Have you ever felt it a bit odd when people say they are proud of their race, their skin color or even the country they are born in. All these things have absolutely nothing to do with you...they are just the "luck of the draw" or fate, which is outside of your control.
Seems to me if we want to be proud of something, it should entail all the important good things we have worked hard to achieve or create. Something which represents who you are and what you place value in; of which you are an active participant and have made it a priority in your life.
Pride can have both negative and positive connotations. If you have an inflated sense of your own status or accomplishments , in this case it could also be defined as vanity. One definition of pride comes from St. Augustine . "The love of ones own excellence"
The image is called "All Is Vanity", by Alan Gilbert. It depicts what appears to be a large grinning skull. But on closer examination it reveals a woman gazing at her reflection in a mirror. It warns viewers of the
ephemeral nature of youthful beauty, as well as the brevity of human life and the inevitability of the nature of death.
In the positive sense pride refers to taking satisfaction in reaching a goal which is self directed. It reinforces us to work harder and have direction in our lives. It flows from making certain values paramount in the way you walk through life. In some ways, it makes reaching decisions much easier. The term " my pride would not allow me to do that " talks to us of this understanding.
When seen in this positive sense, it also should tell us to be mindful of all the gifts we have been blessed with to be able to create and learn from our actions. When we fully recognize this and accept our blessings with humility., gratitude seems a more appropriate choice than pride.
"Generosity is giving more than you can, and taking less than you need" Kahlil Gibran