I recently sat down with a friend whom I respect greatly, and as in a lot of conversations with my friends, it always leads to teasing me about my “sunshine and rainbows” attitude towards life. After he got the “jokes” out of the way, he mentioned to me how he respects what I post on Facebook , however, believes that I give people the wrong impression. He went on to say that he believes that by telling people to recognize their own greatness and perfection, that I am encouraging people to “be lazy” and to not do any self analysis or self-work. More specifically, “your posts reinforce lazy people’s ability to live within their own deluded image of self perfection.” Now, having taken other people’s opinions of me over the years to heart, I’ve done my own self-work and have realized that I used to easily get defensive and always had to jump back with something to say when I felt like I was being criticized. I heard it on more than one occasion and have now learned why I did that and have made every effort to work on that. With that said, I took what he said to heart, and realized that if he is getting this message, then that means, more than likely, others are as well. So this article is devoted to clearing up my message.
I believe in the beauty of all of us. I believe that the core of who we are, our spirits, are perfection. I believe that there is no need to compare ourselves to others or try to be like others because we were created in our own unique perfection. When I encourage people to remember this, I am speaking from the place of spirit. When I encourage people to not listen to the criticism of others, I say it from the space if it doesn’t sit in your soul comfortably. I encourage people to see everyone and every situation in their lives as a teacher and lesson. That means that if someone says something to you, you absolutely take it into your being, and process it. Your spirit knows when something sits comfortably there or when it immediately wants to dismiss it. That’s all part of the inner work that I encourage in my posts. A lot of my writing and messages are aimed at people who don’t feel good about themselves. People who have lost hope or the desire for a better life or simply just don’t feel that they are worthy or valuable enough. Of course, most of that stems from that inner child who was criticized, ignored, felt abandoned , or too spoiled or “too anything” that lays the groundwork for future life “issues”. All of those “issues” are what cover up the truth of who I think we really are; spiritual beings living in human form. The part of us that has no EGO. The part of us that sees everyone and everything through the eyes of love. The part of us whom would save someone’s life if need be, without a second thought, even if we didn’t particularly “like” them. This is whom I believe we are at our core. This is what I believe is perfection, worthy and has infinite potential! This is whom I encourage to love, nurture and allow to shine! When we uncover all the “stuff” that buries our light, this is the truth of who you are and whom I speak to when I write.
There are many people who are going to come into your life and show you the truth of who you are, either positively or negatively. We should always be living our life consciously and with the mindset that all of life is a continuous learning experience and the moment we stop learning, is the moment we stop living. So with all this “living”, there is no time for laziness. Laziness equals apathy and when you live from the space of learning, there is no room for apathy in your life. So yes, absolutely listen to what others have to say. Absolutely take guidance from those you respect. Absolutely allow others experiences to help light your way. But at the end of the day, when you push aside that EGO and allow your spirit to truly guide you, and the words or actions of another do not fill your soul with that inner peace that only you know what that is, then by all means, thank them for their love, but be true to yourself every step of the way! That truth is what makes you, you and helps light up every corner of the world! I will end this with what I believe in my very soul and that is: You are love, perfection and greatness and you just have to come to know it. (After self-work, of course.)
Special thank you to Jeremy for being another one of my teachers along my journey.
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