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For the Love Women

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Guys - "If you're unhappy at the amount of sexual opportunity in your life, don't blame the women. Instead, make sure they have equal access to power, wealth and status. Then watch what happens.”

“Societies in which women have lots of autonomy and authority tend to be decidedly male-friendly, relaxed, tolerant, and plenty sexy. Got that, fellas?”

Cacilda Jethá,Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality

I am a male, a veteran, a husband, a father, and a writer. I am fortunate enough to have an enduring partnership with one wonderful woman, and an enduring admiration for and appreciation of all women. Since I was a small boy, I have loved women. I have loved them on different continents; I have loved them in different shades and sizes. I have loved women of diverse ethnicity. I will love women until I no longer draw breath.

Based on this lifelong love of women, I am appalled at the viciousness spewed into the airways by the 22 year old wretch in Isla Vista, the deranged honor killing in Pakistan and the gang rape and murder of two teenage sisters in India. In California, Elliot Rodger poured out his venom in a 137 page diatribe that described a planned “war on women.” He vowed to “attack the very girls who represent everything I hate in the female gender: The hottest sorority of UCSB.” In a self-indulgent video, Rodgers complained of being trapped in virginity because the various women he lusted over failed to share themselves with him. In true paranoid fashion, Rodgers saw himself as the victim of undeserved scorn and persecution. In his last video, he declared: “This is the story of how I, Elliot Rodger, came to be, “It is a dark story of sadness, anger and hatred.” Then: “I will punish everyone. And it will be beautiful. Finally, at long last, I can show the world my true worth.” In the warped mind of this deranged son of privilege, a murderous rampage was evidence of his “true worth.” In Pakistan, 20 people including family members stoned 25 year old Farzana Parveen with bricks Tuesday outside a court building in Lahore; the killers purported to be carrying out anhonor killing. Police failed to intervene. In India, cousins in their mid-teens were gang-raped and then hung from a tree. Reports indicated the 14- and 15-year-old girls went out the fields near their home in Badaun district. They were later found hanging from a mango tree in the woods. "Villagers claimed that police were slow in taking action and did not pay attention to their initial complaint. Three policemen have been suspended for not registering cases when the girls were initially reported missing."

So an American misogynist asserts his vicious and cowardly shooting of sorority sisters provides evidence of his true worth; a Pakistani father admits stoning his daughter to death for disobeying him and says he is notremorseful, and a gang of Indian men rape and murder two teenage girls with police indifference if not complicity. In the face of such rampant viciousness, it is not enough to be appalled. It is not enough to be sympathetic; it is not enough to have been in any sense a bystander. It is time to stand up and speak out against this centuries oldwar on womenin which women have at times helped their persecutors oppress their sisters. It is time to sayNo More! It is time to wage a vigorous counter attack aka an offensive defense.

Neither the gang rapists, the domineering father, nor Elliot Rodgers came to these violently misogynistic views on their own. They lived in cultures with veins of a pernicious, hostile vision of masculinity and a despicable, dangerous perspective on female-male interactions. This does not absolve any of them of blame for their atrocious actions, but it does give the rest of us a place to launch a constructive response.

Now is a time that tests our mettle. Every man who is not merely a male, but worthy of the most honorable connotation of the word man must stand by his sisters now. The Gang Rapists of Badaun, the Fiends of Lahore and theButcher of Isla Vistaare not truly strangers among us; they were not a ravenous, but alien, predators ravaging herds of innocents. They are monsters formed by venomous ideas and specious ideals we all have heard or seen and left uncontested. The time for silence and shyness has ended; we must speak boldly and clearly. We must stride forth repeatedly and relentlessly. We must set about “trampling out the vintage where the grapes of wrath are stored.” We cannot palm this task off on whatever gods may be or anyone else.This responsibility is on us!We will either rise to the challenge or sink into a deserved infamy. The chance and the choice are entirely ours.

As a start, we must convey to every younger male within our sphere of influence the fundamental premise thatwomen are full-fledged human beings who have every right males claim for themselves.There must be no ambiguity or equivocation in our message. We must not listen silently to disparaging or demeaning comments; we must not condone patriarchy in any of its guises. We must not permit misogyny in any variation or of any degree. Women, though wonderfully distinct from us, are our equals without question or qualification!

We must go on a crusade against “slut shaming” and any semblance of the concept that women's sexuality or their bodies are dirty, sinful, shameful, or otherwise something to fear and hide. The image that heads this article was deliberately chosen to [1] show off a woman’s body, [2] present a dynamic, valiant ideal, and [3] convey a hopeful message. Love of women and lust for them is not incompatible. It is a hideous canard that sexual desire is evil or that it must be satisfied only under sanctified conditions in standardized ways. Women should revel in their beauty and reveal it as fully as they feel comfortable doing. I will never deny that I thrill to the sight of beautiful women and the more I see of them the better I think of them. No matter how captivating women's attire may be, no raiment is more becoming or alluring than their natural garb. Women, of course, are far more than their physical form, but their form is a wonder to behold and a splendor to be celebrated not a warning to be feared, a contagion to be quarantined nor a curse to be escaped. As responsible adult males, we must make this clear at every opportunity. We must challenge the scorning and disdaining of the female form whenever and wherever it arises and by whomever it is done. Beauty is a joy forever and its own excuse for being.

Those among us who would seek to intimidate our female contemporaries by impugning their physicality or their sexuality must be disputed and refuted in no uncertain terms. For every woman whose body still turns heads and elevates pulse rates, it should be the joyous quest of all males to ensure each of them that their beauty is welcomed and cherished, not resented and scorned. For every woman who is now more beautiful in spirit than appearance, we must see that beauty and treasure it as well.

Additionally, we must forge an open road for ability in every field of endeavor. Whether it is business, a profession, performance, or athletics, females must be assured the same opportunity as males take for granted. Females and all human beings must be able to advance as far as their abilities and good fortune can take them. Whatever level they attain, females must be equitably rewarded. There can be no discount or penalty imposed due to their gender or genitalia. Human beings, in justice, must have the opportunity to realize their inherent potential to the optimum degree. In the most basic terms, humanity cannot afford to waste any of its potential or foreclose any of its possibilities. Not only humankind, but every living being on the planet needs all the good that can be brought to bear. Again this means, we males must “man up” and quit being bystanders or beneficiaries from the unfair treatment of women. We must demand fairness, openness, and unrelenting equity in all contexts, arrangements, and interactions. By and large, we have set the rules and called the shots for centuries and in all circumstances and places. Now is the time to call for a transformation of the way things are done around here. We don’t merely need equal rights amendments; we need equal rights covenants enforced by adamant commitments and intrepid actions.

It is truly said: “Whatever you are physically…male or female, strong or weak, ill or healthy–all those things matter less than what your heart contains.If you have the soul of a warrior, you are a warrior. All those other things, they are the glass that contains the lamp, but you are the light inside.” Now is the hour, the day, the week, the month, the year, the millennium for us to prove the luminosity of our light and to let it shine forth. Let us be warriors for a heavenly cause and if need be storm the gates of power even of Hell itself. Let our fight and our light summon the best within us and let us ensure that when the fight ends and the light flickers and dies, our last thoughts will be of the good we have done and the people we have helped.

The recent events in Isla Vista have shocked the nation. So have many tragedies before it. As a grieving father said, it is time for all men to resoundingly say: “Not one more!” Action in service to this pledge can ensure that those who died in Isla Vista, Lahore, and Badaun did not die in vain. In the spirit of the needed transformation, we males must learn to say and mean I'll Stand By You to every woman with whom we come in contact.

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By Barbara MacDonald on June 02, 2014 at 04:26 pm

Having worked so many years with women who had lived through unbelievable traumas, I totally agreed with you and thank you for this well presented article. It amazes me that in what we like to call a civilized society there are still all these atrocities still happening and people are choosing to turn their backs in complacency. Well done, thank you .

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By Guerrero21 on June 02, 2014 at 10:06 pm

Thanks for the positive comments, Barabara. I share your amazement at the frequency and persistence of these deplorable actions toward women.

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By Barbara MacDonald on June 02, 2014 at 11:07 pm

Welcome to Broo...I look forward to reading mor from you.

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By Barbara MacDonald on June 02, 2014 at 11:07 pm


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