix.  A woman doesn't like this kind of approach by a man.

Women are wasting their youth on an undeserving man when he’s insecure and has low-self esteem.  She’s also risking her life with a man who's insecurities have yet to manifest themselves to its full potential.  Although this guy certainly did manifest his full-potential of abuse.  There’s nothing's nice about the progression of this guys weak emotions, insecurity and low-self esteem.  Consciously or unconsciously, wishes-to be pursued rather than pursue, to be the object rather than the subject (of attention), to "be done to," rather than to do-are shared by all men. At the same time, such feelings pose a fundamental threat to men's sense of manliness. Therefore, men must overcompensate by searching for, and always seeking to assume, an ever more masculine stance, like this guy with his repeated divorce filings from the same woman.

Too many men sabotage their own happiness.

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Joan, Molly says she agrees and, “For a guy now convincingly involved in bigamy since 2004, a wife in Reno, Nevada and a wife in Novato, California, I find it ironic that in Jim Olson’s court papers in his second divorce filing from his then only California wife, he accused her in 1992 of bigamy.  I’m surprised Jim Olson’s didn’t try the bigamy accusation again in his third and fourth divorce filings since he recycled all his others that were as equally as wacky.” 

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She, being in love, trustingly spread her dreams under her husband's feet, this Marin County, California James K. "Jim" Olson.  But this Jim Olson, instead of treading softly, inexplicably

He Wishes For the Cloths of Heaven

W.B. Yeats (1865–1939)

HAD I the heavens’ embroidered cloths,

Enwrought with golden and silver light,

The blue and the dim and the dark cloths

Of night and light and the half light,

I would spread the cloths under your feet:

But I, being poor, have only my dreams;

I have spread my dreams under your feet;

Tread softly because you tread on my dreams.

Never trust a person who has never written a love poem.  Even if it was only a bad love poem.

Joan Westin

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El classic

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Ok, although I cite all my sources, and 99% of them are from the public records, since the legal threats, none of which have materialized, I found another site, sadly Broo doesn’t have this ability in its comments to upload jpeg.  This site is where I have been uploading the supporting documents I have found or been provided for each of my exposes.

Of course, www.washoecounty.us/recorder, then go to Online Records Search, then EagleWeb, is still a Groovy Treasure Trove.

http://renomortgagefraudexposes.ning.com/profiles/blogs/flip-floppers-among-us-marin

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Signs you've been a Band Director too long –

1.                              When you don't mind changing clothes on the bus.

2.                              When you like wearing your tuxedo.

3.                              When someone hits a wrong note and you chew them out for an hour.

4.                              When you practice your instrument more than you talk to your wife.

5.                              When your instrument has a name instead of your penis.

6.                              When you remember your instrument's birthday and forget your wife's.

7.                              When you give your instrument a birthday party but not your wife.

8.                              When your uniform fits.

9.                              When black feathers become a fashion "do".

10.                          When you see your band more than you see your wife.

11.                          When you prefer marking time over making love.

12.                          When you'd rather practice than make love with your beautiful wife.

13.                          When you take up ballroom dancing for the music rather than the sex.

14.                          When you do The Flip-Flop.

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lol

Researchers wanted to determine if dogs took on the characteristics of their owners. So they set up an experiment in their lab with three dog owners and their dogs. The first owner was a mathematician, the second a chemist, the third a Band Director. The first dog, owned by the mathematician, was quite impressive, and when thrown a bunch of milk bones onto the floor, used her paws to begin arranging them into elaborate mathematical equations! "Pretty good!" said the researchers, "but not conclusive!" The second dog, owned by the chemist, when thrown a bunch of milk bones on the floor, began to arrange them to display complex chemical formulas! "Not bad!" said the researchers, "but still not conclusive enough!" However, the results of the third dog WERE very convincing in proving that dogs DO take on characteristics of their owners... for the Band Director's dog came late, ate all the bones, made it with the other two dogs, then left early! - Michael Beachwood - Singer-Songwriter-Guitarist - Kula, Maui, Hawaii

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I don't know what James K. Olson’s problem is, but I'll bet it's hard to pronounce.

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Thanks Speedbump!

I want to comment on the fact that BrooWaha Editor DigiDave, who I suspect is really a groovy guy, seems to have gotten scared at and capitulated to alleged threats and complaints he tells me he’s gotten and doesn’t publish me anymore which is why I started my own site @ http://renomortgagefraudexposes.ning.com – which got 181 visits and more than 4,000 page views in its first 30 days.  Here’s what another editor had to say about threats and complaints he gets.

D. Brian Burghart (brianb@newsreview.com) is as good as they get for an editor.  Brian, who has many awards, wrote in the April 30, 2009 Reno News & Review:

“Let me say this clearly: There are all kinds of newspapers, pamphlets and magazines in this area that posture their advertising as articles and stories. We don’t do that. It is never my job, other editors’ jobs or freelance writers’ jobs to promote any business, be it local, big or small. It’s not our job to pretend objectivity or balance or that we can be absolutely comprehensive. It is our job to write about our experiences from our idiosyncratic and independent points of view and to be honest as possible. If we have conflicts of interest, we avoid or disclose them. We write for our readers and nobody else. I don’t know how else to say this: We put out the best newspaper we can with the knowledge and resources we have.”

That position, which I agree with, echoes the Mission Statement of the News & Review, a paper in Sacramento and Chico, California and Reno, Nevada that is highly respected, popular and the recipient of many industry awards.  That Mission Statement is:

“To publish great newspapers that are successful and enduring. To create a quality work environment that encourages employees to grow professionally while respecting personal welfare. To have a positive impact on our communities and make them better places to live.”

I’ve modeled my writings on Brian Burghart and what I’ve read in the Reno News & Review.

So, I’m gonna paraphrase Brian and the News & Review’s Mission Statement here:

Let me say this clearly:  I write my stories to have a positive impact on my community and make it a better place to live.  There are all kinds of newspapers, pamphlets and magazines that posture their advertising as articles and stories. I don’t do that.

I want to publish in great newspapers and blogs that are successful and enduring that create a quality work environment that encourages employees and their freelance writers to grow professionally while respecting personal welfare.

It is never my job, editors’ jobs or other freelance writers’ jobs to promote any business or individual, be it or they local, big or small. It’s not my job to pretend objectivity or balance or that I can be absolutely comprehensive. It is my job to write about my experiences from my idiosyncratic and independent point of view and to be honest as possible. If I have a conflict of interest, I avoid or disclose them.  I write for my readers and nobody else. I don’t know how else to say this: I put out the best stories I can with the knowledge, that I have verified, and resources I have.

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I'm still wondering how John McCain fits in here...? Or is he just another Republican to bash.

I don't know if you realize it but John McCain spent five and a half years being tortured when he could have walked out any time. This is a forign concept to a Liberal but he did it because of his dedication to his country and his personal honor. In short, he did it because he couldn't let people like me down back home, (I was about five).

I can never pay him back for what he did for me but I can stand up for him when some ungreatful leftist piece of shit takes a cheap shot at him.

Dave

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John McCain: Make-Believe Maverick.

Dave I only get offended by things that make sense.  So Dave, you must have gotten your brain very early.  Apparently the warranty has run out on it looking at your use of sic “forign.”  It that your version of delusions of adequacy?   Well, you probably wrote sic “forign” without thinking, the way you do most things I’ve seen here.  I can see your point, coarse and profane that it is.  I just don’t agree with it.  It's not what you say with your profanity, it's the thought behind it that counts, and I know there's never any thought behind anything you’ve written here.  So you just keep on wondering.

But hey, thanks for the page views here!

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Craig B,

Just so you know, I don't agree with some of the things Sen. McCain has supported. However, I do agree with the man. He is a man of high standard and I love and respect him. I don't understand how people like you could bash Sen. McCain as if it is free hunting season on American Heros.

You are a very small and loathsome person.

Dave

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John McCain: Make-Believe Maverick.

Dave I only get offended by things that make sense.  So Dave, you must have gotten your brain very early.  Apparently the warranty has run out on it looking at your use of sic “Heros.”  It that your version of delusions of adequacy?   Well, you probably wrote sic “Heros” without thinking, the way you do most things I’ve seen here.  I can see your point, coarse and profane that it is.  I just don’t agree with it.  It's not what you say with your profanity, it's the thought behind it that counts, and I know there's never any thought behind anything you’ve written here.  So you just keep on not understanding.

But hey, thanks again for the page views here!

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Yes Craig you simple minded destructive man... I didn't need to be directed to your comment because I all ready read it.

Maybe when this country is completely destroyed it will be open season on fools like you.

Dave

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Dave I only get offended by things that make sense.  So Dave, you must have gotten your brain very early.  Apparently the warranty has run out on it looking at your use of sic “all ready."  It that your version of delusions of adequacy?   Well, you probably wrote sic “all ready” without thinking, the way you do most things I’ve seen here.  I can see your point, coarse and profane that it is.  I just don’t agree with it.  It's not what you say with your profanity and threats, it's the thought behind it that counts, and I know there's never any thought behind anything you’ve written here.  So you just keep on not needing.

But hey, thanks again for the page views here!

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Nevada real properties that James “Jim” K. Olson owns or has owned according to the Washoe County, Nevada Recorder’s Office. Yet, James “Jim” K. Olson lied in Reno Nevada testimony and his Reno Nevada and Marin County California court docs that he “has never owned Reno property.”

1. 13870 Mt. Babcock, Reno, NV 89506
2. 5254 Echo Avenue, Reno, NV 89506
3. 5242 Echo Avenue, Reno, NV 89506
4. 14101 Stead Blvd., Reno, NV 89506
5. 9515 Autumn Leaf Way, Reno, NV 89506
6. 9450 Autumn Leaf Way, Reno, NV 89506
7. 12260 Camel Rock Dr, Reno, NV 89506
8. 3281 Platte River Court, Reno, NV 89503

Nevada properties that James “Jim” K. Olson has had homeowners and/or landlord’s insurance on according to Farmers Insurance documents and Annette G. Teixeira agent, 775-884-1021. Insurance policies that James “Jim” K. Olson obtained as the primary insured or as a landlord AND certified that The Reno Mrs. Olson was his wife.

1. 13870 Mt. Babcock, Reno, NV 89506
2. 5254 Echo Avenue, Reno, NV 89506
3. 5242 Echo Avenue, Reno, NV 89506
4. 14101 Stead Blvd., Reno, NV 89506

I got all this info off the Internet, Farmers Insurance, and or public records, specifically Washoe County, Nevada Recorder’s Office, Marin County, California courts FL 070653 and CV070655 public records, and Reno, Nevada courts FV07-00748 and DV07-00352 public records.

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A Law Unto Themselves
Nevada's Judge Roy Bean Justice System

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Lord knows Jim Olson owed his wife Morgan Olson more than a couple favors.  Among so many wonderful things Morgan Olson did, she taught Jim Olson how to dress, talk, act, eat, dance, groom, decorate, socialize, and love.  What Jim Olson failed to learn from Morgan Olson was forgiveness, mercy and compassion although she kept giving all of them to him over and over.  So heartbreaking and disappointing Jim Olson turned out to be just another cheatin’ and shallow You’re So Vain.

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BTW, I’m the one that took most of those photos of Jim and Morgan Olson at Ballantine’s Ballroom that are posted at Reno Exposes.

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I took those photos of Jim and Morgan Olson at Ballantine’s Ballroom from July 1996 through September 2006 that are now posted at Reno Exposes.  Morgan Olson had them proudly posted on her work website.  I presume that’s where this author got them before she got ill and had her breakdown, and her website, like her and Jim Olson, disappeared.  I didn’t know all this had happened until I just discovered this, here of all places which then led me to Reno Exposes.

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Reminds me of the movie Love me if you dare.  Are you game?  By that I mean it’s just a game to him.  A game he just kept upping the ante on.  You know, he’s daring her to keep loving him no matter what he does.

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Carmen, interesting, I'll have to see that Love me if you dare.  Are you game? .  You might be interested in White.  Please see my  Film Review: Polish Director Krzysztof Kieslowski's White at Reno Exposes.

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Marga, that is indeed where I got the photos I have posted at Reno Exposes.  I would like to speak with you for whatever you can fill in for me that I might have missed.  You’re another witness I’ve just discovered along with a neighbor, Alberto Rios. 

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RENO LAWYER JILL K. WHITBECK HAS THE CD OF THE TESTIMONY OF FOUR WITNESSES AS TO JAMES K. OLSON CLAIM TO EACH OF THEM OF HIS HUSBAND TO THE RENO MRS. OLSON, AND THE RENO JUDGE STATING SHE DID NOT FIND MR. JAMES K. OLSON’S TESTIMONY CREDIBLE.

1. Paul Hogan, James “Jim” K. ”Kenneth” Olson and The Reno Mrs. Olson’s Reno mechanic since 1997.
2. Sherry Proske, James “Jim” K. ”Kenneth” Olson and The Reno Mrs. Olson’s Reno clerk at Greater Nevada Credit Union for five years.
3. Josh Neel, James “Jim” K. ”Kenneth” Olson and The Reno Mrs. Olson’s Reno tenant.
4. Clara Stamulis, The Reno Mrs. Olson’s Reno client.

So Marga here, and neighbor Alberto Rios now make six local witnesses to James “Jim” K. ”Kenneth” Olson's perjury.

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Craig, I am now interested in White.  That's quite a movie review.  Did you forget about your Roger with Eagle Electric sees FlipRER Jim with Mrs. Olson happily together at their Reno home, further invalidating FlopRER Jim’s now known to be fraudulently obtained default ro.

1. Paul Hogan, James “Jim” K. ”Kenneth” Olson and The Reno Mrs. Olson’s Reno mechanic since 1997.
2. Sherry Proske, James “Jim” K. ”Kenneth” Olson and The Reno Mrs. Olson’s Reno clerk at Greater Nevada Credit Union for five years.
3. Josh Neel, James “Jim” K. ”Kenneth” Olson and The Reno Mrs. Olson’s Reno tenant.
4. Clara Stamulis, The Reno Mrs. Olson’s Reno client.

So Marga here, and neighbor Alberto Rios now make seven local witnesses to James “Jim” K. ”Kenneth” Olson's perjury.

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Court records show Nevada Republican Gov. Jim Gibbons remains locked in a bitter fight to end his 21-year marriage to Dawn Gibbons.  Nevada Republican Gov. Jim Gibbons’s divorce proceedings have dragged into an 18th month.  Judge Frances Doherty is the Gibbons’ judge.  Judge Frances Doherty is the lazy or incompetent judge that threw out the Reno Mrs. Olson’s divorce when the Gibbons’s divorce appeared.  Good luck Dawn Gibbons getting a fair trial from this lazy or incompetent Judge Frances Doherty.

Californicating Nevada - How Nevada Gets The California Boot.

In my research, I found that the Reno Mrs. Olson is not compulsive, delusional or obsessive. Rather what I found is puzzling, saddening and infuriating that law and justice are arbitrary, changeable, susceptible to the lies and deceit of lawyers and the whims of the judges, defined by mere commercial expediency. Surely the world is ran by higher priorities than deceit and whims and California’s commerce?

Surely it not. Why should anybody be allowed to retain obsolete fashion? Truth and justice must go. They went. California’s commerce and conversance must be served. Lawyers and judges are whores.

The Reno Mrs. Olson protested mightily. But there is a war on, don’t you know? Mr. James “Jim” K. Olson’s War. Mr. Olson’s War to impose silence, destruction, death and annihilation on his Reno Mrs. Olson. Mr. Olson’s conflict is desperate. Evidence for the justification for Mr. Olson’s War is non-existent, but anything can be put over by deceitful smug lawyers when there is a lazy, corrupt, unpatriotic or incompetent judge.

You listening Nevadan Judge Frances Doherty and Carol Cook? Judge Frances Doherty and Carol Cook are the lazy, corrupt, unpatriotic or incompetent Reno Californicated judges that both threw a Nevada citizen to the California whores and under the wheels of the California bus (DV 07-00352 and FV 07-00748). Let’s see if Reno Nevadan Judge Brent Adams or Judge Greg W. Zive are as lazy, corrupt, unpatriotic or incompetent Californicators (CV 08-01067 and BK 08-51146). You listening Nevadan Judge Brent Adams? You listening Nevadan Judge Greg W. Zive? You listening Nevadans Judge Frances Doherty and Carol Cook?

With great amusement do I point out that Mr. James “Jim” K. Olson hides his bigamy, Reno Nevada homeowners and landlord’s insurance, Nevada Trust, Reno Nevada ownership of house, etc. under his hairshirt. Mr. James “Jim” K. Olson emphasizes his lie he’s an innocent victim rather than the truth. Jim Olson and his Marin County, California lawyer buddies, Steven T. Schoonover and Michael B. Samuels victimized the Reno Mrs. Olson, forging her into a twisted bogeyman. Mr. James “Jim” K. Olson’s California lawyer buddies, Steven T. Schoonover and Michael B. Samuels, kept whipping the disobedient Reno Mrs. Olson into judicial line when she failed to follow their orders to just shut up and go quietly away.

If Jim Olson’s California lawyer buddies, Steven T. Schoonover and Michael B. Samuels could convince the California courts to forcibly alter the truth would it also not compel their attack on a Nevada citizen, which the Reno Mrs. Olson was and is. You bet your life, reputation, sanity and finances it would. By now, Nevada’s wrinkled crones and cowlick hillbillies were not allowed to play in the California courts. Nevadans and the rest of America are just supposed to have been thoroughly Californicated. Is it not only desirable by Californians, but inevitable, that those who do not come in will be left out in the cold?

I beg to differ. Come now, it’s really not all that chilly here in Nevada. Here in Nevada we still believe that the power of the legislator and judge is limited over the will and action of the people. Lessons anyone? The God of Californication is never sated is he? You listening Nevadan Judge Brent Adams? You listening Nevadan Judge Greg W. Zive? You listening Nevadans Judge Frances Doherty and Carol Cook? You listening Nevadans Judges Steve Elliott and Fidel Salcedo (enablers of Mortgage Fraudster Californian Californicator Keith W. Gledhill)?

I remind Nevadan Judge Brent Adams, Nevadan Judge Greg W. Zive, Nevadans Judge Frances Doherty and Carol Cook, and Nevadans Judge Steve Elliott and Fidel Salcedo that there is only one policy and law compatible with a healthy Nevada family life. That is one of non-intervention from California and California residents who see our fine state of Nevada as a bunch only populated by the lazy, corrupt, unpatriotic or incompetent who cannot govern or try Nevada’s own that Nevada has to demand that California do so for Nevada.

Wrong. I despise California’s vulgar, home-wrecking and even attempted murderous intrusions in Nevada. It’s even more despicable when a Nevada hating lazy or incompetent Reno Judge, Frances Doherty, demands California courts judge Nevada citizens such as James “Jim” K. Olson and his Reno wife. Nevada Judges Brent Adams and Greg W. Zive, prove you are smarter and more patriotic of your home state of Nevada. Don’t let James “Jim” K. Olson Californicate you as he did Nevadan haters Judge Frances Doherty and Carol Cook. Or how Mortgage Fraudster California Keith W. Gledhill Californicated Nevada haters Reno Judges Steve Elliott and Fidel Salcedo. Nevadans Judge Frances Doherty and Carol Cook, go back and prove you are smarter and more patriotic of your home state of Nevada. Don’t let James “Jim” K. Olson and his Nevada hating lawyers John P. Springgate and Bridget Robb Californicate you anymore.

The Internet has become a common ground for sharing viewpoints, both pro and con. As more people are tuned in to the electronic age it has become increasingly more difficult for the bad practices of any business, no matter how remote or small their marketplace is, to continue without being noticed, as has been the case until now. People of all levels and of experience have begun to share their opinions concerning the various pluses and minuses of various businesses and people. Many businesses and people are not coming out well in these news group discussions.

To me, gloating promoters of the Information Age all too often forget that knowledge has always been about connecting people and their behaviors, not just in collecting information. There has been and continues to be a democratic demand for more relevancy and currency in people’s and organization’s behaviors, and to holding people and organizations accountable for their conduct.

I believe that the Internet, the servant to a Knowledge Economy, is the true democratic voice of facts and free speech beliefs. Using the Internet to do a search is simply a reversion to the search of any life for credentials and integrity of another’s life.

Most have access to a computer. Public schools and libraries have free public computer access and training. Most can now instantly post previously hidden facts and their free speech opinions, and access others’ post of previously hidden, even deliberately suppressed, facts and free speech opinions. Happenings and ideology that previously would never have been disseminated are now readily found with a simple Google search. A Google search is just a search for credentials and integrity.

The result is that individuals and organizations are suddenly finding their previously hidden illegal, corrupt, lazy, or immoral behaviors, and their secrets, avarice, cravings, or even mistakes, suddenly and rightfully very publicly front and center on the Internet. Integrity, or its’ lack, is immediately exposed in a simple Google search.

Harmful behaviors that once were self-servingly known then to be ephemeral, and smugly relied on by the licentious perpetuators to be such, are now instantly available for analysis and judgment in the permanence the of the Internet. In response, evil raises its specious clamor when it finds itself suddenly and rightfully in the expose spotlight of the Internet. Once exposed, evil then aggressively applies its Unclean Hands to spurious ridicule and makes heavy-handed, manipulative intentionally damaging legal threats of, or illegally pursues, defamation to brutally and wrongly silence the dissemination of facts and muzzle free speech beliefs. The Internet though, has rightfully, quietly and powerfully abdicated the corrupt in its’ contemptuous and former commanding amoral influence in silencing facts and free speech beliefs.

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I found this on the Internet: http://www.scsr.nevada.edu/~alexa110/pdf/about.pdf

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Having been through the agonizing Flip Flop myself, and finally successfully overcame it, what are the ingredients of a long-term, loving relationship? Psychologists at the University of Texas in Austin have been looking at the subject for more than a decade, following 168 couples who were married in 1981. What they're finding is that idealization of a kind can keep people happily married. "Usually, this is a matter of one person putting good spin on the partner, seeing the partner as more responsive than he or she really is," said Ted Huston, the study's lead investigator. "People who do that tend to stay in relationships longer than those who can't or don't."

But the findings are mixed. Huston's research also has identified three paths through early courtship: fast and passionate, slow and rocky, and in-between. The fast-track group, about 25% of the total, usually were interdependent within weeks, tended to ignore or forget their initial problems and were committed to marriage within several months. By contrast, the slow-motion group took an average of two years to reach a commitment, spending up to six painstaking months in each stage.

Yet when it came to success at the 13-year mark, the tortoises won out. "The more boring and deliberate the courtship, the better the prospects for a long marriage, I'm afraid," he said. "People who had very intense, Hollywood-type romances at the beginning were likely to have a big drop-off later on, and this often changed their view of the other's character."

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Neither Jim nor Morgan Olson ever struck me as quitters.  Instead, I say that miracles happen to those who believe in them.  Jim and Morgan Olson certainly did based on what's written here.  Believe in miracles and miracles happen.  So don’t quit.  Don’t ever quit.  These flip flops of Jim Olson’s are exactly that.  Not quitting in the long run.  Although quite a bit of quitting in the short term from Jim Olson here isn’t there? 

I just saw for years here in Reno from July 1996 through September 2006 two people that are in love.  The rest of this is not at all what I saw in Jim and Morgan Olson and I am very saddened and dismayed by it.  When things go wrong, as they sometimes will, when the road you’re trudging seems all uphill, remember the pealing wedding bells and why you got married.  When funds are low and debts are high, and you want to smile, but you have to sigh, remember the pealing wedding bells and why you got married.  .  When care is pressing you down a bit, rest if you must, but don’t you quit.   Remember the pealing wedding bells and why you got married. 

Life is strange with its twists and turns as every one of us sometimes learns.  Many a failure turns about when one surely had won had they stuck it out as proven here time and time again by Jim and Morgan Olson’s behavior in Reno where all I saw from July 1996 to September 2006 when I knew Jim and Morgan Olson in Reno was a happily married couple.  So, don’t give up though the pace seems slow.  You will succeed with another blow.  Love is worth any price.

Success is failure turned inside out, the silver tint of the clouds of doubt.  One can never tell how close you are.  It is near when it seems so far.  So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit.  It’s when things seem worst that one must not quit.

Craig, I bet that miracles, their love for each other and their marriage to each other are not a one of them over for Jim and Morgan Olson.

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Marga, you actually know them, or did know them personally.  I've just seen the court records and various docs and spoken with people such as you for basing my opinions on.  Your point about

"Craig, I bet that miracles, their love for each other and their marriage to each other are not a one of them over for Jim and Morgan Olson."

reminds me of the situation in the film Mr. & Mrs. Smith, a film that far exceeded my expectations.

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Dave ROL, I just can't figure how you can be doing this such advanced theoretical thinking and still be stuck here in our little Broo.

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Still can't get the wife to get her own Broo account. Marriage is very often like herding cats. So I’m channeling Molly here. Tom Lewis’ quip about “previous marriages” got her really wound up. My wife says:

"Pray then that this war James K. Olson, friend, traitor, hero, failure, started is swiftly completed and the pandemonium around that he created is reduced. There is no safety in James K. Olson’s position, or in neutrality or in attacks. Understand this and understand it well. All those that do not openly support her may be rightfully considered her enemies. There are rules, there are laws and there is virtue. When provoked or betrayed, people inevitably find ways around them.

A true and good husband, lover or best friend understands such things and more, such as the consequences of decisions, and is always prepared to avoid such situations. Doing the right thing, and when one discovers one made an error, quickly rectifying that error, is what good people do. Good people inevitably will always do the right thing. Provoked or betrayed people learn to act rather than wait, and they learn to survive. Empires rise and fall in centuries, stars burn for billions of years, but nothing is quite so enduring as the hurt of betrayal. The weather changes, friends come and go, but the hurt from betrayal endures.

Former friends make the most bloodthirsty enemies. Former lovers even more so. Who is in a better position to know how to inflict the greatest pain? Jim Olson’s misusing her love and the law to inflict such horrific collateral damage is unpardonable.

A man that colors his hair sometimes appears stronger, and sometimes, merely vain. A man that watches himself dance in a mirror never appears masculine or even heroic, just merely vain.

James K. Olson is a willing participant in the betrayal of his wife and the destruction of their life. That sickens me, as I am not a woman of absolutes. Alas, James K. Olson is better suited to inspire dirges and laments. Life shapes life. Unfortunately, James K. Olson is now all carnage and no love or honor. No matter. I cannot imagine it will endure. The tyrant James K. Olson, and his barrage of lawyers and accomplices, Steven T. Schoonover, John P. Springgate (also Mortgage Fraudster Keith W. Gledhill’s lawyer), Michael B. Samuels, Bridget Robb Peck, Greg Zive, Carol Cook, and Frances Doherty, ignore the rules of law and decency as they destroy their neighbors and communities. I advise extreme caution in dealing with all of them. Never turn your back on any of them."

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Confirming Paperwork for James K. Olson Bullying, Perjury, Bigamy & Insurance Fraud and at Mr & Mrs James K. Olson

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The only side they were on was on top of each other.

Looking for a guidebook to marriage? Don’t Panic as Mr & Mrs James K. Olson @ http://www.scribd.com/doc/24775215/Mr-Mrs-James-K-Olson is The Lover’s Guide to Marriage. It is not for the faint of heart.

There is poignancy in totally mad love. Amour fou, when love is not madness it is not love, saudade, a class of happiness and sadness at the same time. It’s all the same feelings. Regardless of their familiar difference, pettiness and misunderstandings, these two adults in Mr & Mrs James K. Olson have developed and accepted a deep need in their love for each other. That is what Mr & Mrs James K. Olson is about. Jim and Morgan are two people that meet, fall in love, marry, mature as individuals and as a couple, and stay together. Looking for a guidebook to marriage? Do Not Panic as Mr & Mrs James K. Olson is The Lover’s Guide to Marriage.

Mr & Mrs James K. Olson is a rare novel in many ways. First, it’s about marriage. Something that is complicated.

Second, it is an honest look at marriage. It is naturalistic of human feelings without ever losing the enchanting and transformative qualities of True Love. There’s just starting out unworldly and idealistic awkward children in adult bodies. Then to varying degrees their marriage is perfect, bleak, ambitious, comic, egocentric, heartbreaking, rife with insecurities, affirmative, in constant need of reassurance, romantic, understandably hurt and angry, eager to push own agenda, tragic, gimlet-eyed, sympathetic, sweet, punishing, and finally totally rewarding. Two lives that initially seemed completely separate are and remain irrevocably connected.

Third, it’s all framed in ample romance. Mr & Mrs James K. Olson has a charming direct refusal to shortchange passion and emotion. That is the strength of the structure of this novel. Truly, Mr & Mrs James K. Olson’s an empathetic means at its heart. The romance adds to the moral stature of the novel by making the usual husband and wife caricature increasingly human. Lovers that marry find themselves in wildly unlikely, yet completely believable drama. Drama ridiculous enough to define the word. Lovers that marry uncover mania where others wouldn’t even dare to look.

Fourth, it’s about an interesting and good couple familiar to all of us. Their life-changing journey is sometimes painful as they move from naiveté into experience.

Fifth, the cosmopolitan keen exposes by the author make Mr & Mrs James K. Olson a detective’s novel. Mr & Mrs James K. Olson is a compelling accomplished work that knows exactly what it wants to do and then does it. In emotionally moving detail.

Sixth, the emotions Mr & Mrs James K. Olson evoke are linked directly to the reader’s secret life. It forces one to acknowledge not only how complicated our own lives are, but also how easy it is to be self-centered and miss to our detriment those complications in everyone else’s lives.

Seventh, the author’s suggestion for a Jerry Goldsmith like soundtrack with trumpet motif is perfect for the mood of this novel.

Eight, the characters simply live their lives albeit increasingly intimately and irrevocably intertwined with each other. The characters are charming, disarming, thoughtful, adroit in structure, melancholic, and insightful to the lawlessness of their heart.

Nine, Mr & Mrs James K. Olson is Don’t Panic, The Lover’s Guide to Marriage. The exploration of this novel is a revelation. It shows how one does eventually get to forgiveness in marriage, how to handle the unexpected detours, let go of grudges, and examine never finished emotional business.

Ten, the adult passion. Moreover, what people will do and risk for an ideal, or passion for another.

Eleven, Mr & Mrs James K. Olson is pure sophisticated adult reading. It’s an adult classic. There is no excess. It’s an honest mature look at two people in love, and what it takes for them to stay together. It’s accurate about people’s need for meaningful emotional connections with each other. Mr & Mrs James K. Olson manages the impressive feat of believing wholeheartedly in love and marriage without checking its mind at the door. Adult romantics will revel in their good fortune when they read Mr & Mrs James K. Olson.

Twelve, it’s not a surprise that gestures get as much attention in Mr & Mrs James K. Olson as dialog. Gestures and dialog that are unfairly and too often misinterpreted by these two lovers.

Thirteen, given all this, more of the many surprises with this novel was the impressive indeed excellence of the casting and acting. Big-boned Jim brings his male charm, earthy sensuality, raw, primal and down-to-earth passion to his high maintenance younger high-strung trophy wife. Morgan is very human, very fallible, a mature woman holding her own in what she wants, how she wants it and how she gets it. She finally etches her marriage with Jim with compassion, maturity, humor, and strength. Jim Olson somehow keeps misunderstanding but keeps going back and again making an honest woman of Morgan. Though he nicely pulls it off each time, it is just a bit much how often this poor insecure because he’s a love-besotted guy makes the same mistake. Their underlying trust, love and control expose the texture, complexity and risks when you leave yourself open to intimacy, and how unsettling that can be. Yet, reading Mr & Mrs James K. Olson puts you in a marriage so delicious you never want it to end. I think it’s due solely to the casting of Morgan against Jim. That gave a special primal grace and raw tension to the exquisite nuances in the performances of Jim and Morgan In Love.

Fourteen, Mr & Mrs James K. Olson is an affirmation for marriage. It shows our weaknesses in the roadblocks and problems we bring in to marriage. It shows our common shortcomings in our self-indulgence, bias, vanity, misguided values, impetuosity, betrayal, thoughtlessness, and disloyalty.

Fifteen, Mr & Mrs James K. Olson neither complains nor explains marriage. It simply puts on display this husband and wife and their various and on-going attempts to make their marriage work. Then it dares any mature viewer to be indifferent to it. For a mature adult, reading it is an intense experience.

Sixteen, the writer then skillfully added his romantic touch. By doing that, he showed us that marital in fighting can be romantic, should be romantic and is romantic more often then not, even in its what might be perceived as darkest moments. The courtship in the film Mr. & Mrs. Smith later echoed Jim and Morgan. Once Mr. & Mrs. Smith knew who the other really was, only then did each completely open them self up to the other. As with Jim and Morgan Olson’s world, in Mr. & Mrs. Smith’s world, their second courtship begins appropriately enough, via a fight. A fight that only the two such top of their game incorrectly thinking they’re on opposite sides can have. Vicious, dirty, traitorous, and deeply hurtful tactics were used.

Seventeen, Jim and Morgan Olson really know the only side they were on was on top of each other. In spite of logic, reason and expectation, they are overwhelmed with their magnificent love and remember their goal is to stay in love together. Fittingly, that’s the same eternal theme in the later Mr. & Mrs. Smith.

The result was Jim and Morgan Olson, two good people with lawlessness in their hearts were growing over nineteen years in maturity and mutual acceptance of their desire for each other. They end up liking themselves and each other more enough to maintain their determination to keep their relationship together. They have a funny and charming emotional heft they never lose for dealing with painful situations. And it all works. With rueful sensitivity to how quietly and not so quietly ridiculous love can be, their relationship survives and works in spite of everything.

Who can resist all that in one novel?

Lovers that marry suddenly speak the same language only in theory. This likeable lovelorn couple’s struggles just to communicate enough to stay together are as powerful as their love is wanton sensuality. Their story is potent, engrossing and thrilling to experience. Getting to the finale, the realization in both is that just because someone doesn’t always love us the way we wish them to doesn’t mean they don’t love us the best they can and with all they have. And that provides needed cover for a multitude of sins. That cover always paves the way into redemption, rehabilitation and reconciliation.

Inevitably, given their determination to stay together through the emotional torment of having to deal with bemused wackiness and troublesome actions against them by their beloved lover other, everything simmered down to a coming of age teasing similar in Two for the Road:

He to her: Bitch

She to him: Bastard

That is not for the faint of heart. It is a polished combination of mature tension and adult bittersweet humor that is sophisticated and bitingly funny. Marriage is the journey, not the destination. What becomes most a marriage so delicious you never want it to end is quite simply determination. The point is to stay together, married, during marriage’s inevitable changes. Mr & Mrs James K. Olson is not about to argue that point.

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The only side they were on was on top of each other.

Looking for a guidebook to marriage? Don’t Panic as Mr & Mrs James K. Olson @ http://www.scribd.com/doc/24775215/Mr-Mrs-James-K-Olson is The Lover’s Guide to Marriage. It is not for the faint of heart.

There is poignancy in totally mad love. Amour fou, when love is not madness it is not love, saudade, a class of happiness and sadness at the same time. It’s all the same feelings. Regardless of their familiar difference, pettiness and misunderstandings, these two adults in Mr & Mrs James K. Olson have developed and accepted a deep need in their love for each other. That is what Mr & Mrs James K. Olson is about. Jim and Morgan are two people that meet, fall in love, marry, mature as individuals and as a couple, and stay together. Looking for a guidebook to marriage? Do Not Panic as Mr & Mrs James K. Olson is The Lover’s Guide to Marriage.

Mr & Mrs James K. Olson is a rare novel in many ways. First, it’s about marriage. Something that is complicated.

Second, it is an honest look at marriage. It is naturalistic of human feelings without ever losing the enchanting and transformative qualities of True Love. There’s just starting out unworldly and idealistic awkward children in adult bodies. Then to varying degrees their marriage is perfect, bleak, ambitious, comic, egocentric, heartbreaking, rife with insecurities, affirmative, in constant need of reassurance, romantic, understandably hurt and angry, eager to push own agenda, tragic, gimlet-eyed, sympathetic, sweet, punishing, and finally totally rewarding. Two lives that initially seemed completely separate are and remain irrevocably connected.

Third, it’s all framed in ample romance. Mr & Mrs James K. Olson has a charming direct refusal to shortchange passion and emotion. That is the strength of the structure of this novel. Truly, Mr & Mrs James K. Olson’s an empathetic means at its heart. The romance adds to the moral stature of the novel by making the usual husband and wife caricature increasingly human. Lovers that marry find themselves in wildly unlikely, yet completely believable drama. Drama ridiculous enough to define the word. Lovers that marry uncover mania where others wouldn’t even dare to look.

Fourth, it’s about an interesting and good couple familiar to all of us. Their life-changing journey is sometimes painful as they move from naiveté into experience.

Fifth, the cosmopolitan keen exposes by the author make Mr & Mrs James K. Olson a detective’s novel. Mr & Mrs James K. Olson is a compelling accomplished work that knows exactly what it wants to do and then does it. In emotionally moving detail.

Sixth, the emotions Mr & Mrs James K. Olson evoke are linked directly to the reader’s secret life. It forces one to acknowledge not only how complicated our own lives are, but also how easy it is to be self-centered and miss to our detriment those complications in everyone else’s lives.

Seventh, the author’s suggestion for a Jerry Goldsmith like soundtrack with trumpet motif is perfect for the mood of this novel.

Eight, the characters simply live their lives albeit increasingly intimately and irrevocably intertwined with each other. The characters are charming, disarming, thoughtful, adroit in structure, melancholic, and insightful to the lawlessness of their heart.

Nine, Mr & Mrs James K. Olson is Don’t Panic, The Lover’s Guide to Marriage. The exploration of this novel is a revelation. It shows how one does eventually get to forgiveness in marriage, how to handle the unexpected detours, let go of grudges, and examine never finished emotional business.

Ten, the adult passion. Moreover, what people will do and risk for an ideal, or passion for another.

Eleven, Mr & Mrs James K. Olson is pure sophisticated adult reading. It’s an adult classic. There is no excess. It’s an honest mature look at two people in love, and what it takes for them to stay together. It’s accurate about people’s need for meaningful emotional connections with each other. Mr & Mrs James K. Olson manages the impressive feat of believing wholeheartedly in love and marriage without checking its mind at the door. Adult romantics will revel in their good fortune when they read Mr & Mrs James K. Olson.

Twelve, it’s not a surprise that gestures get as much attention in Mr & Mrs James K. Olson as dialog. Gestures and dialog that are unfairly and too often misinterpreted by these two lovers.

Thirteen, given all this, more of the many surprises with this novel was the impressive indeed excellence of the casting and acting. Big-boned Jim brings his male charm, earthy sensuality, raw, primal and down-to-earth passion to his high maintenance younger high-strung trophy wife. Morgan is very human, very fallible, a mature woman holding her own in what she wants, how she wants it and how she gets it. She finally etches her marriage with Jim with compassion, maturity, humor, and strength. Jim Olson somehow keeps misunderstanding but keeps going back and again making an honest woman of Morgan. Though he nicely pulls it off each time, it is just a bit much how often this poor insecure because he’s a love-besotted guy makes the same mistake. Their underlying trust, love and control expose the texture, complexity and risks when you leave yourself open to intimacy, and how unsettling that can be. Yet, reading Mr & Mrs James K. Olson puts you in a marriage so delicious you never want it to end. I think it’s due solely to the casting of Morgan against Jim. That gave a special primal grace and raw tension to the exquisite nuances in the performances of Jim and Morgan In Love.

Fourteen, Mr & Mrs James K. Olson is an affirmation for marriage. It shows our weaknesses in the roadblocks and problems we bring in to marriage. It shows our common shortcomings in our self-indulgence, bias, vanity, misguided values, impetuosity, betrayal, thoughtlessness, and disloyalty.

Fifteen, Mr & Mrs James K. Olson neither complains nor explains marriage. It simply puts on display this husband and wife and their various and on-going attempts to make their marriage work. Then it dares any mature viewer to be indifferent to it. For a mature adult, reading it is an intense experience.

Sixteen, the writer then skillfully added his romantic touch. By doing that, he showed us that marital in fighting can be romantic, should be romantic and is romantic more often then not, even in its what might be perceived as darkest moments. The courtship in the film Mr. & Mrs. Smith later echoed Jim and Morgan. Once Mr. & Mrs. Smith knew who the other really was, only then did each completely open them self up to the other. As with Jim and Morgan Olson’s world, in Mr. & Mrs. Smith’s world, their second courtship begins appropriately enough, via a fight. A fight that only the two such top of their game incorrectly thinking they’re on opposite sides can have. Vicious, dirty, traitorous, and deeply hurtful tactics were used.

Seventeen, Jim and Morgan Olson really know the only side they were on was on top of each other. In spite of logic, reason and expectation, they are overwhelmed with their magnificent love and remember their goal is to stay in love together. Fittingly, that’s the same eternal theme in the later Mr. & Mrs. Smith.

The result was Jim and Morgan Olson, two good people with lawlessness in their hearts were growing over nineteen years in maturity and mutual acceptance of their desire for each other. They end up liking themselves and each other more enough to maintain their determination to keep their relationship together. They have a funny and charming emotional heft they never lose for dealing with painful situations. And it all works. With rueful sensitivity to how quietly and not so quietly ridiculous love can be, their relationship survives and works in spite of everything.

Who can resist all that in one novel?

Lovers that marry suddenly speak the same language only in theory. This likeable lovelorn couple’s struggles just to communicate enough to stay together are as powerful as their love is wanton sensuality. Their story is potent, engrossing and thrilling to experience. Getting to the finale, the realization in both is that just because someone doesn’t always love us the way we wish them to doesn’t mean they don’t love us the best they can and with all they have. And that provides needed cover for a multitude of sins. That cover always paves the way into redemption, rehabilitation and reconciliation.

Inevitably, given their determination to stay together through the emotional torment of having to deal with bemused wackiness and troublesome actions against them by their beloved lover other, everything simmered down to a coming of age teasing similar in Two for the Road:

He to her: Bitch

She to him: Bastard

That is not for the faint of heart. It is a polished combination of mature tension and adult bittersweet humor that is sophisticated and bitingly funny. Marriage is the journey, not the destination. What becomes most a marriage so delicious you never want it to end is quite simply determination. The point is to stay together, married, during marriage’s inevitable changes. Mr & Mrs James K. Olson is not about to argue that point.

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