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Artfully Coloring A Lie Still Tells a “Big Fish” Story

by HomeRearedChef (writer), San Jose, February 22, 2013

The truth when artfully told still tells a “big fish” story.

There is a fine line when attempting to tell the truth mingled with “a little white lie;” a little white lie still tells an “honest lie.” And there are “honest” people that lying has become second nature to. Lying is their first language.

“Fool me once, shame on you! Fool me twice shame on me!” Fool me a third time, shockingly, how stupid am I? Well, let’s not talk about it. It’s not that some of us are gullible, but in our defense some of us just want to believe the best in people; to believe they’ll change, that they’ll turn a new leaf…because some of us have a big heart. Or maybe we are simply gullible!

My father often admonished that if we couldn’t speak the truth then we shouldn’t speak at all. Along the same lines that if you have nothing nice to say to someone, then don’t say anything at all!

It’s bad enough to be lied to by someone you don’t know, but lied to by someone you’ve trusted, someone close—lied to by a loved one—is crushing, heartbreaking, devastating. Many liars just can’t help themselves; their lies flow easy, like turning on a faucet. And a liar doesn’t really take the time to think about the repercussions, and if they do, they immediately dismiss them.

Pathological liars are diseased with lying; they tell a lie today, and after-the-fact cry with true remorse. When they are caught, they will pour-out their hearts with the fresh pain of what they’ve done, but then tomorrow they are back to lying again.

Lying, telling “big fish” stories, usually hurts everyone involved. But worse, when the liar is caught, sadly, and most often, they will never be believed. Like the little boy who cried wolf.

So liars everywhere be warned!

We dream a life to be; we live to dream that life! (vka)

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12 comments on Artfully Coloring A Lie Still Tells a “Big Fish” Story

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By Uttam Gill on February 23, 2013 at 01:51 am

The first casualty to lies is innocence...And I had my bitter experience at the age of 23...I was brutally betrayed by a girl to whom I was about to marry...She left a scar on my psych and I honestly submit that could never come out of that...

There are habitual liar who for their own reasons try to paint a picture to address their own compulsive disorder to seek attention and that’s how while doing so they try and gain emotional retribution for reasons best known to them.

Being absolute honest at time brings in wrath of a at times I listen to sad songs and she ask me that do I remember that girl...I say yes, she further ask...was she beautiful...I say yes...she ask more, why can’t she go out of my mind..I say because she betrayed me and I remember the betray and I am not bitter about that but my past scares me...and that I remember that

She says it is better at times not to speak truth and counsel that never share my core feelings with anybody...keep my cards close to my chest...As I understand because she holds a worldly wisdom to protect me from the people who are waiting to pounce on me and to ridicule me...I appreciate her concern... ...I don’t know if she is happy about this or not but we are together for 28 years of our marriage...GLADIATORS OF MARRIED

I own up that I am neither a saint nor a sinner...

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By melanie jean juneau on February 23, 2013 at 01:55 am

Uttam- that response needs to be developed into a powerful srticle

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By riginal on February 23, 2013 at 03:55 am

HRC i am struck dumb! Would that our pollies have your piece engraved in their souls and only speak truth.Or be forced to 'wolf' down major lies...regurgitate them and have their mouths washed out with the soap of truth.The silence is deafening!You go girl. Wouldn't a lot of court cases and money be saved if the guilty owned up with a simple yes or no? Oops! i forgot about re-employment opportunities for some destitute lawyers...and the occasional patholigical car dealer? Great article.

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By riginal on February 23, 2013 at 04:04 am

Sorry, meant a simple yes for the guilty. So used to watching soap opera drama. Freudian slip. Cheers. Maybe 'fraud again slip.'

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By HomeRearedChef on February 23, 2013 at 02:09 pm

Uttam, your word are spoken with so much feeling that I can actually feel the pain you about. I think I can say that I, too, carry a scar as well (isn't that the case when we are young?), but I am glad to also add that it is now just a memory and no longer a pain I feel. Whew! I didn't want that to last forever.

You have been married 28 years! Ho awesome is that!! My husband and I have been married 31. That is a lot of years and yet I feel as if they've just flown by. :)

I hope you are enjoying your weekend, my friend.

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By HomeRearedChef on February 23, 2013 at 02:11 pm

Melanie, I concur! :)

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By HomeRearedChef on February 23, 2013 at 02:13 pm

Riginal, some of the best "Freudian slips" are the best ones. lol!

By the way, when my brother and I told lies, my mom and dad would actually wash out our mouths with soap. And let me tell you that soap does not taste good!

Cheers and hasta luego, Amigo!

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By Barbara MacDonald on February 23, 2013 at 02:43 pm

Oh dear Virginia, I am so like you when it comes to lies...I always prefer the truth, even if it will hurt me, at least then you know what u are dealing with...and to me it is a matter of respect. One thing that I always can promise a friend, is I will not lie to you.

My own children learned this over the years...that it was better to "own up" than lie to their Mother. The punishment would always be worst for a lie than admitting what they had done...

The whole soap in the mouth, yep, I remember that as a child too...and yes it sucked, but I did learn a lesson from it.

@Uttam, I know how much this hurt you my dear friend. we had talked on this many times. and yes, letting go of the pain from betrayal is hard and takes time to heal. I pray someday you will lay it to rest and realize maybe it was meant to be, that you are exactly where you should be.

I have dealt with betrayal too more than once in my life...and yes it took me some time to get past it and let down some walls I had built....but in the end I needed to forgive, because it was keeping me trapped in the pain...I let go and let God...

Wonderfully expressed dear friend. hugs

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By HomeRearedChef on February 23, 2013 at 03:15 pm

Dear Barbara, mi good Amiga, I'll tell you that I was a compulsive liar when I was young. But something changed me when I got older. I cannot lie. I'd rather face the music now, telling the truth, than feeling worse later by having told a lie. It always but always catches up to you.

I had a younger brother (he's passed now) that would tell you up-front: "If you don't want to know the truth cause it might hurt you, then don't ask me!" :)

Much BIG hugs back at you, dear friend.

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By Barbara MacDonald on February 23, 2013 at 03:56 pm

Sorry taking me a bit to get phone keeps ringing and I am busy making a turkey breast for dinner and some mashed potatoes with cream cheese and sour cream wth bread crumbs on topped and old recipe from my ex Mother -In Law...I am so sorry about your brother mi amiga...I know you had mentioned this before...hugs...I lost a sister years ago when I was like 5 years old to Rheumatic fever...

They say it is better to tell the truth because then you don't have to try to remember too many things..

I loved this Virginia...such a great ink dear lady...hugs

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By HomeRearedChef on February 27, 2013 at 02:38 pm

Thank you dear amiga Barbara! :)

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