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If You Had to Live Your Life Over Again

by Coach Phatty (writer), North Jersey, April 21, 2013

If you had the chance and could turn back the hands of time...what would you change from your past??

Life is precious. It goes by so fast it's amazing. I just turned 50 earlier this year and I can't believe how fast the years have flown by. My grandmother used to say "the oleder you get...the days get longer and the years get shorter." How true it is!! I have also realized something else, I am beginning to think to myself more and more..what could I have done different in my life. What would I have changed?

It has always been interesting to me to walk through a graveyard and see all the tombstones. The thing that has always intrigued me is this...when I see the engraved tombstones of people who have passed on, most of them have two dates inscribed on them...the birth date and the date of their death seperated by a hyphen...what did their "hyphen" represent? The hyphen represents their ENTIRE LIFETIME. This is when I ask myself, what kind of life did this person have? Did the person regret things that they had done? Did they have a good life? Would they have changed things during their lifetime if they could? Would they have thought that their life was successful or a failure? etc. Interesting thoughts...

Anyway, I recently came across a story wirtten by a lady, Erma Bombeck after she found out that she was dying from cancer ( which allowed me to think about areas in my life that I can control now. There is no healthy reason to dwell on the past regarding things that I can no longer do anything about. So, I am moving on and focusing on ways that will make my life more postive, whole, and enjoyable.

Here is Erma's story...

I would have gone to bed when I was sick instead of pretending the earth would go into a holding pattern if I weren't there for the day.

I would have burned the pink candle sculpted like a rose before it melted in storage.

I would have talked less and listened more.

I would have invited friends over to dinner even if the carpet was stained, or the sofa faded.

I would have eaten the popcorn in the 'good' living room and worried much less about the dirt when someone wanted to light a fire in the fireplace.

I would have taken the time to listen to my grandfather ramble about his youth.

I would never have insisted the car windows be rolled up on a summer day because my hair had just been teased and sprayed.

I would have sat on the lawn with my children and not worried about grass stains.

I would have cried and laughed less while watching television – and more while watching life.

I would never have bought anything just because it was practical, wouldn't show soil, or was guaranteed to last a lifetime.

Instead of wishing away nine months of pregnancy, I'd have cherished every moment and realized that the wonderment growing inside me was the only chance in life to assist God in a miracle.

When my kids kissed me impetuously, I would never have said, "Later. Now go get washed up for dinner."

There would have been more of "I love you" and more "I'm sorry." But mostly, given another shot at life, I would seize every minute, look at it and really see it, live it...and never give it back.

Stop sweating the small stuff. Don't worry about who doesn't like you, who has more, or who's doing what. Instead, let's cherish the relationships we have with those who DO love us.

Let's think about what God HAS blessed us with. And what we are doing each day to promote ourselves mentally, physically, emotionally, as well as spiritually.

Life is too short to let it pass you by.


So, what are YOU going to do with your life to makes things better? Help others? Demonstrate your love to your loved ones? Take time each day to REALLY enjoy your surroundings and the world around you? The choice is yours.

What would you do?

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Coach Phatty is a writer for BrooWaha. For more information, visit the writer's website.
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By Barbara MacDonald on April 22, 2013 at 01:02 pm

We have that in common Rich...I too love walking through graveyards and reading tombstones. Great article, and certainly I have asked myself this question. Truthfully, even though when I look back I am able to see where I went wrong at times, I still would not change most of my greatest lessons have come through this.

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By Credo on April 22, 2013 at 01:27 pm

Superb question! I imagine that I would improve on many of the things that you discuss in your article, they are all well worth considering. Erma's story was inspirational as well as motivating, it certainly provokes change for the better.

Thought provoking article.


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