Saturday, November 17, 2018

No Longer Marginalized

ahhh,..Finally they understand me

Who else has nine kids, lives on a farm and is now an obssessed writer?

For all its draw backs, online social networking connects isolated people with other like minded individuals. In my case, l felt marginalized by my parenting approach.Then I discovered the phrase "baby whisperers" as well as another blog, both which give credibility to my mothering methods. “Attachment parenting” is described on a warm, informative and professional looking yet engaging and down-to earth blog. The editor has actually asked me to become a staff writer. Looks like I have found kindred spirits and even more new friends.

When I first stumbled upon Catholic Attachment Parenting Corner, I reacted with a combination of surprise, delight and relief. Surprise that there was an official label and even a distinguished author who sanctioned the way I have mothered for 33 years, delight to discover a community of like-minded parents and profound relief to know that I am not alone.

For years I heard the older generation,shake their heads and tsk

“Really Melanie, there are easier ways to do things, you know.”

My response was always,

” I just cannot mother any other way”

This natural, from the heart sort of mothering is instinctual. I had never held a baby before my first child so and not inflict rigid expectations or methods upon my hapless infant,I looked, listened, reacted, watched and learned. Baby’s are not idiots you know. That insight is the foundation of a nurturing, give and take relationship with an infant who is a person in the fullest sense of the word, albeit a very little person.

My second insight was that I was not in some sort of victim relationship where I simply sacrificed myself for my children. No, being in a relationship means that if i am open, my little ones will love and nurture me as well. They taught me to delight in the little things.

people ask my husband and I,

” How on earth did you raise nine great young adults?

Interesting that many of these people criticized my devotion to my kids. I want to say,

“Well, dah….!”

About the Writer

My husband and I raised 9 children on a hobby farm and discovered fulfilment and joy.The very existence of a joyful mother of nine children seems to confound people. My writing is humourous and heart warming/ thoughtful and thought provoking with a strong current of spirituality running through it.
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By Shaun Gibson on August 26, 2013 at 09:17 pm

I was told by my Mother, that when I was young, 16, whatever and I was up town, getting up to what 16 year olds do, she would not fully sleep till she heard me coming through the door. I asked Dawn if she was the same, and she is. One of my sons works till 4am in Security, Dawn is half asleep, as soon as she hears him coming in, I see a smile, the hear ZZZzzzz

A mothers comfort I guess..

Good read

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By melanie jean juneau on August 26, 2013 at 09:23 pm

right you are

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By Shaun Gibson on August 27, 2013 at 10:02 am

Sarcasm? lol

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By melanie jean juneau on August 27, 2013 at 12:09 pm

not at all!!! no- I am agreeing with your insight

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By Shaun Gibson on August 27, 2013 at 12:52 pm

Sorry, always hard to read a comment and be sure what it means :0) Especially for idiot like myself, lol

Good blog, just thought I would add the Mother who can't sleep till the kid is home. Was it something you did yourself? I know many Mums say this. I often wonder if it's some kind of in-built coping mechanism..


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