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The Reality of Living with Menopause

by HomeRearedChef (writer), San Jose, November 27, 2012

If only Menopausal life was rosy!

There is so much that nobody tells you; of how everything in your life will change, once you’ve become full-blown menopausal. No manual can prepare you on How to Live in the Skin of Menopause.

For some (like me), the never-ending up and down experiences have been, to some degree, rather traumatizing. And because there isn’t a manual, per say, I thought I’d brave to share just a little of what my life has been since becoming menopausal, and much of which have become embarrassing moments.

Sure, there is plenty of information out there, in books and on the internet, on what symptoms to expect: hot flashes, night sweats, loss of libido, mood swings, fatigue, sleep disorder, difficulty concentrating, memory lapses, weight gain, depression, anxiety, irritability, headaches, joint name a few. I found a list of 34. And though everyone’s experiences differ to a great degree, what we each feel is real enough.

I have spoken to a handful of women that were courageous enough to share with me just what they have actually gone through with their change of life: out-of-nowhere outbursts that takes those you love by complete surprise, the overwhelming feeling of desperation and unsettling anxiety, the drowning loneliness—a fading into a realm of non-existence. And even dealing with thoughts of suicide, an unexpected side they would have never believed possibly could plague their thoughts.

Reading about menopause and actually living in the skin of menopause is a whole other story. Trying to describe and even attempting to convince someone that you are no longer the same person is, well, far from easy without sounding crazy! Some days we benefit from the company of loved ones, and on other days it is a great irritation—a real struggle to keep from screaming out to be left alone, as you desperately seek solitude.

The drive to work-out and eat healthy is one-week-on and two-weeks-off. I lose ground just when I think I am making progress.

So the battle to get fit and healthy rages on!

For some of us, our bad days far outweigh our good days. For me, I often see my life as being over—as if my days were numbered—not much to look forward to now. And where I once believed I was an attractive woman, now I can no longer see beyond my appearing wrinkles and multiplying gray hairs.

Hence my youth is gone and old age is quickly creeping up on me. Where once resided happy security, fear and doubt have taken over, and this is just no way to live!

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By Katrina Lowrey on November 27, 2012 at 11:21 am

Some people have a rougher ride than others. I'm sorry you are suffering. Have you looked into natural hormone replacement therapy? It helps you feel healthier even if you are still getting and looking older.

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By melanie jean juneau on November 27, 2012 at 11:47 am

ah Virginia- Katrina is right, some natural therapies REALLY work and are safe- you need to be kind to yourself, your body and (smile) those around you., even tough ou hate synthetic drugs. Tou will want to pitch me in a lake but I do not that think I have any symptoms at all

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By HomeRearedChef on November 27, 2012 at 01:24 pm

Yes, Katrina, I agree, others do have a rougher ride, and I know of plenty of them that have it worse than I do. But I also understand that it is good to talk about it, too. And in writing, I hope to show other menopausal women, going through the same thing, that we are not alone, or crazy. And yes, there is help out there. :)

Thank you for your visit.

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By HomeRearedChef on November 27, 2012 at 01:27 pm

Hi there Melanie! I am so glad that you are not affected by menopause, and, NO, I would not throw you in a lake because I am jealous. lol!

My doctor tells me that exercise is also very helpful. So I am trying here. :)

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By souschef on November 27, 2012 at 01:55 pm

What you describe does not sound like fun. Great description though!

Me, personally, I would prefer the exercise/fitness path to deal with it.

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By HomeRearedChef on November 27, 2012 at 02:16 pm

Yes, Souschef, I, too, prefer the idea of exercise & fitness much better to drugs. Thank you for commenting! :)

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