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AMERICA, And the Reality of My So-Called “American Dream”

by HomeRearedChef (writer), San Jose, November 02, 2012

I want to begin by saying that though I wasn’t born here I am proud to be an American.

I was merely eight-years-old when I first came to this country, a foreigner, born in Managua, Nicaragua. And though I was just a young child, I can remember hearing many wonderful things about this great nation. America is the land of opportunity! But America has let me down.

My husband and I got married in 1982, and we began our lives with high hopes and dreams for a fruitful future. We talked; we decided; and we divided our responsibilities as a young couple purposed for a family: he would bring home the bacon and I would temporarily give up my career to become a SAHM (stay-at-home-mom). After a few short years, our family grew to be five, and with the help of his mother, we bought our first home; a spanking new 5-bedroom, 3-bathoom home with a large yard—ample room for our little family to grow.

After a few years (in 1990) we began to see the spiraling of jobs in the Silicon Valley, and my husband was finally hit and laid off in November 1992. He was out of work for eleven long months. And if it wasn’t for all the rains and flooding taking place in the Mid-West, the recipient of our mortgage, we would have lost our home in a matter of months. Sadly, the devastation in one place managed to buy us time in California, from being put to the street.

Though my husband finally got a good paying job, it would not be enough to get us back on our feet. We landed face down when we realized we would not be able to meet the mortgage payments from too many months to catch up on. We had to give up on our dream home.

Sometime later, in yet another November month, we saw the loss of another job; that meant packing up and moving again. And over the next thirteen years we would pack and unpack and move a total of seven times—not including a period we even lived out of our car and at the mercy of family and friends who would house us for a little while.

But we never gave up believing that we would one day get back on our feet and be able to own a home again. But today, it is the year 2012, my husband and I are 56 and 57 years-old, and though we are glad to report that my husband has a job and we have a roof over our heads and food on our table, our dreams of owning a home again have crumbled to dust. Worse, still, our dreams, our many years of planning for our retirement, have been blown to bits, too. One small retirement plan was cannibalized for our survival during a zero income period.

How does one learn to have faith again and believe in the impossible? We’ve picked up the shattered pieces of our broken lives as best we could and now live each day still hoping and waiting for that miracle of miracles. Our story is the reason why, after not voting in 24-years, we are now registered and heading to the polls this November 7, 2012. We hope our vote can make a difference somehow.

We dream a life to be; we live to dream that life! (vka)



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11 comments on AMERICA, And the Reality of My So-Called “American Dream”

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By HomeRearedChef on November 02, 2012 at 01:49 pm

Attention Readers: please forgive the oops in my article. Voting day this 2012 is November 6th and not the 7th. My apologies.

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By souschef on November 02, 2012 at 02:13 pm

All that would indeed be depressing.

Glad to see you still with us!

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By HomeRearedChef on November 02, 2012 at 02:26 pm

I, too, am very glad to still be here. Thank you!

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By Randy Mitchell on November 02, 2012 at 04:24 pm

I'm sorry to hear of your family's troubles, however, America is still the best country in the world. I was born here, and have also been on the receiving end of layoffs. A huge part of our troubles have been the oursourcing of jobs to foreign countries. This must be replaced by leadership who lowers corporate tax rates, believes in entrepreneurship, and keeps personal taxes low. I wish you, and yours better luck in the near future.

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By HomeRearedChef on November 02, 2012 at 04:40 pm

Hello Randy! What you say is true, America is STILL the best country in the world to live in. In spite of all that we've gone through, and I know full well we are not alone, I would not want to live anywhere else. We do have a better fighting chance to make it, here in the U.S.A.

My husband believes as you do, that a big part of lack of jobs in America is the outsourcing to foreign countries. So here's keeping our fingers crossed for American life to right itself.

Thank you, Randy, for your comment. It is appreciated.

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By Lartinos on November 02, 2012 at 06:13 pm

Please don't waste your vote on Obama or Romney as they are nothing more than a mouthpiece to the elite class. Vote For a third party like Gary Johnson or Jill Stein. The American dream is actually a lie as Canada now has more economic mobility than the United States. (according to a new study)

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By HomeRearedChef on November 02, 2012 at 06:22 pm

Latinos, you've given me something else to think about and consider here. You are right; just becasue they are the dominant candidates doesn't mean that either would be the right choice. Like I said, I am very nervous for voting day. Good luck to all of us. And thank you for stopping by. :)

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By Uttam Gill on November 02, 2012 at 09:20 pm

I surely can see your struggle; how you and your husband toiled hard.Yes your vote will make a difference and surely for better.I only pray and wish your dreams come true...Keep it up...

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By HomeRearedChef on November 03, 2012 at 01:14 am

Thank you, Uttam Gill, for those very nice words. You have given me reason to smile tonight. :)

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By Barbara MacDonald on November 03, 2012 at 05:16 pm

I am a citizen of the USA...but have dual citizenship and have lived now many years in Canada...even though I live here, I am still able to vote by proxy...every vote counts...I read your struggle Virginia, but perhaps it has made you rich in love and knowledge you would never of known without this struggle...

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By HomeRearedChef on November 04, 2012 at 12:49 am

Yes, "Rich in love and knowledge," is so very true, Barbara. Though I wish we'd not gone through all that we did, I can now better understand others facing similar situations. I now feel compassion and even love for them. I am now able to pray for them with a real heart, because I understand better. :)

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