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How Are You?

by Barbara MacDonald (writer), CANADA , March 11, 2014

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Maturity is the ability to think, speak and act your feelings within the bounds of dignity. The measure of your maturity is how spiritual you become during the midst of your frustrations. Samuel Ullma

FINE usually means Feelings Inside Not Expressed! I read this and thought very interesting and very true. How often have you been in some kind of emotional or physical pain when someone close to you asked “How are you doing?” and you, in spite of the pain, said, “I’m fine,”knowing full well you weren’t?

It is true that when someone asks us how we are, we tend to respond with “I’m fine.” And the truth is that we are more often than not… NOT FINE when we say it.

Usually, the response “I’m fine” is an attempt to hide. Of course, the answer you give depends largely on who is asking. For example, the cashier at the grocery store doesn’t need to hear the truth, but those close to you probably do.

My purpose in mentioning this today is to get you to think about how you respond to those close to you when you are troubled or in pain. Do you open up and give honest answers, or do you close down and brush them off with an “I’m fine” response?

If you want to strengthen your relationships, become a better communicator and bring those significant others in your life closer to you, be honest the next time they ask you how you’re doing. With that said, let me ask you: How are you today? Go find someone you trust and tell then how you really feel, it's good for your soul.

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Barbara MacDonald is a writer for BrooWaha. For more information, visit the writer's website.
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By Uttam Gill on March 11, 2014 at 09:50 pm

great post Barb...You have very rightly said...conversation and communication are always very a matter of fact we all don't conceal even if we say ' I AM FINE"...We are visible...Certain transient mode in life no matter how honest one can be takes away the sheen to understand the depth of an expression...

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By Barbara MacDonald on March 11, 2014 at 10:41 pm

I agree Uttam, it is often the truth when we say we are fine. But we also all have times we do not express how we are feeling for various reasons. Thank you for the comment.

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By riginal on March 13, 2014 at 01:36 am

agree wholeheartedly with both of you but i believe in the current climate of relationships we are ALL guilty of perhaps not listening enough and picking up vibes in the way as you rightly suggest... 'body language'. I believe doctors and shrinks tend to gloss over a problem with pills etc on occassion due to "NEXT PLEASE"time constraints.. Too many patients not enough time to sometimes go the extra time to delve below the surface? Also i believe friends fear they might pick up a marital seperation 'flu' pon listening, but out of that scenario you find a TRUE friend or two. Embrace them with all your being. For isn't being embraced emotionally a salve for your being, in itself? Lifecherries made the comment that she received great support from people she hardly knew. That speaks for itself. A timely post Barb,cheers my friend.

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By Barbara MacDonald on March 13, 2014 at 10:37 am

You make a very valid point Riginal...too often doctors prescribe pills rather than get to the root of the problem. I remember reading years ago that 50% of the people in the psychiatric ward had been through a life trauma . The reality is that until they get the proper help working through their traumas they will continue to struggle. Thanks for the review too...yes, I do wear my heart on my sleeve....guilty as charged...:D

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