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Most of us know the Brianna Denison
story. We have blue ribbons elsewhere, vowed to stay there until Brianna’s rapist and murderer is brought to justice. We debate why her story gets attention that others do not. There are many theories out there. Some are in other papers. The City of Reno has a site about Bri. Some are discussed at the grocery store while waiting in line. Others are discussed at our insurance office. The point is, it’s being discussed still in our daily lives. Someone out there is rapist and murderer that is invisible among us.
The description is: “The suspect is described as a white male, approximately 28 - 40 years of age, 5’6” tall or taller, possibly up to 6 feet tall, with a long face with a square chin and brown head of hair with an undetermined style. The suspect was reported to have facial hair in December, about a quarter to half-an-inch long below his chin was soft and not prickly as stubble normally is. It is unknown if there was a mustache at the time. Police note the suspect may have shaved his face by now.
The suspect also has a Shaved pubic region, an “innie” belly button, a belly that was described as not excessively large and firm but not flabby, and a light covering of hair on his arms. He is said to have a normal speech with no accent or regional dialect.
The suspect vehicle is described as an extended cab pick-up truck or SUV with an interior dome light above the windshield. The vehicle is tall enough that it requires a step up to gain entry, but that step is not an added “aftermarket” step. There is a floor-mounted console described as “fairly skinny” that opens in front, and The radio has blue and red LED read-out. The vehicle also has cloth seats and an automatic transmission. There was a baby shoe on the front seat floor board, and 8 ½” x 11” white pieces of paper with typing on the floor board of the front seat.”
We want justice. To some that means catching, convicting and incarcerating this guy. To others it means just kill him. To others it means do to him what he did to Bri, rape and strangulation.
I want to add my own theory of who he is. My background is Navy in Viet Nam. Then degrees in Philosophy and Physics from University of California, Berkeley. Then a Sonoma County (California) Deputy Sheriff. I’ve been trained in investigations both criminal and civil, as well as investigative report writing. I was one of hundreds working on the Polly Klass case. I personally know of no case of a female raping and murdering. Rarely does a male rape and murder another male. Females are XX. Males are XY. Therefore, the man determines gender. Either his X unites with her X for a female, or his Y unites with her X for a male.
A man that rapes and murders by strangulation follows an evolving pattern. That pattern starts when he is a young boy. It is that pattern that enslaves him. It starts with a secret. A secret that involves the X within him. A secret that is a compulsive obsession. A secret known as fetish. A fetish that grows to excite him to rape her. A fetish that silences her by strangulation so she can never tell about his secret.
There is a theory Bri’s rapist and murder has a panty fetish. Oh, he has a fetish all right. And yes, it involves panties. However, his fetishes are, I believe, cross-dressing, leather, rubber, vinyl and bondage. His secret is he dresses in female clothes, then binds himself up, and then masturbates himself off in front of a mirror. Only two types of men shave their public region. Gay men, and cross-dressers.
I think he lives part-time in Reno and part-time in either Sacramento or the San Francisco Bay Area. I think is has worked or now works in academia. The San Francisco BrooWaha has a story and its comments that go into the mental health dangers of cross-dressing. That is Now You Call It Madness. Cross-dressers live with a secret that colors darkly every aspect of their life.
This comment is from Tamara, a UNR psychology grad student. “Cross-dressers statistically are often pedophiles. Bondage often is associated with pedophiles. Teaching is a profession that tends to attract pedophiles. Personality disorders such as cross-dressing, leather, vinyl, rubber, bondage fetishes, is characterized by rigid and on-going patterns of thought and action fixed fantasies. The inflexibility and pervasiveness of these behavioral patterns often cause serious personal and social difficulties, as well as a general impairment of functioning. Personality disorders are defined by the American Psychiatric Association as "an enduring pattern of inner experience and behavior that deviates markedly from the expectations of the culture of the individual who exhibits it". These patterns, as noted, are inflexible and pervasive across many situations, due in large part to the fact that such behavior is perceived to be appropriate by that individual. Transvestic fetishism is defined by as one of the paraphilias, a group of mental disorders characterized by obsession with unusual sexual practices or with sexual activity involving nonconsenting or inappropriate partners such as children. The essential feature of transvestic fetishism is recurrent intense sexual urges and sexually arousing fantasies involving dressing in clothing associated with members of the opposite sex. Another term for transvestic fetishism is cross-dressing. Transvestic fetishism is considered a sexual deviation. For transvestites stimuli associated with cross-dressing is just about always necessary for erotic arousal and are always included in sexual activity, if not actually acted out alone or with a partner. It is important to note that this activity is closely associated with achieving sexual gratification. Persons with transvestic fetishes should not be assumed to be homosexual. According to DSM-IV-TR, most men who practice cross-dressing are basically heterosexual in their orientation. Some, however, have occasional sexual encounters with other men. Cross-dressers often choose to hide this part of themselves and sometimes internalize a sense of shame and guilt as psychiatrists and society still consider cross-dressing to be pathological. Persons with transvestic fetishism rarely seek psychotherapy on their own account. In rare instances, the patient has agreed to consult a psychiatrist only because his wife or girlfriend is distressed by the cross-dressing. Most persons who have a transvestic fetish never seek treatment from professionals. The prognosis for treatment of transvestic fetishism is poor, as most persons with this disorder do not desire to change. Most cases in which treatment was demanded by a spouse as a condition of continuing in a marriage have not been successful. By the way, it was German physician Magnus Hirschfeld who coined the term "transvestism" (Latin for "cross-dressing") in 1910. Hirschfeld was himself a cross-dresser. Cross-dressing is a fetish, along with the rubber, vinyl, leather, bondage. A cross-dresser can’t get excited without cross-dressing or pretending he is cross-dressed or with the woman on top while he pretends to be the woman. That’s when therapists describe it as a fetish. A fetish is an eroticized object whose use is crucial to a person’s sexual function as it provides psychological stimulation. Cross-dressing is only one of many fetishes. When both people in a couple are interested in the same thing - she likes to be on top, he likes the bottom, he’s ecstatic when she wears vinyl, the issue of narrow erotic interests doesn’t seem like a problem. It’s when one person gets bored with the routine, or never liked it in the first place, that couples have difficulty. Many women originally start out trying to please his fetishes because she doesn’t realize what they are, fetishes. She thinks eventually they’ll get to a more normal relationship not realizing that will never happen. A true fetish - a long-term, rigid requirement, or more than one – doesn’t change. Then he acts out with a variety of partners usually women desperate for a husband and young girls he can coerce due to his position in their lives, like as their teacher. Most cross-dressers have Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) as NPD is a defense against shame. It is defined as a mental illness primarily characterized by extreme focus on oneself, and is a maladaptive, rigid, and persistent condition that may cause significant distress and functional impairment. There is a preoccupation with fantasies. They believe that he or she is "special" and unique and can only be understood by other special people. They have a strong sense of entitlement to the point they will take advantage of others to achieve his or her own ends. They lack empathy and are arrogant to hide that they are easily hurt, oversensitive, ashamed and over react hiding that hides in a generic state of shame obsessed with neutralizing devaluation by seeing other, usually their spouses and employers as unjust abusers. As a coping strategy, the cross-dresser avoids sharing "shameful" thoughts and feelings with partners and significant others due to fear of rejection so they behave in a critical or superior way toward others. Most cross-dressers are also The Peter-Pan psychological type characterized by immaturity or certain sorts of psychological, social, and sexual problems. The type of personality in question, usually male, is immature and narcissistic. The characteristics of include irresponsibility towards one’s spouse, rebelliousness against one’s spouse, pottering about, anger, narcissism, manipulativeness, and the belief that he is beyond society's laws and norms. It is the adult little boy who, when in a relationship or in seeking a relationship, acts out a need for mothering. It is useful to compare the Jungian archetype of Puer Aeternus, the eternal boy. Cross-dressers also often have Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD): "a pervasive pattern of instability of interpersonal relationships, self-image and affects, as well as marked impulsivity, beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts." It is marked by frantic efforts by the cross-dresser to avoid real or imagined abandonment including repeatedly divorcing their spouse. Cross-dressers have patterns of unstable and intense interpersonal relationships characterized by alternating between extremes of idealization and devaluation due to their persistently unstable cross-dresser identity disturbance. There is Impulsivity like promiscuous sex, eating disorders, binge eating, or reckless driving. There is recurrent self-mutilating behavior. There is inappropriate anger often acted out in passive aggressive. It has been noted that there is probably no other mental disorder about which so many articles and books have been written, yet about which so little is known based on empirical research. Studies suggest that individuals with BPD tend to experience frequent, strong and long-lasting states of aversive tension, often triggered by perceived rejection, being alone, or perceived failure. Individuals with BPD may show lability (changeability) between anger and anxiety or between depression and anxiety and temperamental sensitivity to emotive stimuli. The negative emotional states particularly associated with BPD have been grouped into four categories: extreme feelings in general; feelings of destructiveness or self-destructiveness; feelings of fragmentation or lack of identity; and feelings of victimization. Individuals with BPD are very sensitive to the way others treat them, overreacting strongly to perceived criticism or hurtfulness. Their feelings about others often shift within minutes from positive to negative, generally after a what others look at as a minor disappointment or perceived threat of losing someone. Self-image can also change rapidly from extremely positive to extremely negative. Impulsive behaviors are common, including unsafe sex and recklessness in general. Attachment studies suggest individuals with BPD, while being high in intimacy- or novelty-seeking, can be hyper-alert to signs of rejection or not being valued and tend towards insecure, ambivalent, preoccupied or fearful attitudes towards relationships. They tend to view the world generally as dangerous and malevolent, and themselves as powerless, vulnerable, unacceptable and unsure in self-identity. Individuals with BPD are often described, including by some mental health professionals (and in the DSM-IV), as deliberately manipulative.”
Mistress Doctor, a former San Francisco dominatrix, now Novato, California psychologist wrote: “That domestic violence from the man is a characteristic of all male cross-dressers marriages or relationships who fail to immediately disclose their secrets. Once outed, all these men turn it on its head and claim it’s the wife who is the abuser, the mentally unstable one. Those secrets, deception, manipulativeness, selfishness, playing the victim, deceit, narcissism, arrogance, control, and drama, are all characteristics of all cross-dressers. The more closeted they are, which usually happens as they age, the deeper and darker the characteristics.”
Tamara: “Their secret, their fetish, or menu of fetishes, are compulsive needs. A male closeted cross-dressers sex life with an adult female is usually brief and mutually unfulfilling to the cross-dresser and his female partner. Often times he is even impotent as the male cross-dresser gains more sexual satisfaction from being cross-dressed and masturbating in front of a mirror as the cross-dresser is chained to his fetish. A cross-dresser who simultaneously expresses his fetish and sex with a female child gains fulfillment. Intercourse with a female child while cross-dressed gives him more sexual satisfaction than his masturbating cross-dressed in front of a mirror. That leads me to a disturbing hypothesis of why many child abusers kill the girl. Is it in order to keep his cross-dressing secret? The comments about how San Francisco, a town known for tolerance, is not tolerant of cross-dressers, but is of drag queens, which are homosexual, were telling. The conjecture is that a cross-dresser is more concerned with keeping his cross-dressing secret than the discovery of his sex with a child. He is unconcerned about the discovery of his sexual act as it proves he is a man who is able to perform. The discovery of his cross-dressing though brings into doubt his masculinity. Like the child abuser who kills the child, both are unconcerned about their sexual act. Both are proud of themselves as a man who was able to perform. It is their secret that they will do anything to protect. For that reason, serial abuse and domestic violence is done to protect the secret that he is a cross-dresser.”
Another MD comment: “Self-centeredness and selfishness are cross-dresser characteristics. Therefore, cross-dressers are Masters at Appearances/Deception with years of experience Hiding Their Secret. The older the cross-dresser, the more likelihood of his having a Double Life. From the viewpoint of psychology, he is often a Serial Abuser. His behavior is often Domestic Violence.”
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