Its Valentine's Day week, that wonderful time of year when significant others spend a little time expressing, and sharing their common attraction. For many, it’s a time of reflection, a day of sharing that certain chemistry bringing souls together, a period of needed sexual bliss, an occasion where hearts communicate a little bit deeper, and even moments when personalities come together for the very first time.
In the fifty years I’ve been alive, I’ve experienced, desired, wanted, expressed, shared, rejected, and written about love. I’ve wanted to be loved by the wrong people, later realizing God had given me the greatest gift by not letting it happen. Some have wanted my love, only to have me say “no” because I knew they weren’t a good match for my personality, and didn’t give me that certain weak-in-the-knees reaction. There is perhaps nothing between human beings which is more complex, and wanted than the feeling of love. And, I do believe that when true soul mates find each other, nothing on earth can match that crazy, irresistible feeling. It’s something God created ever since Adam and Eve strolled through that glorious garden. It’s an all-consuming, wanted way-of-life when you find that one-in-a-million, diamond-in-the-rough fulfilling your life beyond your wildest dreams.
Valentine’s Day, for many, comes with all sorts of over-the-top expectations. Many everywhere value the gifts they receive as a reflection of their relationships. Get some flowers, “Hmm, okay.” Chocolates, “What else ya got?” Tickets for a nice vacation somewhere, “How wonderful!” A new car, gold Rolex, or house, “Wow, you must really love me!”
I say, gifts are always nice and do make your significant other feel good, but, how about, in addition to the items from the mall, simply sitting down and writing how you feel, better yet, looking them in the eyes and expressing how you feel therefore making them actually experience your love. Take them on a handheld, evening walk like you did when you first started dating. Turn the phone and TV off and share some uninterrupted conversation (so rare today). Go rekindle, and relive those first moments and places which brought you together in the first place. Many things, money simply can’t put a price on. And some of the best things in life, especially when it comes to love, truly are free.
I’m always entertained watching the commercialization of Valentine’s Day on television. We’ve all seen them: those happy, tearful ads showing that four-foot-tall Teddy Bear being thrust into outstretched arms, the endless displays of rose-engulfed flower arrangements, those overstuffed boxes of chocolates and candy-coated strawberries, even new movie releases coincidentally shown on the day of lovers. It’s a big business, Valentine’s Day, one which almost everyone who has a significant other takes part in. I think it’s all great, but should also be placed in proper perspective. After all, material items only last for a short while, eventually losing their charms sometimes only hours later. But love, true love, well that’s something which lasts way beyond the attention of Valentine’s Day.
Valentine’s Day, or the Feast of St. Valentine has been observed for many centuries. It draws, and reunites people together for the purpose of making, celebrating, and experiencing love. It gives many an opportunity to rekindle established love, and to start new. It’s a wonderful day to draw in a deep breath, place aside worldly demands, and take the opportunity to appreciate those in your life who both give, and receive your love.
For all the love out there, Happy Valentine's Day!