Most of us have heard the phrase "everything happens for a reason", and surely I do believe that ,but there are times I just do not want to hear that or am I able to focus . I'm just plain annoyed, angry, frustrated or whatever and really am not in the mood to hear those words, thanks anyways....lol. But there is a little something when added to the phrase I find much more helpful. " Everything happens for a reason and it serves me."
Let's take anger as an example.
One day I was feeling particularly out of sorts and really angry about something and all of a sudden that phrase popped into my head. I thought, "OK, Anger, if it's true that everything happens for a reason and it serves me, then tell me why you're here! I want to know because it doesn't feel like you're helping me right now.”
And what came to mind was: "I'm here to give you strength; to help you face whatever it is that you're so upset about. I'm here to bring your awareness, energy and focus to whatever is troubling you. I'm here to put you in a position of strength and focus so that you can say what needs to be said and do what needs to be done."
After hearing those messages and having that awareness, I began to settle down and breathe more deeply. I became more relaxed and more prepared to address the situation in a much more powerful, calm and centered fashion.
I knew why Anger came and how it was meant to serve me. It wanted me to speak up. I was able to collect my thoughts, take appropriate action and say what I needed to say. Surprisingly, without any anger, hostility or resentment.
Fascinated by this experience, I paid attention to other emotions and how they too were there to serve me. I gradually realized that I possessed an Internal Guidance System, a 7th Sense, a map of my emotions so to say.
Once understood and accepted, the emotion can be released. And if it ever arises again you know why it was there and what is was guiding you to do. All you have to do is recognize its intended service and take the appropriate action. Those few little extra words added to the phrase helped me find a solution, which is what we all really want. Try it sometime and see if it too helps you.