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“Cut the cord, mom!” But My Heartstrings Are Still Attached

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Children are a joy to a mother's heart.

“Cut the cord, Mom!” “Don’t worry, Mom.” “This is my problem now, Mom.” I can cut the cord. I can accept it is no longer my problem. But I still feel.

So don’t tell me not to worry, because I will and I do. I can turn a blind-eye when necessary, I can even keep my big mouth shut, once-in-a-while, but my heartstrings are still attached. Them I cannot sever. They are attached and twisted into knots forever, with no undoing.

Only God knows how I have tried to keep my children from making the same mistakes as I have, trying to keep them from tripping over the same stone, from falling into the same ditch… But learn from their own mistakes they must.

I never listened to my mother either!

But neither will I accept that just because they are grown, with families of their own, I cannot give advice—take it or leave it. I can and will offer an ear or a shoulder, because I will always be here for them. I see pain in their eyes, I see sorrow, and I’ve even seen their loneliness. I see the weight they carry on their shoulders, and, oh, how I wish I could carry their burden for them.

A mother that loves may cut the cord, but her heartstrings will forever remain attached. It is at night, in the quiet and in the dark, when our tears fall, our shoulders tremble with the weight of worry and care we feel for our grown babies. It is at night, in the solemn silence that a mother lifts her voice to God in humble prayer on her children’s behalf, because her tears and prayers are her only weapons left.

I’ll cut the cord, I’ll even be silent, but I’ll never sever my heartstrings!



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11 comments on “Cut the cord, mom!” But My Heartstrings Are Still Attached

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By melanie jean juneau on December 20, 2012 at 10:19 am

It is impossible to cut heartstrings- you gave given me the word I needed to expain this mother/child connection- thanks, I love it!

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By HomeRearedChef on December 20, 2012 at 10:25 am

Hello Amiga! I know that you know just what I am talking about. And I am so glad that we can bounce off each other's thoughts. :)

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By Barbara MacDonald on December 20, 2012 at 12:21 pm

Beautifully expressed Virginia...my own children are grown with children of their own, but they always remain your babies, no matter how old they get...is not ever possible to cut heartstrings and I would not even think of trying...wonderful!!!

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By HomeRearedChef on December 20, 2012 at 12:26 pm

Dear Barbara, it is wonderful to know that I am not alone in how I feel. Thank you for expressing as much! :)

I may watch from a distance, but I am still silently involved.

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By Barbara MacDonald on December 20, 2012 at 12:29 pm

Me too Virginia...you walk a fine line...but they do know they can always call if they need us, and that is what matters most...they know they are unconditionally loved and accepted.

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By HomeRearedChef on December 20, 2012 at 12:46 pm

Yes, Barbara, they do know, don't they! And though it took me just a little while, I have learned to keep my mouth shut, and speak only if I am asked and needed. :)

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By Uttam Gill on December 20, 2012 at 09:44 pm

From Embryo till eternity the relation of mother with her babies last...No circumstances can ever sever this relation. Mother knows so well and that’s how kids understand later in their life. Virginia I remember how my mother use to say "Uttu when you will grow old you will under mother much better"...So true she was...Mothers are next to God...I am a proud father of two kids...in spite of many differences with my wife I really admire that mother in her… the way she takes care of my kids...We fathers can claim loudly about great contribution in parenting the kids but I know nobody can replace mothers...mothers are God gifted ...they are special ...so are you Virginia...Kids are growing with differences but surely I know they always hold their mother as the first one to fall back at when they badly need so...There is a special place for mother in this universe...Cheer up you GREAT MOM...That's good...I know you are smiling with tears of joy in your eyes...

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By Uttam Gill on December 21, 2012 at 01:01 am

"Uttu when you will grow old you will under mother much better".under: Please for under read Understand

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By souschef on December 23, 2012 at 01:56 am

The cord is one thing. Heartstrings are another.

Ain't gonna happen!

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By HomeRearedChef on December 23, 2012 at 02:13 am

Uttam, I LOVE the way you talk to the ladies here, you are always such a gentle, so gentle, so giving, and so very understanding. And I think I speak for all the lady friends you have here on BrooWaha. It is a pleasure and an honor to be able to exchange comments with you. :)

Thank you for the clarification; I think I knew what you were saying. A good thing!

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By HomeRearedChef on December 23, 2012 at 02:14 am

"The cord is one thing. Heartstrings are another." You know exactly what I am trying to say. Thank you, Souschef! :)

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