“If suffering like hers had any use, she reasoned, it was not to the sufferer. The only way that an individual's pain gained meaning was through its communication to others.” - Diane Wood Middlebrook, Anne Sexton: A Biography
I reach through the fodder of my mental plane wreck, grasping, trying to make sense of it. Like a forensic crash analyst, I pick up pieces of my shattered self and hold them up to the light, turning them over and over looking for reasons of the devastation. Is it operator error? Did the machine break? Was it an act of God? Did someone fail to address issues that led to this? These questions are valid even when looking at my human psyche, and to that end I believe that all apply. I made mistakes, very big mistakes, and even if I were normal and my mind healthy, mistakes would still happen. Yes, the machine is broken, it's totally obvious to anyone who knows me for any length of time that I'm fucked up in the head, that shit ain't right with this guy. People contributed to this trashing of my soul: abuse, neglect, rape, bullied, rejected, abandoned, violent brutal attacks on my body and mind, yep, all done by others. The sad thing is not that these happened, 'cause shit happens to everyone, but that, like in movies when they dunk the guy underwater then before he can take a breath he is shoved underwater again, it's the frequency of the shit that keeps hitting my fan. I'll barely have a hold on my PTSD and I'll be attacked violently, or someone will violate my space by stealing from me, betraying me, or whatever. It happens over and over again. What in the hell is God trying to show me? What fucking possible good can there come of my constant devastation? I've held on this long because I'm so concerned about taking the next breath that I can barely see beyond right now, in fact, dreams of the future are gone, if they ever were there. I only remember one dream, that of being a veterinarian. It was shot to hell very quickly as I got bullied and fucked with, even by teachers and adults. So that's it, I was given one dream, it's gone, so fuck me, all I have to look forward to is catching my breath the next time life pulls my head out from under the water. OK, wait, some self righteous asshole from the back says, “You carry yourself like a victim, that's why you keep getting attacked.” Oh, fuck me, is that the answer? It's my fault? Hell, well now I'm all better, thanks. This is not a whining rant where I want people to feel sorry for me, its mainly a way of examining the evidence and helping me toward recovery from all this shit. I don't want advice, I just want to fucking yell at the trees and mountains 'til I've exhausted all my homicidal and suicidal screams, 'til I've cried all my tears and I can't cry anymore, scream and scream until I break down and stop fighting against life. I've survived what would have killed most people, I'm still holding on to shreds of sanity and empathy that many would have lost by now. I'll be OK, and perhaps somehow, I'll find out how to piece this shit back together, but I seriously doubt it will ever fly again.
First published in Opinions Of Eye