Saturday, January 19, 2019

What's She Thinking?

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It's in her eyes

Dating can be challenging, but for all the guys out there, interpreting what your lady's thinking can be half the battle.

If I were fully able to answer that question every time a man has sat and wondered, I’d be a multi-billionaire and herded through the streets as the greatest mind since Sir Isaac Newton.

It’s a topic men have spent their lifetimes trying to figure out. In the world of dating, this is something the male species should spend lots of time analyzing and evaluating in order to become successful.

To be able to read and accommodate your lady’s thought processes is the golden key to relationship longevity.

Women are extremely complex.

But they are vibrant and beautiful creatures. It does take lots of practice, patience and thought to figure them out.

And only after tons of dates and experiencing you and your buddies falling on their faces from repeated heartache, bullet wounds, rejection and eventual success do you start to scratch the surface.

Women are much more multidimensional and emotional than we are.

They always think with their heads and don’t take decisions lightly. They generally evaluate relationship scenarios with greater thought and contemplation before taking steps further.

Whereas we, more often than not, are focused on what our little heads are driving us to do.

There’s a huge difference, but learning to understand some basic psychology related to verbal and nonverbal mannerisms can help get you on the right path.

All men have one thing in mind when sitting down to dinner with the object of their affections – another dinner or at least a sign from her that she likes what she sees and hears.

The best way to accomplish this is:

Take note of her reactions as you speak.

Does she hold her gaze while you’re talking, or is she easily distracted by the athletic-looking dude in the corner? A woman’s eyes can tell you everything.

Is she nodding and smiling, inviting you to delve deeper into your subject? How about her body language? Are her shoulders relaxed? Does she occasionally tousle her hair while you’re pouring her another glass of wine?

Does she touch you, if only for a moment on the shoulder or hand? As you’re sitting across from her, is her posture slumped back or leaning closer and closer?

I can’t complete this paragraph without touching on cell phone etiquette. While you’re with her, is her phone tucked away, or does she leave it out, hoping for or even taking a call?

When you text her after dinner and the days following, does she respond fairly quickly or leave you hanging for days before reciprocating?

"The look in her eyes will always tell the tale"

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About the Writer

Randy Mitchell is a blogger on lifestyle, writing and relationship topics and is a published author of inspirational romance. His first novel "Sons In The Clouds" is available in paperback on Amazon. To read more about Randy, visit
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By Karina88 on March 05, 2014 at 06:19 am

That is so interesting stuff really as maybe

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