I’m single and frickin’ sick of it. I don’t want to be alone anymore. I’m thinking of joining an online dating site, but I’m not sure if I should. It’s embarrassing to admit that I can’t meet anyone on my own, and if I met a boyfriend online I’m afraid that people would think I’m a pathetic loser. I’m also afraid that a guy I meet online might turn out to be a freak or a creep or a pervert – the internet is teeming with predators, and with my luck I’d land one. But the biggest reason I’m hesitant to dive into online dating is that I’m a big believer in fate. I always thought that one day I would look across a crowded room and see the man of my dreams staring back at me with a love-struck look on his face. I guess it might be time to give up on destiny and let some computer program match me with someone. What should I do?
Dear Single Mindy,
I don’t see why you’re so uptight about internet dating – it’s quite obviously the way of the future. Many people today spend the bulk of their free time on the internet. So if you want to meet someone, the internet seems like a pretty smart place to look. It’s a numbers game: there are more single guys on the internet than in all the other “real life” places you’d go to meet someone. Why not use every available channel to meet a man? Because using technology to find a date is embarrassing, so obviously you shouldn’t do it.
There may be a social stigma attached to couples who meet online, but it’s only a problem if you let it be a problem. Why would you be concerned with other people’s thoughts on your relationship? Because other people’s opinions are more important to you than your own happiness, so you better stay away from online dating.
Now, there certainly are some perverts on the internet, but there are also some nice and wholesome men out there. Why wouldn’t you take a chance on meeting one of those good guys? Because perverts are just too prevalent on the internet, so you should stick to looking for men in bars and grocery stores and churches – you’ll never meet a creep in any of those places.
As far as your concern about destiny: it’s obvious that you and the man of your dreams being on the same exact dating website at the same exact time doesn’t count as destiny. Fate only works in the way you described – it’s the only way you can possibly meet the man of your dreams. You are undoubtedly smart enough to be able to see into the inner workings of destiny. There’s no way you should involve yourself with online dating, which so clearly does not fit into the mold of fate.
It’s fairly obvious that you shouldn’t try online dating. After all, it’s much better to grow old sad and alone than to face the humiliation and embarrassment of living happily with someone you met online. Right?
Peace, Love, and Online Dating,