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Fair Fighting or Fighting Flare?

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Fighting changes each decade… it is difficult to know if violence is on the rise, or when to say “boys will be boys” and sometimes that means finding your physical strength at the expense of another boy, or the other way around. I do think however that we have entered an era of the most unfair battlefields we have ever experienced, and I don’t mean what is happening in Iraq.

Fights. In the 40’s and 50's (I'm told) if you were “high class” and you disagreed with someone you would pretty much not say anything. It was rude to openly bring your differences to the table. For those who felt that they needed to make a negative statement, a sniff, turn of the head, and brisk walk away spoke volumes. If you tune in to Ted Turner's classics on a Sunday afternoon, you can usually see a woman in gloves slap a guy for being ungentlemanly. Schoolyard brawls took place, like the one in “A Christmas Story” when one kid pummeled the other and observers yelled “c’mon hit em’ again” the schoolyard bully got a black eye. Other than I think there was some ongoing organized crime action with gangsters, as well as some the “Jets” and the “Sharks” dancing with knives in “West Side Story”. There were “fighting rules” and everybody seems to know what they were, even the cops and robbers.

In the 60's (I guess) if you disagreed with someone you would do drugs with them. When an argument broke out someone in a tie-dyed shirt would say, "Hey man, hit this dubie”. There was fighting going on in Vietnam and everyone was against that, so I don’t think it was much of a fighting decade. I have heard stories about someone freaking out on LSD and thinking an avocado was trying to eat them but that hardly counts. There was fighting between the races and It became unpopular to wear white sheets and carry on nighttime violence. Reverend Martin Luther King was fighting back peacefully and with nonviolence and it seemed to be working, until he got shot.

Although I wasn't doing much fighting in the 70's (hard to fight in a diaper) it appears that if you were at odds with someone you had a dance-a-thon with them. Or, your boys met them and their boys in the alley behind the disco so that you could fight to the beat of the music. It also seemed to be a time when “Everybody Was Kung Fu Fighting” but that was more of a one man show with numbchucks whizzing through the air as everyone backed away in fear. The 70’s weren’t a big fighting era either but they did have motorcycle gangs that didn’t really bother anyone except other motorcycle gangs.

The 80’s were some tough times. Bruce Springstien in his tight kick ass jeans telling us we needed to be “Born In The U.S.A.”. I started having some experience with fighting which often began over hitting on someone’s girl, talking stuff, or getting pushed in the hall (purposely or accidentally). I know something about how your Mom said, “Just ignore them” or “try to talk it out” and that didn’t work. Everyone needed to know where he or she stood in the pecking order and they fought to find out their rank. Guys with short arms were outta luck. The treat of weapons was in the air. Girls started fighting (usually over a guy) and they screamed and pulled each other’s big hair.

Then came the 90’s. I’m sure it is just because I was getting older but I became very aware of fighting. Ultimate fighting with NO RULES had been going on behind closed doors (kinda like Michael Vic's dogs) but in the 90’s it went public. Mosh pits were “free for alls” where hard music led to hard bodies meeting with spiked jewelry designed to do damage. Guys fought because they could or needed to save face. Couples fought. Fought with words, fists, fingernails, and lots of slapping. The rules changed when the law decided that on a domestic violence call, SOMEBODY was going to jail. Assault weapons were bought and sold on the streets, drive-bys were common. Cops beat up people and south central LA responded. OJ Simpson got in a fight with a couple of people and that was big news. We ended the 90’s with Columbine. All the rules changed. No place was safe. We started a new century in fear.

And now we are in the 2000’s. We have fights that include random people being shot in Virginia for sport, Timothy McVae fighting with a US government building, Islamic extremists fighting the twin towers, but we also have a new kind of fight. Cyberwars.

When you cyber battle it is done without a punch being thrown People are cruel anonymously, reputations are ruined and computer geeks get revenge all the way around the world. Recently I ran into a couple of fighters who had never met. They joined some kind of computer dating thing. She “winked” at him and then rejected him as being “incompatible”. He freaked out and messed with her myspace, she blasted him all over the internet and war was declared. I read what they both had to say and it was some messed up stuff and foolish drama but it occurs daily. I also know that this same girl had a problem in Cabo with another girl but never said a word until she got home and then bashed the girl on her occupational website, the place where she makes her living. Somehow it doesn’t seem right. Even though soldiers may not have ever met, blue uniforms fought gray. Lives changed or ended for flags, a way of life, apple pie and Susie back home. They put their life on the line. There is just something WRONG about posting “this guy is the world’s worst pig” or “this girl says she’s a model but she did dirty lesbian porn in Tahiti” for the world to see. This stuff has gone on in the past but it was usually written in a bar bathroom stall. What is gained by attacking someone you have never met and never will? Where are the bugles, the marching and the blood? And why do people who want to sound intimidating and intelligent always sign their cyber-hate anonymously? If you have something to say, back it up with a name. It’s like going to war in a mask.

No I’m drawing the line. Cyber-battle just isn’t right and I’m asking everyone to take a stand. It isn’t a brawl unless there are sound effects. A bloody nose is almost a requirement. And a little yellow un-smiley face just doesn’t cut it. So cyber haters, go away. Get off the airwaves. If you have a problem with someone you have never met and choose to waste time blasting them, exchange emails, tell your friends have a good laugh and get over it. War is a far too beautiful a concept to mess up the rules.


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11 comments on Fair Fighting or Fighting Flare?

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By Annonymous on October 30, 2007 at 08:41 pm
It's a good piece. I just want to go to war with a mask on. haha
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By 'Mean' Mike Duffau on October 30, 2007 at 11:02 pm
people have no guts to face each other nowadays!!!
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By Venditto on October 31, 2007 at 12:33 am
I agree with your stance on anonymity, whenever I want to tell people to fuck themselves I make sure they know it's ME saying it. good shit.
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By icanluvulongtime on October 31, 2007 at 09:18 am
I WELCOME constructive criticism, thanks for the spelling correction (spell check did that.. no excuse) and I knew about the 1995 but was trying to lump those events together for a reason.... no matter. My only point is that anonymous comments lack teeth.... it would seem that if someone has something to say they would be proud to attach their name to it. That's all. You are welcome to write anything you wish - thanks for reading, hope ya have a great day.
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By New York Slade on October 31, 2007 at 09:45 am
I know you are being satirical but it's actually sad. All in all it's better to fight online I guess than to see body bags being shipped home. I agree about the cyber haters. Get a real life. I enjoy your writing, are you published in any other forum?
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By Jen on October 31, 2007 at 02:16 pm
You wrote: "For those who felt that they needed to make a negative statement, a sniff, turn of the head, and brisk walk away spoke volumes." That's still true. As for annonymous comments. Sure...they're pussy, but I agree that they often have the "the most teeth", and are often the most honest...but they do serve a purpose. Check out MB's article on the subject: http://sf.broowaha.com/article.php?id=1946 You think the annonymous bashes you've received here are bad? You wouldnt last a minute on a bar-stool next to me and mi amigos. And THAT's in your face. Just shrug em off like the lice that they are and F'em if they can't take a joke. Cheers!
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By icanluvulongtime on October 31, 2007 at 04:16 pm
hey jen, I wasn't really talking about anything here rather anonymous stuff that goes on that is so weak all over the internet, that's all. Tell me what bar you & the amigos are at, I am amazingly thick skinned and self deprecating, nothing is as funny to me as getting myself punked.
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By icanluvulongtime on October 31, 2007 at 04:18 pm
oh yea, I also meant to tell the anonymous cyber hater of the day that I think my other testicle did fall. Last night. In yer mouth.
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By ChickaChick on October 31, 2007 at 04:39 pm
hahahaha that's awesome. And I'm assuming she wasn't even that good at it. cyberhaters are lonely self haters. My friend's reputation was DESTROYED by a loser who sat at home on Saturday night online slopping lies into the galactic airwaves. A year later they found her with a dead cat and an overdose. ew! I like the disco fighting. =)
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By Jen on October 31, 2007 at 08:08 pm
Hey "anon"- Just try and catch me!
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By icanluvulongtime on November 01, 2007 at 07:15 pm
I'm left handed. xox
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