Although “the final surrender” is frequently used as a reference to the moment when life ends, it is not necessarily about death; change, when it finally occurs, is a process of surrendering that evolves from a physical, mental and spiritual convergence so compelling that it defies description.
The best that can be achieved is learning how to articulate what is experienced on as many levels as possible so that what is being expressed can be identified by others with familiarity that rings true in their own lives.
Putting one’s self in someone’s shoes, a difficult achievement, by listening and setting aside personal perceptions encourages objectivity, but also becomes the basis for forgiveness and letting go of grievances.
A person who articulates things well stands out when they are able to sense what others feel and connect it verbally before anyone else does. This suggests an understanding that enables them to focus and bring out not only submerged thoughts of their own, but also those of others that lie somewhere below verbal awareness.
On the other hand, articulating one’s thoughts, the process of thinking out loud, is risky, and depends on self confidence and trust that sharing perceptions about one’s own experience will not be misunderstood as an attempt to influence others. The goal is not just to convey what is personally observed but also to reflect what lessons one feels one has failed to learn. When this balance is perceived by others, it conveys honesty and allows them to identify the parts of the experience that taps into their own inner thoughts without the threat of being judged or controlled.
This is the beginning of credibility and a time when trust is reciprocated. Others will look towards what has been said and instinctively question their own experiences and come to their own insights with self confidence that affirms insight and encourages change.