I'm not going to pretend that I'm always on your side. Every so often you do get on my nerves, guys. But I must admit, I understand why you say the things you say, and do the things you do (yes, toilet seat included). OK, I'd like to kick off this gig with a little chat about the rather confusing subject of 'being easy' (but not necessarily slutty). Of course, I'm talking about us, ladies. We all know it's perfectly cool for a guy to want to have sex ASAP. It's called 'being charming', right?
Well, lucky you! I praise the outgoing male for being direct, expressing what he wants, "bullsweet" excluded. For those, it's cool if a girl goes 'all the way' on a first date; as a matter of convenience, yes, 'testing the merchandize' and all that life-is-too-short jazz; especially, if you really like the girl (translation: "OMG she's so hot!") It's OK, I get you.
But, guess what? I actually think it's rather charming! I certainly don't see the point in delaying the inevitable, when two adults really like each other. Sleeping with someone, when you want to, doesn't change who you are. When you met him or her, you were already that way; sleeping together isn't going to make you better or worse; provided each satisfies the other one, it would just make you both happier people. And what's wrong with that? My point is, I'm with the guys on this one. If you really want to have sex with someone on a first date, then do it. And I'd even go a step beyond. Invite him, smartly, if you feel like it. Use protection, be yourself and blast one splendid 'session', if that's what you both really want.
Having sex 'too early' or 'when the time is right' doesn't actually determine the success of any relationship. If anything, considering when, or whether, to suppress or unleash your true desires, is the saddest thing I've ever heard. There's a lot of social garbage surrounding the concept of right or wrong, when it comes to creating first impressions. I'm not saying you have to be promiscuous. I'm saying, if he or she fullfils an intellectual connection with you, or there is potential for a relationship (however short or long), what's with the fake protocol? Is it the challenge of the chasing after? Or the ever-so-boring, "I'm a good girl"?
Well let me tell you something, since you care so much about what others think. If you can't keep a meaningful communication, after having had (hopefully) mind-blowing sex with someone, it isn't because you just had sex 'too soon'. When you have commitment issues or insecurities, 'disconnecting' is bound to happen anyways. So finding out that you, either just wanted sex, or you didn't like him or her after all, is much better, when everyone manages to save some valuable time in the process. Besides, holding on to the 'what if' (we would've had sex) feeling isn't really that practical. Yet again, well done for getting on with it, and even for moving on, if that's what needs to happen.
Shy friends, do not worry. I know you'd love to be able to also 'go all the way'. And I'm going to show you a few tricks to overcome the awkwardness of certain moments; ironically, when the time is right; but count on me! And to the, pretentious, judgmental few out there, if you ever find yourself thinking, "She was just too easy", you're being a hypocritical poor representation of the great male. What you might mean is, "Hot, but not girlfriend material." And that's OK, but surely you knew that before you slept with her. So I'd like to think that you actually didn't. And if anyone has anything to say, please speak now or forever hold your... Otherwise, I'll 'see' you soon, on my next piece.