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For the sake of fashion..

by Starbourne (writer), Brooklyn, NY and Cleveland,OH, March 27, 2007


I see it all the time and what can I say? Only in New York. Here I am trying to enjoy the already hard to schedule lunch date with my co-worker when we are blinded by a five-foot three, 200 lb. woman in a mini-skirt and fish nets. Mind you it is all of thirty degrees outside. She is with her boyfriend or/and pimp...not really sure..and can barely maneuver the 4 inch stiletto that she must have insisted on wearing. He looks proud and holds her arm as if to say "This one is mine" but the looks they are receiving imply "She's all yours." My co-worker and I decide to analyze what everyone is thinking and as we walked less than 20 feet behind them the stares of disbelief became our sole entertainment. I even did the ignorant New York shout-out and asked a few of the guys walking by if they liked what they saw. Not ones response was positive. In fact, some of the men commented that even if she were slim it still would not be attractive. It seems as if the woman wanted the attention whether negative or positive. The other women gave her looks of disgust and she obviously could hear the snickers as she strutted by. My co-worker and I wished we had a camcorder because it was truly reality television at its best. No editing needed.

With that being said, it gave me a sense of relief to know that not all men are attracted to trashy women. It felt good to see that mature like-minded humans still existed. True we were downtown Brooklyn and these were all distinguished working people at the time but I have a feeling that even if she would have walked through Marcy Projects (where a fuller figured woman is preferred) the response would remain the same. It was tasteless and uncomfortable for me to look at and she looked uncomfortable as well. It was apparent that she had some obvious unresolved self-issues but where does the line between confidence and offensive begin. How dare she make a mock out of fashion and all that is stands for. I am a plus -size woman (size 16 and proud) but I know that there are guidelines every woman should follow when it comes to fashion. There have been numerous plus-size fashion shows in the past couple of years that have pretty much gave us an idea of what works with our individual body shapes yet and still I continue to see fashion don'ts on a daily basis. There are clothing lines like MonifC and Baby-Phat that embrace women with curves and cater their styles to fit perfectly for all of us.

Yes, be confident but not over-bearing. Sure, wear the latest trends and styles but remember a midriff is not for everyone. Tights are back in style but remember that if you're a plus you should be wearing something over them, whether its a full skirt or a pair of short-shorts is entirely up to you. Wedge heels are hott this season and thankfully, they work in favor off all sizes by extending the leg therefore giving you a longer ,leaner silhouette. Cellulite is not cute unless you are in bed with your significant other. Plain and simple. Bright colors adorned all the fashion week run-ways so dare to go orange or even yellow but stay away from matching head-to-toe outfits. You do not want to look like Big Bird on a Saturday after-noon or ever for that matter. Instead, buy a big bright purse or other accessories that will make the statement. Keep make-up to a minimum. That is why there is day make-up and night make-up. Take the time to learn the difference. How can you expect someone else to take you seriously if you look like a clown. Embrace your curves and love yourself but always keep self-respect as a priority. Remember there are over 8.4 million people in New York, do you really want to be accountable for all those nightmares?

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Starbourne is a writer for BrooWaha. For more information, visit the writer's website.
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