Why is it that we find it so hard to surrender, and what does this really mean? Somehow the word can bring negativity to mind, especially when our comfort zone lies in being in control. I would like you today to consider another context to surrender.( enlarging the definition and putting a positive spin on what surrender can mean to your life.) Let's stretch our mind, thinking, perspective and put down some of the fears that unknowingly can leave us stuck in the same place...repeating behavior that is not working for us, and is not truly bringing peace to our soul.
You may rightly ask..."but is not surrender meaning we are giving up, we are admitting defeat and giving away our own personal power" ? Actually the opposite is quite true...Let me try to explain what I mean by this.
When you do surrender it means letting go of the need to be right, and allowing truth and your true self to surface. Putting down your ego, which can be a scary feeling...why? ...because it takes trust and many times we have been hurt by trusting someone. Holding on to the need to be right stunts our own growth , leaving us a prisoner to our own fears.
I do wonder where this thinking that we always need to be right came from? Is that not a God complex ...and I myself would hate the responsibility of having to be perfect all the time. Let us accept that we are "perfect imperfection" and not burden ourselves or others with this need to be what it is not humanly possible to be.
How many times do we find ourselves in a quandary of trying to know what is our best path to take, what decision will bring us closer to what our goals are. This alone is so complex because it means asking ourselves what it is we really want ...what also we hold sacred in our value system must be considered. We do not always have all the answers, often because we are only seeing this from our own point of view.
This is when I normally will allow myself to surrender. Putting trust in being given the answer when the time is right. It can be very hard to do, but somehow it gives me peace to let go and just have faith in being shown the way. Another aspect to this is opening yourself to "hear" , "know", "recognize" when you are given direction.
Surrendering to being yourself, knowing yourself, believing and trusting in your own courage to deal with any burdens which life can bring you... For myself personally, knowing that there is a power stronger than I, which will direct my course if I am able to surrender to this.
In many ways life to me is "a leap of faith"... and I am so grateful to have been given faith...
Surrender to all the beauty life can bring you and rejoice in your "human fragility" ...leaving the need to be perfect to God.
Copyright © 2012 Barbara MacDonald
"If you laugh, let the laughter shake your very foundations. If you cry, become your tears; let your heart be poured out through tears. If you hug somebody, then become the hug. If you kiss somebody, then just be the lips, then be just the kiss. And you will be surprised how much you have been missing, how much you have missed, how you have lived up to now in a lukewarm way." Osho