For all its draw backs, online social networking connects isolated people with other like minded individuals. In my case, l felt marginalized by my parenting approach.Then I discovered the phrase "baby whisperers" as well as another blog, both which give credibility to my mothering methods. “Attachment parenting” is described on a warm, informative and professional looking yet engaging and down-to earth blog. The editor has actually asked me to become a staff writer. Looks like I have found kindred spirits and even more new friends.
When I first stumbled upon Catholic Attachment Parenting Corner, I reacted with a combination of surprise, delight and relief. Surprise that there was an official label and even a distinguished author who sanctioned the way I have mothered for 33 years, delight to discover a community of like-minded parents and profound relief to know that I am not alone.
For years I heard the older generation,shake their heads and tsk
“Really Melanie, there are easier ways to do things, you know.”
My response was always,
” I just cannot mother any other way”
This natural, from the heart sort of mothering is instinctual. I had never held a baby before my first child so and not inflict rigid expectations or methods upon my hapless infant,I looked, listened, reacted, watched and learned. Baby’s are not idiots you know. That insight is the foundation of a nurturing, give and take relationship with an infant who is a person in the fullest sense of the word, albeit a very little person.
My second insight was that I was not in some sort of victim relationship where I simply sacrificed myself for my children. No, being in a relationship means that if i am open, my little ones will love and nurture me as well. They taught me to delight in the little things.
people ask my husband and I,
” How on earth did you raise nine great young adults?
Interesting that many of these people criticized my devotion to my kids. I want to say,