-----I truly feel your life is what you choose to make it.......and also so much has to do with HOW you want to perceive the world. You can have the attitude that nothing good ever happens to you and life sucks. Or on a positive note, you can decide that you will make a life for yourself that has meaning, purpose, and joy. Over the years I have worked with such a variety of people. Many of them dealing with so much pain , not having much positive in their lives.
Many having grown up in homes where there were addictions, emotional and physical abuse, sexual abuse and mental illness.....most anything, there is not much I have not heard over the years. All this being said, one of the first things I will tell them is,"that is where you came from, that is not where you have to stay or is it WHO you are"... It is not easy to break the cycle , but it can be done. It takes a lot of very hard work and commitment. Mostly commitment to yourself and believing that you really do deserve to be happy and have a good life. I slowly try to plant the seed of courage, faith, and POSSIBILITY....
I'm not sure where I found this but it is something I have kept knowing I would use it at some point . It very much expresses part of what I am trying to say. This is your dance, dance it with joy and faith in your heart.
Shall we dance? One of the most important lessons I've learned is that life is a dance. Sometimes you lead and sometimes you follow. When you lead, you do it gently, firmly and clearly, and when you follow, do you so with trust. The amazing thing is that each one of us is involved in many dances at any one time - and we are the leader in some and the follower in others! Some dances are slow and majestic and others are crazy and frenetic and still others are somewhere in between. Some last a lifetime - others are over almost as soon as they begin. Most of the time we manage not to fall flat on our faces, which is even more amazing and requires some pretty fancy footwork. And sometimes we do trip up or our toes get squashed and we get hurt - but the important thing is to keep on dancing - no matter what. Just keep dancing! Even if you can"t hear the music or you just don"t feel like it or you have acquired two left feet, keep on dancing!
Reminds me of the words of a Garth Brooks song: ...our lives are better left to chance. I could have missed the pain, but I"d have had to miss the dance.