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Slain Former Quarterback Steve Mcnair Not Worth Praise

by Joseph "J-Lo" (writer), Houston, July 09, 2009


Former Tennessee Titans quarterback Steve McNair's recent death revealed his true colors. Dating a 20-year old while married, McNair deserves no worship and praise; he played family and fans for fools

Approaching one week after former Houston Oiler and Tennessee Titan quarterback Steve McNair was found shot to death in a rented downtown Nashville condominium, fans and media alike are still grieving over what they would have you believe is an absolute tragedy in the sporting world -- a beloved, all-American football player who was active in the community with various charities and volunteer organizations gunned down in a selfless act of apparent murder-suicide. A married man only in his 30s – the father of four young boys – killed for no visible reason, no evident logic, and no common sense.

The biggest piece of the puzzle, though, that most seem to leave out, perhaps intentionally, is the fact that Mr. McNair was found with who we now know was his mistress – 20-year old Iranian woman Sahel Kazemi. The two had been dating for several months prior to the July 4TH killings, and only two days before shooting McNair and turning the gun on herself, Kazemi purchased a gun from a private owner.

But you’d be hard-pressed to find anything but praise and compliments about McNair. All week long, tributes of McNair’s “greatness” aired on television and radio alike, with what seemed to be every on-air talent ready to shower Steve McNair and his resume with eulogies. Even a colleague of mine, columnist for a national sports magazine, claiming “…the way he lived, the way he made people better, will always be his NFL legacy.” But in the end, how did he make his family and fans feel better?

Like a sheep and its flock, citizens followed. Listeners flooded sports talk radio airwaves this past week claiming that the man should be remembered for his charity, many skeptical about McNair and Kazemi’s actual relationship. Blame the woman, some say! She clearly had mental issues and financial hardships, and so McNair obviously played no fault in his own murder. And perhaps most disturbing, his wife just wasn’t cutting it – he’s Steve McNair after all! He should be free to date whoever, whenever.

But what is possibly the explicitly disturbing part of the story is that Steve McNair’s mother, Lucille, remains in denial, as well, about the actualities of McNair’s lifestyle. “I don’t want to know…the way I see it, it was the Devil’s work,” she told the The Tennessean newspaper.

No ma’am. It wasn’t the Devil. It wasn’t God. It wasn’t anything else but Steve McNair.

It simply comes down to this: Steve McNair played people for fools. He played his wife, his kids, his mother, and his fans. And people who believed his act were fools.

In a statement to the Associated Press, Ozzie Newsome, general manager of the Baltimore Ravens, said, “We immediately think of his family, his boys.” That’s what I think of as well – Mr. McNair’s children. The fact that McNair did not think how reprehensible his actions of dating another woman would be for his children, the fact that his children have to live for the rest of their lives knowing their father was a liar and a cheater to them, and their mother Mechelle, and the fact that he leaves his children without a father figure in their lives shows McNair’s true colors.

McNair could have had all the foundations named after him that he wanted, donated as much money to volunteer programs as he wished, and spent as much time possible helping Louisianans rebuild after Hurricane Katrina – in the end, it didn’t matter, and shouldn’t matter.

To relive an infamous quotation from the 2008 presidential campaign, you can put lipstick on a pig, but it’s still a pig. Steve McNair reaped what he sowed, and now his family will have to live with his repercussions for the rest of their lives. Have we become such a gullible society living in denial, that we cover our ears and pretend to deny the obvious? Steve McNair is no hero, no living legend, and certainly no real man.

Joseph Lopez is a talk radio producer, writer, and television producer living in Houston Texas. To contact Joseph, e-mail

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2 comments on Slain Former Quarterback Steve Mcnair Not Worth Praise

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By Glenn T on July 13, 2009 at 11:46 am

J-Lo, great piece - and it's nice to see an alternative to the endless praise that you noted, but I also think it's partially naive to treat Mechelle McNair as an innocent victim.  To be blunt, I believe she is neither an innocent or a victim in this.  The realities of NFL life are no longer secret - the parties, the groupies, the things that "happen on the road, staying on the road".  For the women married to these men it is even LESS of a secret.  What's more, it took little or no journalistic effort to ferret out the Steve McNair's romantic situation - do we really believe that Mechelle hadn't done the same prior to July 4?  I'm not certain I'm ready to ascribe that level of ignorance to ANYONE.  Mechelle enjoyed the benefits of fantastic wealth and privilege as a result of being married to Steve, and despite her likely knowledge of his predilections towards college girls, she allowed him to co-own a condo downtown with one of his teammates.  It sounds more like she didn't want to get off of the gravy train.  Although I'm certain the truth, as always, lies somewhere in between.

It's far too easy for us to stand in judgment without faced with similar temptation.  Most of us will never know what it's like to an NFL quarterback.  To have young women throw themselves at you everywhere you turn; offering themselves seemingly without consequence or concern.  What we DID learn after the McNair tragedy is that such behavior is usually too good to be true.  There are women who engage in these behaviors who have not steeled themselves against the emotional impacts who can hurt themselves and others when faced with the horrible realities of if.  But then again, there are women who are perfectly capable and content with the same.

I'm fine with not holding Steve McNair up as a hero, a model citizen, or even a good man.  But I think we ought to be similarly cautious before we lionize the family he left behind, or the remainder of NFL players who are simply smart enough or lucky enough to not participate in their indiscretions with someone unstable enough to shoot them while they sleep.

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By söve on August 07, 2009 at 05:14 am

I'm fine with not holding Steve McNair up as a hero, a model citizen, or even a good man.  But I think we ought to be similarly cautious before we lionize the family he left behind, or the remainder of NFL players who are simply smart enough or lucky enough to not participate in their indiscretions with someone unstable enough to shoot them while they sleep. mantolama söve mantolama kartonpiyer Ä±sı yalıtım

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