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Tuesday, December 12, 2017

Sweet Child Of Mine...

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" You may give them your love but not your thoughts, For they have their own thoughts. " Kahlil Gibran...



Please do not think I don't care when I tell you I am letting go...by doing this I am offering you total respect. Does this seem confusing? Let me try to explain so you know my intention.

My sweet child, I will always stand with you and for you... letting you grow to be all that you can means I have to surrender trying to "fix" everything for you. Allowing you to make mistakes , so that you will learn from this who and what you value in life. Teaching through natural consequences; which I believe will make you stronger . You will face many obstacles in life, and as your Mother, I wish to protect you and keep you safe from pain or harm.

I admit I am powerless at times to control what you may face. I promise to hold your hand while you explore this world. I will guide you if you ask...but I also am no able to make your decisions for you. I know the outcome is often not in my hands. I will not try to change you or define you as I wish you to be...I will pray for acceptance and understanding , when your wants and choices are beyond my scope of knowing.

Please understand that if I chastise it does not mean I do not love you. Rather, it means I love you enough to want to save you from making the mistakes I may have made as a young woman. I remember my Mother wanting to teach me ...but when I was young I also thought I knew it all. Now when I look back, I know how wise my Mother was.

As much as I want to protect you, I know you have to face the reality of your own actions. If you fall, I will offer my hand to lift you, and walk with you through your journey. There is such a fine line between holding on and letting go as a parent. A hard lesson to learn, that I no longer can keep you swaddled in my love. I pray I have taught you what is important in life and that I have been a good example for you.

My sweet child, may God always keep you safely in his hands...

"And though they are with you yet they belong not to you." The Prophet




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By HomeRearedChef on November 12, 2012 at 05:20 pm

I think the greatest words a parent will one day hear from their child is that they understand why we had to say "no" the times we did. At those times that our children did not understand the reasons "why," they think they hate us for it. But how wonderful when the light-bulb goes on, even if it is many years later. :)

"If you fall, I will offer my hand to lift you..." I love these words, Barbara.

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By Barbara MacDonald on November 12, 2012 at 05:29 pm

Thank you so much Virginia...my children are now grown, and it is a fine line you walk...as we want to protect them...but also need to respect their choicesas adults ...is very much a balancing act...So true what you say...I can remember telling my children "It is my job to have you hate me ...but someday you will thank me for saying no..."... and when they them become parents themselves is when the "light bulb" goes off. this...Hope you get your article posted...

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By Barbara MacDonald on November 12, 2012 at 05:31 pm

dah... i so wish they had a edit feature on here... cross out the one them... lol.

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By melanie jean juneau on November 12, 2012 at 06:46 pm

I think the word contol , not hate is the opposite of love

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By Barbara MacDonald on November 12, 2012 at 06:56 pm

Very true Melanie, we have to love them for who they are and let them find their own passions in life...is especially true as they grow into adults...

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By HomeRearedChef on November 12, 2012 at 07:24 pm

Melanie, my oldest once told me she "hated" me for the choices I made for her while she was a child. Actually, she told me she hated me a couple of time. lol! Now, as an adult and a mother of two, she has has finally said to me that she now understands my reasons. Those words made me cry, but tears of joy. :)

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By Barbara MacDonald on November 12, 2012 at 07:51 pm

My middle daughter turned my hair gray ...lol ...she had ADHD...(my special Sunshine)...then she had a son with this and understood so much...life has a way of teaching us...That's beautiful Virginia, I know the feeling... :-)

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By Uttam Gill on November 12, 2012 at 09:45 pm

What a great expression of expectations, aspirations and devotion of a mother...Simply outstanding…each word is so true...Transformation and transition brings in lot of change in kids and also the parents...Parents bear the burden of uncertainty and kids holds the dreams of surety...In the given space of life, that’s how they both explore and at a given time, they resides to a thoughts which are conducive enough for safe and happy living...This continues and when kids grow and become parents, they too encounter this articulating phenomena...Accept the space and give the space...that's how life goes on...Barb, It is an outstanding article

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By Barbara MacDonald on November 12, 2012 at 10:01 pm

Thank you so much Uttam...you are so kind in your comments ...I was searching my heart while wrting this...I wanted my children to understand how very much they are treasured... Even when they are grown with children of their own,,, we always will be their Mother... and yes I agree... we have to give them the space to grow...:-)

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By idalia88 on June 27, 2014 at 08:19 am

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