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Pure Sleaze

by Edward (writer), , April 28, 2008

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The Bigger the Smile, the More Expensive the Lesson at Never Enough Ballroom

When it comes to the ballroom dance racket, the bigger the dance instructor’s swarmy smile, the more expensive their lessons. Small print leads to large risk in dance contracts. Ballroom dance teachers, whether they are in a studio or these con artists at the recreation centers, don’t teach dance, they just teach you to take their dance lessons.

According to Jeff Allen, “Dance studios are still used as a case study to recognize deceptive trade practices. The Internet has become a common ground for sharing viewpoints. As more dancers are tuned in to the electronic age it will become increasingly more difficult for the bad practices of dances studios, no matter how remote or small their marketplace is, to continue without being noticed, as has been the case until now. Dancers of all levels and of experience have begun to share their opinions concerning the various pluses and minuses of the dance studio and teaching business. The Cash Cows are not coming out well in these news group discussions.”

Ballroom dance teachers in the late 1950's, including the Arthur Murray studios, increasingly came under government scrutiny for the shady practices we increasingly see making a comeback. Hundreds of dance customers, then the government, made allegations that quickly escalated. Dance studios, including Arthur Murray, were using “high-pressure sales, bait and switch tactics and long-term contracts involving then shocking sums of money, $12,000 or more as an initial payment for a lifetime contract.” In 1960, the Federal government ordered the Arthur Murray studios to “stop using bogus contests and high-pressure tactics to sell their dance instruction courses.” In 1962, the California Office of the Attorney General began a statewide effort to “stamp out a dancing school racket that reaped many millions of dollars from gullible customers.” In 1976, Governor Carey of New York State signed a bill “providing dance customers with safeguards in dealing with dance schools.”

I read the articles Feasting at the Public Trough, The Dirty Little Secret of Ballroom Dance, and Get All Those Instructors You Can – or Maybe Not. Webster’s Dictionary defines Sportsmanship as “conduct becoming of a person who is fair, generous, a good loser, and a graceful winner.” These ballroom dance instructors are none. It’s not just the male instructors, it’s the females as well. Which is what happened to both my wife and I. The instructors were sneaky, snooty, used flattery, put her knee in my groin, he brushed his hand over my wife’s breast, she pushed her breasts into my chest, he pushed his groin into my wife’s pelvis. Their purported dance lessons were more like immature sexual manipulations to con us into their next condescending dance lesson. Before we moved to Reno, my wife and I lived in Novato, California. When we decided to get married, for our wedding dance we took ballroom dance lessons at the Novato Recreation Department from Jim Olson. Disgusting. After we later moved to Reno, we went once to Never Enough Ballroom. Same obscene story with Mikel and Suzette. Never again.

Jeff Allen, “Fawning and flattery are the hallmarks of con men. One must be cautious not to mistake fawning and flattery for encouragement and honesty. The lines of propriety are crossed when all these compliments and accolades are in fact meant to gain the confidence of the student for purposes of sales or extracting funds for other purposes rather than to represent what is really happening to the student. Dancing is learned by gaining the correct physical feeling, not an emotional one.”

My wife and I hike, walk and bicycle together. We meet a much better class of people that way than we ever did in our brief foray into ballroom dance.



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By Edward on June 05, 2008 at 06:17 pm

Thanks.  The 2008 Reno BBB Accredited Business Directory is out.  Has that "When you see the BBB seal, it means that the business has agreed to "Tell the Truth, Keep Its Promises, Be Responsive."   Never Enough Ballroom is not in it.  Now we know why.

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By Edward on November 08, 2008 at 06:25 pm

Since my complaints about the personal attacks on this board, I have received my first every 1 rating.

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By Edward on December 07, 2008 at 03:23 pm

Make that 3 now.

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By speedracer on March 21, 2009 at 09:32 am
Pure Immaturity

It is quite obvious that Edward is quite immature to post such comments based on one single lesson. Additionally it is clear that he has no understanding of Ballroom Technique which is danced in close contact to the partner (yes the bodies do touch and the legs do intertwine to maintain proper center of gravity, etc.)

My wife and I have been taking lessons from both Mikel & Suzette for over 8 years and I can assure everyone that we would have long left if any part of what was said in the above article were remotely true.

All I can say, is grow up and when you have reached the maturity of a 16 year old you might revisit dance lessons! Until then, I recommend you stay with your walking and bike riding!

As to the BBB response, this must come from someone who is not familiar with business. The entities (Businesses) listed there are paying members and are not there because the are good citizens!!! The fact that NEB is not listed there speaks volumes as this would indicate that there might be and/or are complaints against them for misconduct, etc.

Now, my advice for Edward is:

Prior to being sued by any member in the photo you posted, you might want to make sure that you have written consent from each and every one depicted to allow their image to be posted on the web! (I know a number of them)

For the rest, you have the right to free speech and with that the right to write anything you like. It would however be beneficial to base your comments on fact.

Cheers

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By Edward on March 21, 2009 at 02:01 pm
My Story Is Based On Fact

My opinion is based on fact. 8 years of lessons huh? So you've gotten real good at taking those lessons have you? Thank you for that comment and the rest of your comment as it just further proves my points.

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By speedracer on March 21, 2009 at 03:33 pm
Since my previous post was removed (most likely by the request of Edward) I will post again so Ed's previous response will make sense:

It is quite obvious that Edward is quite immature to post such comments based on one single lesson. Additionally it is clear that he has no understanding of Ballroom Technique which is danced in close contact to the partner (yes the bodies to touch and the legs do intertwine to maintain proper center of gravity, etc.)

My wife and I have been taking lessons from both Mikel & Suzette for over 8 years and I can assure everyone that we would have long left if any part of what was said in the above article were remotely true.

All I can say, is grow up and when you have reached the maturity of a 16 year old you might revisit dance lessons! Until then, I recommend you stay with your walking and bike riding!

As to the BBB response, this must come from someone who is not familiar with business. The entities (Businesses) listed there are paying members and are not there because the are good citizens!!! The fact that NEB is not listed there speaks volumes as this would indicate that there might be and/or are complaints against them for misconduct, etc.

Now, my advice for Edward is:

Prior to being sued by any member in the photo you posted, you might want to make sure that you have written consent from each and every one depicted to allow their image to be posted on the web! (I know a number of them)

For the rest, you have the right to free speech and with that the right to write anything you like. It would however be beneficial to base your comments on fact.

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By John Donnely on August 08, 2009 at 06:48 pm

True about ballroom dancing.  Darn useless when a guy dances with a woman to watch himself in the mirror instead of the pleasure of dancing with the woman in his arms.  I did meet my partner ballroom dancing as I’d heard very early on from guys that was the place to get laid.  After we got together, my partner  quickly had other reasons for why we didn’t go as much and then finally not at all.  My partner was quick and firm about getting public ballroom dancing out of our lives.

A ballroom is the first place I’d go if I was single again, or just wanted extracurricular sex.   Any guy that’s honest knows he’s ballroom dancing for the sex and cares only just enough about the dancing to get to the sex.

As for Jake’s comment “reputations must be maintained,” not at the ballroom dances I’ve been to.  Men brag about their sexual exploits to each other and more often than not to women.  Men are keen on that sexual stud reputation and use that to play the women off each other.  We’d compare notes on how many women we could get to run up to us.  Women that run up to men don’t care about their reputation.

Ron’s right about the woman that doesn’t run up to you.   The first six months I went to the ballroom dances,  I’d slept with a couple dozen women who’d run up to me when I arrived at the dance, and gave me the clap.   I started looking for those that didn’t run up to me.  That’s when I spotted her.   I courted her and she played it cool which made me want her even more.  She teased a lot me about the women running up to me.  It took me six months to even get a date with her, and another six months to sleep with her.  In that time she became my best friend.  That first time with her was when I learned there was really such a thing as making love.

Lucy’s a bit extreme about “If he ever has anything to do with the ballroom dance racket, that'll be the immediate end of our relationship.”  Why don’t you dance together in private?  My partner and I dance together in private, as it should only be, dancing only for the pleasure of having her in my arms – not watching myself in any mirror, instead watching her eyes that are filled with love just for me.

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By Edward on August 28, 2009 at 03:40 pm

speedracer, the ballroom dance instructors at Reno, Nevada's Never Enough Ballroom and the Novato, California Parks and Recreation were sneaky, snooty, used flattery, put her knee in my groin, he brushed his hand over my wife’s breast, she pushed her breasts into my chest, he pushed his groin into my wife’s pelvis.  Their purported dance lessons were more like immature sexual manipulations to con us into their next condescending dance lesson. 

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