I canâ€™t forget the night I met you,
Thatâ€™s all Iâ€™m dreaming of.
Now you call it madness,
But I call it love.
â€”Nat King Cole, â€œYou Call It Madness
(But I Call It Love)â€
Bigamy, Forgery, Fraud - College of Marin Band Director Implicated In Reno Divorce
The film Crazy Love is out and itâ€™s about the infamous New Yorkers, Burt and Linda Pugach just in bizarre time for the hyped reconciliation of Joey Buttafuoco and Amy Fischer. Marin, not to be out done has James and Morgan Olson. Recent court papers (Reno District Court DV07-00352, Marin CV 070655, FL6764, FL7442) provide glimpses into a secret world of adultery, sex, bondage, domination, cross-dressing, double lives, and fetishes. Into this vacuum of secrecy, rumors have flown. Wonder what would happen if we asked Jim to conduct the College of Marinâ€™s Symphonic Band in Barberâ€™s School For Scandal? What he has signaled in his Marin court papers, however, are themes that are the same recurring obsessions with Burt and Linda, Joey and Amy, Richard Burton and Elizabeth Taylor, then Eddie Fischer leaving Debbie Reynolds for Elizabeth Taylor, Gavin and â€œthe Mayorâ€™s Mistressâ€, the Matirxâ€™s Larry and â€œIsla, the Dominatrix,â€ and the rest of us who live Big or Crazy Love over Vanilla Love. Try it. The taste grows on you. All involve spectacular perversion, pursuit, divorce, gripping lust, adultery, escapism, drive for money and power, marriage, the sadness of separation, roller-coaster behavior, public masks, perfect volleys of he said/she said, obsessive love, glamour, the joy of repeated reconciliations, unconventional, kink, disturbing accusations, private games, bonds of habit and passion, false police reports, anger, bondage, forgery, lurid glimpses, weirdness, narcissism, romance, affairs, compulsion, secrecy, train-wreck, co-dependency, crazy, strange, strong attraction, long-lasting relationship, fraud, engrossing togetherness, anguish in misunderstandings, need for control, insecurity in each otherâ€™s love, living double lives while keeping up the appearance of propriety while begging to be exposed for the drama. It is an addiction, a connection, a co-dependency equally as necessary as eating, drinking and breathing.
Jim and Morgan have a February 16, 1991 Confidential Marriage issued in South Lake Tahoe. Confidential Marriage license are a common tool to avoid bigamy charges. They are issued in accordance with California State Family Code Part 4, Section 500. It has that when a man and a woman, not minors, have been living together as husband and wife, they may be married pursuant to this chapter by a person authorized to solemnize a marriage. State law allows confidential marriages with a minimum of fuss: no marriage license, no blood test, no three-day waiting period and, best of all, no public record that the marriage ever took place. Growing numbers of couples are using the law to avoid red tape and keep the marriage secret. In 1972, only 532 such weddings were performed in Los Angeles County and adjacent Orange County. Recently it was 12,212. 'It's one of the greatest laws,' says Edie Steinmetz, owner of the Doves of Happiness Wedding Chapel in Inglewood, a leader in the state's $700,000-a-year secret-marriage industry. 'It allows a lot of people to get married who otherwise would not be able to'â€”including the already married. Couples fill in a confidential marriage form, which is filed with the county clerk and is then unavailable for inspection by anyone. That makes it easy for applicantsâ€™ intent on bigamy. Says William St. John, Orange County clerk: 'There is nothing on the form that requires a couple to say how long they have been living together, if they had a previous marriage or divorce, and if the divorce is finalized.' Dr. A.W. Morey, owner of the Lafayette Wedding Chapel in Long Beach, shrugs off the bigamy problem. Chapel owners are legally authorized to preside at weddings as long as they have some sort of ministerial certificate, which in California is as easy to get as a secret wedding.
In the Reno court documents is documents and testimony from four witnesses who confirm Morganâ€™s claims. Photos of Jim and Morgan are on Morganâ€™s web page at http://www.scsr.nevada.edu/~alexa110/pdf/about.pdf. Marin County is one of the most affluent counties in the nation, with a median home price of $529,000. Home to U.S. Sen. Barbara Boxer, it's also one of the most liberal. Prop 22 is14 simple words: "Only marriage between a man and a woman is valid and recognized in California". It passed with more than 60 percent of the vote. When one is married to more than one that's bigamy, a felony. When one is having an affair while with another, that's adultery.
â€œA guy whoâ€™s got the chutzpah to try to pull the wool over somebodyâ€™s eyes. Thatâ€™s a good definition of a bigamist,â€ said University of Cincinnati clinical psychiatry professor Linda Chernus. â€œOne (spouse) is hard enough,â€ Chernus joked, who has researched bigamists and believes generally they have such low self-esteem that they marry multiple spouses to compensate with a sense of â€œgrandiosity.â€ â€œThey need to control women, to keep secrets and keep autonomy so no one knows whatâ€™s going on inside of them,â€ Chernus said. â€œThere may also be some underlying insecurity. â€œ(Bigamists) have a sense of invincibility that they can get away with this. They think they can get away with anything,â€ she said.
According to the Reno, Nevada court documents, Morgan, a Reno Community College teacher, immediately after sending Jim two $10,000 checks, received an anonymous phone call from a woman in October 2006 at their Reno home that 'Jim had died.' That phone call led to the revelation of Jimâ€™s double life and her subsequent divorce filing. The Marin court documents have that Jim filed four times in Marin to divorce Morgan (March 1991, less than thirty days after their marriage, second FL6764 filed March 23, 1992, the third filed August 31, 1992 in FL7442, the fourth October 19, 1994 Marin court FL 10061, in two going to Marin court ordered marital counseling by then Judge Michael Dufficy where Jim admitted his until then closeted cross-dressing and bondage fetish. Jim dismissed his first three divorces. In February 2007, Jim filed a Marin $1.5m libel suit against Morgan (CV 070655) claiming she has accused him of bigamy, having an affair with her, forging her married name of J. Morgan Olson in the purchase of a car in San Rafael, filing a false police report that she stole his car in Larkspur (although it was titled in both their names), sleeping with her during his four divorce actions, having Reno homeowners insurance with her, having a Nevada Living Trust with her, and of his cross dressing. In Jim's libel suit, he claims he divorced Morgan in Marin July 1996 then simultaneously admits he reconciled with her July 1996 in Reno where she had relocated to in September 1995. Jim's life with Morgan is a private, never-before-seen one in Marin - awash in androgyny, leather and B&D. Friends of Morgan say she says 'The divorce is not for Jim's fetishes, but for his infidelity.' Jim has again demonstrated his continuing willingness to take risks for his double life as there are recent ardent love letters from Jim to Morgan in the Reno court documents.
OK, so it isnâ€™t a total secret that â€œMatrixâ€ co-creator and producer Larry Wachowski is a cross-dresser â€” the relationship with dominatrix Mistress Isla Strix was never really hidden, as it destroyed two marriages â€” but the in-depth article in Rolling Stone revealed much more. In â€œThe Mystery of Larry Wachowski,â€ Peter Wilkinson writes: â€œLeaving Los Angeles, he and Ilsa moved into a $2.7 million home in San Francisco, on a steep hill in the Castro, with sweeping views of San Francisco Bay.' Guess LA was just too tame for their tastes. The vast majority of cross-dressing men are heterosexual, and bondage, being tied up by an attractive woman during sexual intercourse, is the second most common male fantasy, with intercourse the first. One shrink anonymously commented 'Mr. Olson has identified himself as a cross-dresser into bondage and with leather, vinyl fetishes. His mask, his double life, is that of passive-aggressive, shrouded in secrecy and well into a mental disorder with all the classic symptoms of Inversion. His obsession with mirrors, the ballroom dancing, his immaturity, his choice of career in music, and musical instrument, the trumpet, his narcissism, his wardrobe, his arrogance, his double life, compulsions, reality confusion, and repression in one life are all evidence of his over concern with his own pleasures.â€
Psychiatrists disagree about what forces are at work in men who cross-dress. One camp considers men of this type to have a 'gender-identity disorder,' to be 'women trapped in men's bodies.' In recent years, another group of doctors labeled some men who demonstrate these tendencies to be autogynephiles -- straight men who are essentially sexual fetishists, aroused by the thought or image of themselves as women. J. Michael Bailey, a professor of psychology at Northwestern University and the author of The Man Who Would Be Queen: The Science of Gender-Bending and Transsexualism, is a vocal proponent of the science behind autogynephilia, and although he declined to comment about Larry Wachowski, he did describe typical autogynephilic behaviors. 'Autogynephiles frequently mention having a longing to be a girl that begins in childhood,' says Bailey. 'But the first outward manifestation of it usually crops up in early adolescence, when they discover that it turns them on to wear women's clothing. What you do not see, despite frequent claims to the contrary, is evidence that these folks were notably feminine in childhood.' Some experts believe that men who want to be women also tend to be what Larry Wachowski appears to be: a guy with a jones for technology. In 1974, Donald Laub, a plastic surgeon, and Norman Fisk, a psychiatrist, conducted a study at the Stanford University School of Medicine of 769 patients. Of the male patients, Laub and Fisk discovered an interesting predisposition: ' . . . to be interested in mathematics and computer sciences.'
Naturally, cross-dressing impulses and potentials cannot be denied forever. They emerge partly, and in disguised form so as to elude the mechanisms of repression. For example, a boy may dream that he is a girl. And in dreams he may experience the totality of all these repressed thoughts and feelings. Perhaps the repression of these tendencies produces a form of 'arrested development.' These impulses linger in a state of continual half-activation, never fully on, but unable to be turned off until they are expressed. At this point, we should consider what happens with 'normal' male development--which perhaps is not so normal at all. The usual dynamic is that the male eventually projects his repressed female side onto women in his life. Part of his attraction to women is that they display (or he imagines they do) some of his own female traits which he cannot let himself express. He experiences his own anima vicariously through his female partners and other women. But these women have their own identities. They are who they are, not the man's projection. When a man projects his anima onto them, he is not seeing them as they really are, and he creates false expectations for them. That is bound to cause problems.
One can easily see examples of how cross-dressing leads to excess, or, at the least, fails to bring the cross dresser to a more balanced, happy, and effective way of life. How does the process go awry? One answer that perhaps the cross-dressing behavior becomes autonomous of the original goal: cross-dressing becomes a habit, rather than a spontaneous response to the impulse for personal completion. The analytic mind says 'I enjoy cross-dressing. Let me plan and arrange my life to facilitate this.' In any case, cross-dressing has secondary gains. For example, it is a way to escape reality. All people are prone to escapism, but the cross dresser is especially vulnerable. Cross-dressing is secretive and therefore less likely to benefit from corrective support and feedback from friends, family, and society in general. Inasmuch as the cross-dressing remains a detached and isolated part of the ego, there is nothing to say 'This much is enough.' As things progress, the CD may develop almost two personalities. The male side has a concept of the female as almost a different person. He may even refer to 'her' in the third person. At the same time the reverse may happen. The female may see the male as like a different person. This might seem like 'multiple personalities' making people think it's bad. But it isn't a psychiatric disorder. With multiple personalities, different personalities within the same person are unaware of each other. The cross dresser does not just wear women's clothes. He creates a new persona. Here both the male and female parts are completely aware of each other essentially living a dual life. For a married CD such, this can be problematic, as one wife knows about and accepts his cross dressing, his one persona, and the other only knows his second persona. Sounds like he just wants the women to fight for him and the best woman wins. Or, 'Imagine, for a moment, that you grew up having to hide a deep, dark secret. One so terrible that, if revealed, people will call you a 'pervert', a 'freak', or an 'abomination'. If you're lucky you'll only be called names; reveal your secret to the wrong people and you'll get harassed, beat up, perhaps even murdered. How would you feel if you couldn't even talk to anyone about it? Every representation society provides about what you feel inside is negative. If you suppress it until you are married, you can never tell your spouse for fear of divorce, losing your job, being legally denied visitation with your children. You're in for a lifetime of shame and guilt and denial. How would you deal with it?' You develop and live two lives. One life knows all about you and still loves you. Another life is your public mask who knows only the mask.
In the rigid Marin school world, social and sexual identities cannot shift, and must remain hidden. More Marin educators with apparent double lives. Sausalito's John Leary, the New College founder. Craig Benedict Lee on suspension as superintendent of the Lagunitas School District. Two San Rafael math teachers. Norm Burgos, a gym teacher and tennis coach at Tamalpais High School back in the papers after charged with sexual battery against a former member of the boy's tennis team, and was arrested on a $75,000 warrant following an investigation by the Mill Valley Police Department last year. A former athletic trainer at Terra Linda High School charged with molestation. A Drake High basketball coach charged with peeping and acquitted in a mistrial. A Novato youth soccer coach fired after getting arrested on indecent exposure allegations in San Francisco. A coach charged with having sexual relations with two girls at the Marin Water Polo Club. Father Gregory Ingels of Marin Catholic High School. Wow, those Marin educators lead some very interesting lives.
Jim met Morgan met in 1982, when he was the then 37 year old Band Director at Redwood High School. She was a then hot 28 year old College of Marin student. In Morganâ€™s courtâ€™s papers she writes â€œAll my husbandâ€™s nonsensical stories and muddy allegations have no basis in fact or truth. What is way more credible is that my husband created his colorful and petulant stories and supporting documents to discredit me, to create damages to offset our impending divorce/annulment 50-50 division, and to escalate the drama - again to force me, or even perhaps his California wife, or perhaps both of us, to fight for him, to prove we â€œloveâ€ him. Which I learned about in the Marin court-ordered marital counseling in one of my husbandâ€™s several surly divorce filings against me is that getting a woman to fight for him is a characteristic of cross-dressers, which my husband admitted he is in this counseling, and he admitted that he loves it when I fight for him. That cross-dressers are immature men who are always insecure of the love of the woman who loves him and obsessively creates on-going drama to always get her to prove she loves him. That cross-dressers are passive-aggressive. I also learned that is why my husband has a leather, rubber, vinyl obsession, known as a fetish, for the clothes, costumes and sexual props/toys he bought us and insisted we wear and use, and why he demands his bondage and passive sexual activities with me, both activities unknown to me until my husband, 9 years older than me, started his sexual relationship with me.'
In Reno court are documents and testimony from four independent witnesses who further confirm Morgan's, the Nevada Mrs. Olson, claims. Paul Hogan, Jim and Morganâ€™s Reno mechanic, testified he had seen Jim and Morgan over the last ten years as husband and wife, most recently in September 2006. Mr. Hogan also provided an Affidavit of Resident Witness in Morganâ€™s Reno divorce filing under oath that Jim and Morgan were together in Reno as husband and wife. Clara Stamulis, a client of Morgan, testified she saw Jim with Morgan several times in 2005 and again in 2006 in Morganâ€™s Reno office and knew Jim to be Morganâ€™s husband. Shari Proske, a Reno Greater Nevada Credit Union employee, testified she knew Jim to be Morganâ€™s husband and had seen them together at the Reno credit union on several occasions over the past four years, last seeing them together at the Reno credit union in Fall 2006. Josh Neel, the tenant renting one of the Reno properties that Jim and Morgan own, testified he met Jim in September 2006 at that property that he then rented from them, and was introduced to Jim as Morganâ€™s husband. Jim admits in both court's papers that he reconciled with Morgan in July 1996, and that he executed a Nevada Living Trust with her in October 2000 that made each of them their sole beneficiaries. That Trust is still valid as of today. Wonder what the California Mrs. Olson thinks of that?
In 1992, Jim was accused in an action brought by his then student teacher from Dominican College, Cindy Wood. According to the Marin court records, Mrs. James K. Olson (Morgan Olson) obtained a restraining order against Ms. Wood when dozens a night phone calls were traced to Ms. Wood by the Sausalito police. According to the court documents Morgan wrote 'When I went to the Marin Court against Ms. Wood, she attacked me in court screaming 'your husband is a pervert, a cross-dresser and' she 'had filed sexual misconduct and harassment charges' against my husband. That was the first I had heard of any of that. I obtained a restraining order against Ms Wood, and later a civil judgment.' In the recent Marin court documents there is a written reconciliation acknowledgment notarized in October 2000 in Marin by a Marin notary where Jim acknowledges his July 1996 reconciliation and reaffirmations of his February 16, 1991 wedding vows with Morgan. In the Marin court documents Morgan writes and there is the supporting document in the Marin court records that 'on June 14, 2000, my husband did indeed twice forge my married name on the purchase of a car in San Rafael, California when my husband signed 'J. Morgan Olson' with his 'JKO' initials next to it (see attachment). Since it is my belief we were married at that time as well as today, my husband makes a big leap over the credibility gap that this activity implies my husband 'violated a criminal law by forging Alexandraâ€™s signature,' as it was my belief then my husband had every right to forge my married Olson name when we bought the Buick in Marin as I didnâ€™t then, and still now, donâ€™t go to Marin. I havenâ€™t filed any criminal documents about it as I then and now donâ€™t consider it a criminal activity. This document supports my reasonable belief my husband and I are married as it, then and now, as my husband did forge my married name twice in our purchase of this car in San Rafael, California. He did it in the context of my husband, which is not a criminal activity.'
According to the Washoe County, Nevada public records, Jim and Morgan own five Reno properties titled in their still as of today valid Nevada Living Trust. There are copies of their Reno home owners and landlordâ€™s insurance policies in the names of James and Morgan Olson in the court records, with James Olson as the primary insured. If Jim isnâ€™t married to Morgan as he now claims, then heâ€™s been involved in several years of insurance fraud, and a few other frauds. Those Reno homeowners and landlord's policies are from both years before and after Jim's now claim of his marriage to his California wife, Lucy. Again wonder what the California Mrs. Olson thinks of that?
In the Marin court papers, Morgan wrote, 'I reasonably and in good faith believed, based on my husbandâ€™s claim of and then his 10 Â½ year of behavior since, he had dismissed his fourth Marin divorce filing and we are still married, and I and my husband continue to act such, married, through a series of behaviors and conduct for the next 10 Â½ years. My husband admits his July 1996 reconciliation with me. We had planned for me to move back to Marin, in with my husband at our Marin home when I retire, and then start selling our Reno properties. Divorce is not a handy vehicle for the summary disposal of old and used wives. Which is what my husband is now smugly alleging he did July 12, 1996, divorce me, while talking outside the other side of his mouth, his admission that he reconciled his marriage with me in July 1996. So now, several years later Iâ€™m suddenly the old and used 'former' wife, and an 'enraged' one at that according to my husband.'
One attorney suggested off-the-record Morgan file bankruptcy. "Aside from the community-property, quasi-community property or partnership fiduciary duties owed by Jim to Morgan, all legally valid arguments of Jim's culpability, Morgan has transferred monies to Jim over the years, relying on Jim's several representations, several of which he has admitted in the courts, so Morgan, therefore reasonable believed in good faith they had a relationship and future, now to her detriment. That's promissory estoppel. That puts Jim with per se unclean hands and per se intentional fraud. According to the court papers, the debt on the Reno properties is around $1.5. There are also those two $10,000 checks Morgan recently gave to Jim that exposed Jim's double-life. The Reno properties are owned by Jim and Morgan via their Nevada Living Trust. The bankruptcy trustee will go after Jim and collect from him for those monies as Jim clearly has fraudulently induced Morgan with his several year history of unclean hands into transferring them to him and used them to further fund his STRS (State Teachers Retirement account), his debt free ownership of his home in Novato, and gave money to his California wife. The normal exemption veil for Jim's retirement and home is pierced for Jim's fraud. Jim's rather heinous trail of intentional fraud forces any bankruptcy trustee to collect from him to pay off the creditors on those five Reno houses. Somewhere down the road I also anticipate Morgan's attorney will file an Abuse of Process against Jim and his attorney and collect big as his libel action and default restraining order against her are such shocking misuses of the legal system. They are what forces Morgan into bankruptcy."
A retired San Francisco attorney also commented off-the-record on this case. He says he rapidly heard about this case through the grapevine of the legal community as well as the Bay Area cross-dressing support groups of which he is an anonymous member. 'As a closeted transvestite now in my fifth marriage to another wife who doesnâ€™t know, and although I deliberately chose to live in a locale that should be socially accepting, sadly, itâ€™s just not true. I know of many heterosexual men in prominent positions who cross-dress, who are married and their wives do not know. Few, if any, women are happy with their manâ€™s transvestite behavior and are definitely not happy with any scenario involving their husband as a transvestite. Olson and his California wife (who obviously didnâ€™t know since Olson is fighting against it) live in a very narrow biased world subject to the pressures of exposure and embarrassment at now being outed in his double life. Even Olsonâ€™s attorney seems to have a righteous problem with it, writing mentally disturbed and a repugnant person of dubious moral character to describe Olson. Olson and his Nevada wife, who has known him for 25 years, and has adapted beyond the norm of most wives in her acceptance of him, only exists in Nevada. Thatâ€™s a double life.'
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