My brother calls me up around 7pm and he tells me that he's going to send me $250.00 dollars. I say to him, what for? Because this guy came to my shop and offered to buy them, he tells me. I blew a fuse at him for the simple fact that he made a move without talking to me about it first!
My only premier drum set that I own, and this wacko wants to get rid of it. "Who do you think you are, wiseguy?" It's not just a drum set, it's a vintage set circa 1970's. Along with my set he was throwing in all of my snare drum collection, and all vintage as well. It took years of hard work at a drum shop and a lot of blood, sweat, and tears to own pieces of musical history. I've put in hours of hard work without pay to learn all there is to know about the drums and drummers.
I worked at a drum shop for store credit and how I got that gig was, I fixed up an old premier bass drum pedal and a snare drum all in working order. I went back and showed the owner of the place that I fixed up the items that I bought from him. He was impressed and hired me on, but he couldn't pay me.
It was an experience that I'll never forget, and all that hard work and the memories down the toilet!
Pleading with my brother and at the same time I'm yelling at him that I have over $1500.00 dollars of vintage equipment over there. Let me remind you folks that my drums are stored away in my brother's cabinet shop in Florida, and I'm over here 2,500 miles in California. He was so kind to hold off on the offer until a larger bid was made on my equipment.
Let me tell you... I dont know these people sometimes, my own family!
I went on a vacation back to Florida in 2005, it was the first time back home since I left in 1999. Sure, the town has changed and to my surprise... So did my folks. My old house looked the same. I went to see the room that I did my growing up in. It was not in the condition that I left it. Yeah, it was cleaned up and buffed out but this was clearly NOT my room. My room looked like a guest room and I felt like the guest in my childhood home. Most of my books were gone. My stereo equipment was not working. Half of my cd's were missing in action. Some of my movie collection magically disappeared. Some of my brother's things were stored in my room and good ol' mom told me not to mess with it. "Who's room is this then?"
I was a sport about it, but the rage was fueling and I couldn't let the folks see it since I've been away for six years. I had to put on the mask which I'm no expert at but I pulled it off.
Am I the blacksheep or just a visiting stranger? When it comes to these family issues, I don't know who I am? I confronted mom if I was adopted, she threw a fit of denial. I didn't bother to ask my old man cause he barely says anything, but he seems to talk to my brothers more than he does with me. Being a stranger is no day at the ball park with people who are family that I don't trust. I felt like I was a kid again always defending myself and my folks backing my brother up and the battles begin.
Growing up, I have two older brothers, not just one or two years older... Try 16 and 11 years older. So I'm just a kid and my brothers' are out of the house starting families of their own, I'm alone. I didn't grow up with these people! I don't know them! They're a whole different generation apart from me.
I caught my folks older in their age and I don't know who they were when my brothers did their growing up. Were they happier? Were they a fun couple to be around with? Were they the life of the party? I couldn't tell you nothing about them! All I have are pictures and a few vague memories. All I know is that they raised me, but who are they and who am I?
Selfish as I am I'll probably go back home for the holidays just to pick up my drums... Say Hi!... Then leave.
What's the moral of all this? I don't know. What can you learn from me? I don't know. Maybe I'm askin' for your help? Maybe I can learn from a stranger?
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Copyright © 2010 'Mean' Mike Duffau
Who Are These People?
Do you know your own family?
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