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What Is Really Important In Life?

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Children are or first priority

When Life is Stripped Down to The Basics

One afternoon before Easter, I was ironing cotton dresses and shirts for church the next day. Six year old Mara watched for a while and then pointed to the iron and asked,

"What is that mummy?"

I laughed because I realized that this little girl had never seen me iron; I usually used the clothes dryer as my wrinkle smoother when I wasn't looking for perfection but rather efficiency. Actually it was not just the iron that seldom received attention as I mothered a large family, something that I considered essential was eliminated from my life with the birth of every child.

Painting portraits went with Matthew. Other births gave the boot to crafts, dusting, bread making, interesting meals and laundry folding ( each child dressed out of their own personal laundry basket). As every mother knows, a newborn takes at least eight hours a day to nurse, burp, rock and comfort, bath, change clothes and diapers( at least ten times a day), and to wash diapers, clothes, receiving blankets, sheets and baby blankets as well as your clothes which tend to get covered in vomit, and other nasty surprises.

The lack of sleep leads to a rather narrow existence where the best days are when you can sneak in a nap or shower and dress before noon. Oh, those were the days when life was reduced to the basics.

Guess what?

Those basics were actually miraculous when I relaxed and allowed myself to live in the moment, enjoying my newborn rather than bemoaning all the important activities that I couldn't seem to even start. The very fact that everything that my little one required to grow and thrive was inexpensive and near at hand was amazing. My baby didn't need a lot of money spent on him, he simply needed arms to hold him, mother's milk to drink and warm clothes and blankets.

A friend who had five children, couldn't quite grasp my peaceful demeanour as I sat nursing a newborn with family life whirling about me. She finally surmised that I was content to enjoy the present experience of mothering a tiny, dependant newborn.

I think that I was given the gift of understanding that although I strove to run the household well, ultimately I trusted that my failings would be covered and hidden by Love.

About the Writer

My husband and I raised 9 children on a hobby farm and discovered fulfilment and joy.The very existence of a joyful mother of nine children seems to confound people. My writing is humourous and heart warming/ thoughtful and thought provoking with a strong current of spirituality running through it.
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By HomeRearedChef on November 02, 2012 at 05:09 pm

Melanie, I just love how you have viewed your life as a mother. So much love and peace of spirit exudes from you. I believe you have a lot to share with other women/mommies.

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By melanie jean juneau on November 02, 2012 at 08:19 pm

thank-you Virginia; wehave similar views on life and family

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By Uttam Gill on November 02, 2012 at 09:31 pm

You are always so inspiring not only to mothers but father of two grown up kids like me. I certainly read your article with keen interest...YOU ARE A GREAT HOME MAKER...BE WITH US...SHARE WITH US AND INSPIRE US...YOU ARE AN ASSET TO BROOWAHA COMMMUNITY

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By melanie jean juneau on November 02, 2012 at 11:38 pm

I am speechless and humbled- which rarely happens

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