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Why Some People Choose to Remain Single

For some, the good life.

For some, remaining single is simply part of their individual life's plan.

Everyone wants and desires love in their lives. It’s natural and part of what makes us all human – edgy feelings when you connect with another, making your heart skip in those crazy, irresistible beats.

However, for some it doesn’t mean running to the jewelers, racing inside a church or shopping for furniture together at Crate & Barrel.

Many are content searching for and finding love as it comes and don’t require the legal paperwork people believe makes it valid and official. Love is great when it’s pure and true.For certain people, finding a real soul mate is all about their individual definition of relationship success.

We’re all different and some just aren’t meant to marry, although opinions can fly in all directions when someone states they’re still single, especially in later life. The judgments often come fast and furious: “You’re just insecure, fearful, commitment-phobic and not a risk-taker” and the old standby “They must be gay.”

Remaining single is an individual choice. Some are simply happier and content finding joy and love in other things, enjoying their freedom and avoiding the oftentimes high-stakes drama of marriage if it falls apart.

Each and every one of us was given a specific script for our lives. Marriage just isn’t included for some in their life’s plan. And there’s nothing wrong with that at all. Again, it’s a matter of individual choice.

I’ve known many who’ve remained single well past 50, and many more who are divorced and swear they’ll never say “I do” again. None of them are swayed by what public opinion says is right or wrong, acceptable, stereotypical or wanted among the eyes of their family, friends, religion or ethnic group. Lots of them are some of the happiest people I know and wouldn’t trade their lives for anything.

“It’s better to remain single than sacrifice yourself.”

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Randy Mitchell is a blogger on lifestyle, writing and relationship topics and is a published author of inspirational romance. His first novel "Sons In The Clouds" is available in paperback on Amazon. To read more about Randy, visit
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By riginal on March 26, 2014 at 08:54 am
nice post Randy, I'm sure you would agree that "choosing" to be single as opposed to being "single as a result of marital circumstance" has so many connotations you could write a book on just that and probably start or at least never finish a never-ending story of see-sawing for and against. A friend who went through the same marital money circumcision as me fell on his feet after a 25 years break-up to end up with his childhood sweetheart who had just ended her marriage after exactly the same period.He's nearby me. He said it was great to have someone "to talk to!" A simplified 'truth' for some people to remain a couple? Seems like everyone in town here is married and that's a good thing but sometimes when i see a married couple helping each other along the street i wonder is it "someone to talk to?" I like seeing people with kids laughing and holding hands...maybe the kids are the glue that cements a relationship more than we can imagine? Cheers...i think you're a bit of a romantic at heart,nothing wrong with that...perhaps that's what's missing as the wheels on the marriage train start to run dry -taking each other for granted- as time rolls on? Then again i'm no expert. Each to his/her reasons for their choices.
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By Randy Mitchell on March 26, 2014 at 10:47 am

Riginal, thanks for commenting. Yes, I am a romantic at heart and even though, for some, remaining single is their preferred option I still believe that everyone desires love in their lives, married or not.

Sorry about your personal history. I hope that, should you choose to do so, you'll find companionship once again.

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By riginal on March 26, 2014 at 11:51 am
thanks Randy...i might get a canary, they're cheeper!...cheers.
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